Most men want their women soft.
Unblemished.
Untraumatized (some, I suspect because they want to be the one doing the traumatizing).
Or the very least, soft enough to not become a threat to their masculinity,
but masculine enough to not become a liability.
Same the world over,though it sounds your cultural conditioning is very invasive and debilitating, more so than how I was raised.
Woman can't be too loud because then they are aggressive
or too quiet - because then they are 'mousey' and 'timid'
They can't ask for what they want, because they are too demanding
And people say there's no need for feminism, that woman are liberated 'these days'.
Are you freaking kidding me?
Rise up, sister. You are amazing.
I can only imagine how soul-sucking the world was before. We've come a long way in terms of feminism. But the cultural narrative still plays.