This is a story about my sister’s best friend. I won’t be posting any pictures about it because I don’t have any and even if I did, I just don’t feel it would be right.
The story
Lemme give different names to the characters.
Linda and Fred. They have been dating for the last 3 years and during this period, Linda found out Fred is married with kids and wanted to end the relationship. Fred said he is separated from his wife and in the process of getting a divorce so Linda should give him some more time. During this relationship, Fred usually goes the extra mile to do things for her. There was one incident my sister mentioned that Linda was at her place and she needed to travel. Fred came with his car to drop her to the bus terminal. Everyone close always thought something was wrong some where. I recently found out the man had lost his job some years ago and was depending on the girl for survival.
Any way, fast forward, two weeks ago, she went to his place at night and told him she has realized he isn’t divorcing his wife anytime soon and she wants to end the relationship because she can’t put her life on hold for him.
This is all from Linda’s narration. He told her it’s not going to happen. If he is not going to have her, then no one else will. So he is going to kill her and kill himself. I’ve only heard this line in movies but sadly, this isn’t one.
He took pepper spray and sprayed her eyes then he got a knife and started stabbing her. He stabbed her back several times, her neck, slit her wrist and she has scratches on her face, breast and other places. It’s just bad. She said he kept at it till she passed out, he sprinkled water on her and when she woke up, he continued stabbing her. She passed out and the same thing repeated. He had told her he would be done killing her by 2:00am and the time was fast approaching. She said when she woke up the third time after passing out, she lied to him that she’s two months pregnant so he stopped and said she should have mentioned it earlier cause this is a guarantee that he can marry her. So he started cleaning up the crime scene and told her not to tell anyone what happened. She should just say went was attacked by armed robbers. He took her to the hospital. There’s more but lemme end it here. Before I forget, my sister got him arrested that evening. I would have had more to say had I gone with her for the arrest but I didn’t really know what was going on and wasn’t in the mood to go out.
What I want to focus on is why these things happen. How we are able to stay in toxic relationships till it gets to this extent. Everyone hearing this story said they must have been some signs and I’m sure she saw them and chose to ignore. In one way or the other, we’ve all been through this, not as intense as this but we’ve have relationships that we ignored some red flags hoping it will get better.
I was going through the notes on my phone and came across this quote I had written some time ago. I got it from a movie.
screenshot from my phone
Sadly, this is so true. We are mostly oblivious to what is happening until it’s over and we realize the kind of mess we were in. And it is for such reasons that some people choose to be emotionally unavailable because how can I put my all into a relationship and get this in return?
Just last Friday, I was home and my sister called me to bring some documents to the police station. I got there but they had left and I had to wait for them for about two hours. A taxi stopped at a distance and I was looking to see who was in it. Then the arrested boyfriend came out with his hands cuffed escorted by police. I panicked. I got really scared. I looked down in hopes that he wouldn’t see me. I’ve known this man a little over a year and seeing him scared me this much. I can’t imagine how it will be for the girl. Someone you planned to spend the rest of your life with. Just today I was going through memories on my phone and realized it’s been exactly a year we went on a vacation with them. It was supposed to be a girl’s trip but Linda had to bring him along. No one liked the idea but it’s like those two were inseparable. To think that just 3 weeks ago, my sister went out on a dinner date with them and a week later, she went with police to have him arrested. You can never really know a person huh?
The more I think about this, the more it doesn’t make any sense to me.
I don’t think she can ever recover from this kind of trauma. How will you even give your all to another person after going through something like this?
I didn’t really know how to start or end this post so I will just end it here. Else I would go on and on about it.
Toxic relationship isn't healthy at all. I don't know if I missed out what happened to your friend? She stabbed about multiple times and she was still alive? Sorry for being curious. I hope that the suspect would be fined a death penalty from the damages he done. I can't imagine how the victim's trauma. I hope you would help her to appoint her in the psychologist
Yes. Fortunately, she’s still alive. The doctors said she made it because she is “fat” so the knife couldn’t go so deep. Had she been skinny, she would have died
Oh my God I don’t know what to say.😳
If I read this somewhere else I probably wouldn’t believe. I pray and hope she makes it.🙏
This guy is seriously ill. How can you stab someone you claim to love?
The painful thing now is that she’s going to have this with her all her life which is going to cost her. She’ll look back and will be able to see all the signs now.🥲
I know we’re not supposed to judge but this guy deserves but the death penalty.
No matter how I think about it, it just doesn’t make any sense.
It was just too extreme
Anyway the case is in court now so we are waiting to see how it ends
It really doesn’t add up. I pray the court does the right thing.🙏
Can I unread this please?
Sigh. This world is something else.
I still don’t want to believe this is true. What at all did she do to deserve this ? Life isn’t fair.
I don’t even know what to say.
I hope she’s doing well.
Love is indeed pain.
Even we living with her still find it hard to believe. You just can’t wrap your head around it.
She is doing well but she complains the pain is terrible and the wounds will take a while to heal.
I wish her speedy recovery.
That’s definitely some crazy shit! Damn. People are fucked in the head for sure, I don’t know how someone could do something like that but it’s certainly about power and control with that dude.
My sister is in an abusive relationship but more on the subtle ways and likely emotional. We’ve tried asking leading questions but it doesn’t sink in with her and we flat out told her she’s in a shit relationship but she’s in denial and hasn’t spoken to us much since then. I think one day it will be over and she will hopefully give me a call back and apologize for not seeing it sooner. Difficult to say for sure.
And that’s the thing about these relationships, they won’t see what you are saying because they feel their partner will eventually do better as they expect until it’s too late.
I hope she sees what you are telling her soon and makes the right decision