My experience is generally everything is much more pleasant and smooth if you just use their interests.
Be prepared for pushback from people who don't understand how it's possible to gain understanding of things without force and coercion. Sometimes it takes a hell of a lot of explaining about how even though you mainly follow their interests, there are always unavoidable not-fun things that either need to be done because they just do (like chores, though once they gain enough understanding of why things need to be done they will usually at least do it without fighting even if they won't stop grumbling the whole time XD) or learning tasks to accomplish so they can get on with something they actually want to do that can only be done after doing the thing they don't want to. And sometimes whoever you're trying to explain to still won't get it XD
Have you read @riverflows' post on how the brain works for learning? That will give some back up for those push backs.
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