Hi again, sorry for the late reply and no, please don't apologize for "taking up my time", you aren't, this conversation is interesting and I'm always happy to have a genuine conversation.
I appreciate that you can see why there was a need to implemented rules. There are a lot of people who need rules or they just fill spaces with BS. I haven't been here even a fraction of how long you have, but I've partially read some posts that don't even begin to make sense, and it's not due to a language barrier or translation. Posts like that I can't even finish because they are illogical. I personally wouldn't want those in a community I manage.
Community owners need to be responsible with how they deal with situations like that. I think that what you described was very insensitive and should have been handled with a level of compassion which sounds like it was missing in that instance. We also know that a lot of people talk on Discord behind the scenes and good and bad impressions will move through circles there.
That last paragraph of yours made me laugh, I'm sorry, not meaning it in a nasty way, but it was funny how you described that us old fashioned folk are like antiquities 🤣 the worst part is that it's true. A lot of what used to be considered common decency has been lost over the last two decades.