Lately, I feel like someone who has just gone out of the cave and quite bewildered of things around me. It’s interesting how I am at the same time following and knowing trends but also feeling so behind on things. Unlike most people my age, I honestly think I am just a kid and without much responsibilities. Whenever I am talking to them, I can’t relate much and I hate to say this but sometimes I am forcing myself to relate to a lot of people.
Yes, I don’t understand why people have the need to get a mortgage.
I also don’t understand why people have to sacrifice their own happiness for others.
There are many things I can’t relate to but oh well…
At the same time, I think relatability matters a lot when socializing. It is the exhausting part that I have to constantly do once in a while. But being relatable to others can garner a sympathy and increase likeability that if you’re a commoner, it’s one way to survive. Afterall, they say that we’re social beings and I am just trying to live up to it.
Growing up, though I was instilled that everyone is my competition, I was honestly just happy doing my best. So, I never really cared if anyone makes more than me, more successful than me, or have more than me, I think like we’re all here vibing and that’s all there is. But I don’t know how that changed in the last couple of years and how it affected me so much that I started caring about these things and forgot that when doing my best I definitely do well.
There’s this anecdote in my life that I like to remind myself once in a while. Horse wears a blinder to protect them from seeing the chaotic surroundings and helps them focus on their tasks. It helps them achieve their goal on the road or racetrack. I learned about this when I was a kid because I was curious why horses wear blinders and soon, I found out why. This is how I’ve honestly been living my life, I simply have some sort of blinders and don't care much about my chaotic environment & it was for the best. I am content with what I have and my life for the most part. But sometimes, life gets the best of me.
Somehow, there was a point in my life where I felt the need to socialize and relate to a lot of people.
I am by default socially clueless but because I am half street smart and I can camouflage my way in, socialization becomes a lot less of a chore. Still, it’s going to take me sometime to re-energize and going back to society again.
While small talk bores me, I enjoy engaging with people that offer some ideas, a good rant as well as just dark humor. I find it easier connecting with those people than those who don’t. But what I learned from recent elections in the country is that gaining favor and likeability aren’t done by being elitist. Sure, the smart ones would love to be surrounded by academics but that doesn’t guarantee a lot of votes but the one that dumbs down gains a lot more voters. That’s something that I clearly saw from the recent election and reminded me why I have the need to actually learn how to sympathize, relate, and make things a lot simpler. Perhaps changing my worldview and the way I approach things would be a game-changer for my life too.
Recently, I have been contemplating about the opportunity of business with my sister. But I know damn well now, that I need to think 100x before committing to it.
In business, I also learn that, you have to like people to thrive and flourish. Business is about people and when you don’t know them, don’t think about being an entrepreneur. This is why I notice that my dad, who was street smart and knows his way to gain favor from others , was more successful than my uncle who wasn’t really a street smart. That goes the same with my other family members. I think they went the route they shouldn’t because they weren’t street smart enough to own a business. Even for me, I honestly fit in fairly well with an office job and 9-5 than being a freelancer because I don’t do well with people (note : I can but that requires a lot more energy than I am willing to spend).
A lot of the time, I also outsource my marketing to my mom, my cousins or others, while I am dealing with the administration, financing and other spectrum of the business. For ideas, research, and anything that has to do with analytical, I am the expert. It’s something I enjoy doing and executing. So, it’s why I don’t think I cut out of handling sales and marketing because I tried and it never ends well. I won’t necessarily give up the idea of having business but I recognize areas that I definitely needed help and looking for a partner to complement that aspects.
Another confession I’d make today is that I think that as I grow older, sharing stuff online is cringey. In the age where tiktok thrive and people share every pixels of their life online, I felt like it’s all cringe. However, I applauded that everyone has the confidence to go beyond and share their life to millions of strangers online that potentially invade their personal space and privacy. I wasn’t afraid of sharing mine in the past but not sure why I do lately. It’s something I want to change this year too, to be more open and less reserved, here’s to join the cringe!
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I noticed the INTJ tag and was like... yep no wonder the post was relatable. But I had this previous idea that you were like INFJ.
Take this as a sign of maturity where some parts of you have to die to make room for growth. I don't go on facebook because my wall would show shit I've posted years back and thinking wtf was I doing?
I had a lot of people telling me I was either both which makes sense. The older I get, the more everything makes even more sense 😂 Also, I am sure if I kept all of my socials, I would feel the same. But at the same time, it's nice to see some progress and it's one thing I slightly regretted, always having to disappear completely & barely knowing any type of progress.
That's one way of looking at it. Another is entertaining that they now make sense because you are in a situation when it's conducive to make sense. I don't have the right words to describe it but it was difficult for me to grasp depression until I experienced it myself then had a phase when depressive lyrics of a song made sense. Now I'm off that stuff and the same lyrics don't make sense anymore and I should've known this lesson already. I think it's just part of acquiring wisdom where things that made sense now don't and the stuff that don't now made sense depending on where you're in at life. That's progress because you aren't on the same reference point and noticed the difference.
As a fellow introvert, I share your sentiment on talking to people and forming relationships with them. I often hear the advice that if you want to be successful, you have to fall in love with people. But as the introvert that I am, I'd honestly rather not.
It is so out of my comfort zone, but the older I get, the more areas I see the need to cultivate, at the very least, human relations skill. If not for anything, the type of career I hope to have in the future depends on it.
And about sharing your life online and being more open, I'd advise that you do that with caution as well. It can get tricky when people start to feel entitled to knowing certain things about you because you choose to share your life online.
I wish you success in you life journey.
There are many great leaders who are introverted but I am sure to them, it was a huge effort too. I think a lot of us are capable of doing business or extroverted activities but we just have different ways recovering. Honestly, that's also the same with me because a lot of the things we do will involve some type of interaction despite the world is not moving that direction. Thanks for checking out and extra insights!
"I kind of" look at everyone as a business. so although you have to think 100x before committing, I think you should and eventually will start a business.
Haha yeah, I'd do that at some point again. It's like you know business requires a great deal of commitment.
I appreciate the fact street smartness is required, to achieve targets, rather than white collar jobs. That is how one succeed. Personally speaking even Iam an introvert, especially when it comes to exposing our own lives in social media. Maybe due to getting older.
But then we have the key, what to and what not to input. Dear friend, do things you feel good and keep moving on. That will result in good result. God bless you.
Yeah it’s certainly challenging online in a lot of ways to run a business if you are on the shy side, in certain circumstances of course! I think it’s important to maintain online privacy as much as we can - it’s eroding quickly In our physical lives as much as I don’t want it to - so we need to do the best we can to keep it on the online side!
Changing our world view is a good thing and it shows maturity and growing up. We can still act like a kid at heart but with an open world view, we are much better off!