5 Reasons Why Long-Distance Relationships Never Work?

[prameshtyagi]

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We have been hearing this phrase quite often “out of sight, out of mind”, and it seems to be only proving true in case of the long-distance relationships. It’s like working extra hard for something that’s not required, or for something that you could perhaps do better without it.

These relationships are often confusing, complicated, and takes a lot of trust, grit, and patience to sustain. How many of those species actually exist who has so many positive points in one? Even though you may have the patience to continue, your partner may not. You would rarely find couples who actually succeeded in long-distance relationships, and that too should have been with a lot of hiccups.

Enough of saying that long-distance relationships don’t work! But, why do such relationships fail? Let’s find out..

1. Whoever said that distance makes the heart grow fonder, sure didn’t know the feeling of not being able to talk to your partner when you want to. There are times when you feel low and you wish your partner was around and you could just lay your head on his/her shoulder for support. When that does not happen, for long, all you are left with is frustration.

They may be busy with their work at the other part of the world and it may not be possible for them to offer the empathy when you need it, leading to a failed relationship in the long run.

1. The feeling of insecurity is one of the major contributors to failures in long-distance relationships. While trust should play a major role in any relationship, the logic somehow does not work when your partner is not in front of your eyes. This is especially true in cases where the other partner is socially more active like he/she may love to hang around with friends, colleagues, or maybe even travelling frequently for work. But you, who is rather a homebody wonder if your partner is cheating on you in the name of friendship or office tours. This only leads to heated arguments and eventually heartbreaks.
2. Feeling lonely is a natural thing to happen when your partner chooses to stay far off. You miss the days when you would hang out, go for movie dates, dinners, or would catch up with friends. You start feeling the void despite trying hard to stay strong and make your relationship work. While the arguments with your partner may increase, you may also start falling for someone else and find solace in them, until one day you want to move on.
   
3. The physical presence means a lot than just words, and you start realizing that very soon. Talking or watching each other over the Skype is fine, but there is a time when you need the warmth of your partner, that special touch which you have been missing for long. That “I love You” 10 times a day loses it’s worth when you do not have the real person besides you and the warmth in your relationship simply fuzzes out with time.
4. Staying in constant touch starts becoming a burden over a period of time. It’s all just feels like a fantasy and nothing real. Setting up a schedule to talk to your partner may slowly become an obligation for the other. It’s highly possible that many days he/she may not be in the right mood to talk, but they have to and that’s when the difference starts building up, eventually killing your relationship.
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As soon as you know that your partner has to move outside the city or country without you, simply have a talk and sort it out. If their staying away is more important, probably your presence was never important for them. So be strong, and save yourself from the misery of long-distance complications and heart breaks before even you know.

Comments

[corina]

I really enjoyed reading you post and you made some valid points, although I don't entirely agree with your view. I wrote something about this subject as well.

https://steemit.com/life/@corina/down-to-earth-psychology-can-a-long-distance-relationship-really-work

[prameshtyagi]

liked your posts. followed you

[najninshemu]

really...... @parmeshtyagi your post is nice. you are right loneliness is sooo bad. think is not good. and thanks...... for share

[ireneblessing]

I remember when I was 16 I had a long distance relationship but OMG it was not easy at all, loneliness almost killed me and then after some time I found out that I could not go on with it then I decided to quit it but it was very painful
salute to all the guys there in a long distance relationship

[utkarshvarma]

True

[littlevoice]

"Never work" is a bit of stretch I think. I'm currently in a long distance relationship of 4 years and it's going great with occasional hiccups (which relationship doesn't?).
Sure, it's a lot more demanding but if you love them it's really worthwhile to try and make through that particular time period however long that might be. Nice write up btw.