I don't buy the common talking points that incels are misanthropic and misogynistic. Inceldom is a state of complete submission to society and women, except that neither accept incels even at a subserviant status so they grow to resent both. They're like a rejected child that wants to get close to their father but the father rejects them. Eventually that child will hate the father. Incels place women and societal expectations of men on a pedestal that neither deserves. If they weren't social rejects they would be simps. Sure relationships and sexual intimacy are great, they make you feel good, but they come at a cost. There's a trade off for everything in life. These would be simps sit in their rooms complaining about their mistreatment by society and lack of success with women, not realizing they have the freedom to do what ever they want (within legal confines of course). A single man has so much potential. Without being tied down by a relationship and/or offspring he can move wherever he wants, quit deadend/boring jobs, travel as often as he wants, take up whatever hobbies he wants, and with enough legwork become the best version of himself, but not because he's trying to please a woman. He improves himself because it's a reflection of his character. His dreams and aspirations are his own, and he pursues them because it makes him happy, not because he's trying win the approval of women.
I'm not suggesting that single men should be completely self-absorbed. To the contrary I think everyone should live for a cause greater than their own, but you shouldn't become a submissive doormat that let's women and other people exploit you like the guys that always complain about being in the 'friend zone.'