The fundamental problem with finding out what you really want in life are the sheer uncountable possibilities that are out there and waiting for you. No-one can overlook this and it is pure coincidence that you pick the right choice.
That is why at first you shouldn't look for what you like and want, but for the opposite:
Find out what you don't want and don't like, it's easy
I don't like spinach.
I don't like getting up early.
I don't like driving bike in the rain.
I don't like it when it's too hot.
I don't like smelly feet.
I don't like the thought of spending Christmas with my parents.
I don't like nightmares.
I don't like hearing the breath of other people.
I don't like to hang up my washed clothes.
I don't like buying shoes.
These are 10 things I don't like and it took me less than a minute to come up with them. I am sure, I can come up with another 10 in the same time and maybe another twenty within five minutes. But that's it.
After that things get specific, like "I don't like buying shoes in shops where I have the feeling the sales people are watching me. It makes me nervous and I get the feeling of having to run away." That is one of my specific dislikes and there are many more. But they are usually bound to very specific conditions and they too are very limited in number.
Strangely, there are not that many things we don't like.
Theoretically, there is an infinite number of things we don't like, of course. But when it comes to things, we experience at least once per year, the list is very finite. There are not more than 300 items on it and that's it.
If you don't believe me, try it out yourself. When you go through your day and you come across something that you don't like, think actively "I don't like this". I bet it's not more than 5 different things. The same is the case for a week. Maybe there are 20 moments containing something you don't like. And per month, its probably 50.
Optimize your life: Learn how to navigate around the things you don't like
When I started thinking about what I personally don't like, it took me about two months until I realized, that the most things I don't like a repeating. It was annoying that although I did know that something bothered me, I still had to face it. Some of those things were inevitable (getting up early for example), but other things were my own fault. All I had to do is anticipating them and then work myself around it.
That of course is easier done than said, because it takes time and effort and you have to built a new custom. But eventually, this extra attention blows over as soon as the new custom is established.
For the most part, it is possible to avoid things you don't like. You just have to make yourself aware of them.
Knowing what you don't like is a negative definition of yourself
When you managed to get this far, you won't be a better or happier person or know better what you want. All you know now is what you don't like and how to get around it.
In fact, this state is quite an empty one, because you've removed all negative environmental stimuli and you know everything about what to avoid, but there is a huge gap when it comes to the question of what you want. It's a bit like a snow angel. You've removed everything disturbing from the inside and now there is a silhouette, but you and your life lack in content.
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Thanks for the reminder that finding out who we are and what we want is a conscious choice, it does not just happen:-)