Not having a clue as to this #introduceyourself posting stuff, figured I would go ahead and post my BDSM sub worksheet for those into that sort of thing. At least until I come up with a better #introduceyourself post.
So, while full of vodka and without further ado:
SUB BDSM CHECKLIST
The checklist below is a way for your scene partner to get to know you better. Not all items below are necessarily things that your scene partner gets into, or would be a requirement on your part.
For each item, you need to provide two answers:
1.For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
2.For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.
•"?" means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.
•NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
•0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit your scene partner to do it if it He really wanted it (sometimes called a "soft limit").
•1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.
•2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
•3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.
•4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
•5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your scene partner to know in the margin to the right. For example, under "uniforms" you might have a different fetish for military versus police.
Activity | Experience | Willingness | Notes |
Abrasion | ? | ||
Anal sex (see "fucking butt") | yes | 4 | Versatile so long as taking Cialis. Bareback preferred. |
Animal roles (puppy, pony, etc.) | yes | 4 | I'm a leather dog type of puppy. |
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) | yes | 3 | |
Auctioned for charity | no | 4 | |
Ball stretchers /ball stretching | yes | 3 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Ball torture | yes | 4 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Bathroom use control | yes | 1 | |
Beating (soft) | yes | 4 | |
Beating (hard) | yes | 4 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Being bitten | yes | 3 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Bestiality | yes | 4 | Medium/large canines. No other critters. I don't top dogs. I'm a dog's bitch. I'm not a fistee so fist sized and larger knots scare me. Horses are an interest, but not as a bitch. I lost my anal virginity to a dog so they have a special place for me. |
Blindfolds | yes | 4 | |
Blowjobs (see "Sucking dick") | yes | 3 | |
Body worship | no | 1 | |
Bondage (light) | yes | 4 | |
Bondage (heavy) | yes | 3 | |
Bondage (while sleeping) | yes | 3 | |
Bondage (multi-day) | yes | 1 | |
Bondage (public, under clothing) | no | 1 | |
Boot worship | no | 1 | |
Branding | no | no | |
Breath control | yes | 3 | |
Buttplugs (small) | yes | 3 | |
Buttplugs (large) | yes | 3 | |
Buttplug (public, clothed) | yes | 1 | |
Cages (locked inside of) | yes | 3 | |
Caning | yes | 2 | |
Castration fantasy | no | no | |
Catheterization | no | 1 | |
Cattle prod | no | 2 | |
Cells (locked inside of) | yes | 3 | |
Chains | yes | 3 | |
Chastity | yes | 0 | |
Chastity belts | no | 0 | |
Chauffeuring | ? | ||
Choking | yes | 3 | |
Chores (domestic service) | yes | 2 | |
Clothespins | yes | 3 | |
Clothing restrictions (having clothes chosen for you) | yes | 1 | |
Cock rings/straps | yes | 3 | |
Cock torture | yes | 3 | |
Cock worship | no | 1 | |
Collars (worn in private) | yes | 3 | |
Collars (worn in public) | yes | 4 | |
Cowboys | no | 3 | |
Cuttings | no | 1 | |
Dildos | yes | 3 | |
Domestic service | yes | 2 | |
Electricity (TENS-based) | yes | 3 | |
Electricity (violet wand) | yes | 3 | |
Enemas (for cleansing) | yes | 3 | |
Enemas (retention/punishment) | no | no | |
Examinations (physical) | no | 2 | |
Exercise (forced/required) | yes | 2 | |
Exhibitionism (friends) | yes | 3 | |
Exhibitionism (strangers) | yes | 3 | |
Eye contact restrictions | yes | 3 | |
Fire play | no | 2 | |
Fisting | yes | 3 | Novice FF top. Never been FF bottom. |
Flat-top or other haircuts (specify) | yes | 1 | Master used to do mohawks, etc. |
Flogging | yes | 3 | |
Following orders | yes | 3 | |
Food (having it chosen for you) | yes | 1 | Have dietary restrictions. |
Foot worship | no | 1 | |
Forced masturbation | yes | 3 | |
Forced nudity (private) | yes | 4 | |
Forced nudity (around others) | yes | 4 | |
Forced servitude | yes | 3 | |
Fucking butt (fucking) | yes | 3 | Bareback preferred. Like to breed. |
Fucking butt (getting fucked) | yes | 3 | Bareback preferred. Have issues with condoms (hurt) and certain lubes (burning). Like to be bred. |
Gags (cloth) | yes | 3 | |
Gags (horse-style mouth bit) | yes | 3 | |
Gags (inflatable) | no | 2 | |
Gags (phallic) | yes | 3 | |
Gags (rubber) | yes | 3 | |
Gags (tape) | yes | 3 | |
Gas masks | yes | 3 | |
Gates of Hell | ? | ||
Given away to another Top (temporarily) | yes | 3 | |
Given away to another Top (permanently) | no | 1 | |
Glove play (crotch) | yes | 3 | |
Glove play (mouth) | yes | 3 | |
Golden showers (see water sports) | yes | 3 | |
Group scenes (play parties) | yes | 4 | |
Hand jobs (giving) | yes | 3 | |
Hand jobs (receiving) | yes | 3 | Depends on style of giver. |
Handcuffs (leather) | yes | 3 | |
Handcuffs (metal) | yes | 2 | |
Harnesses (leather) | yes | 3 | |
Harnesses (rope) | yes | 3 | |
Hoods | yes | 4 | I'm a leather dog who prefers playing in pup hood. |
Housework (doing) | yes | 2 | |
Humiliation (private) | yes | 1 | |
Humiliation (public) | yes | 1 | |
Ice cubes | yes | 3 | |
Immobilization | yes | 3 | |
Initiation rites | no | 3 | |
Interrogations | yes | 3 | |
Kidnapping | no | 3 | |
Kneeling | yes | 2 | Not as young as I used to be |
Knife play | no | 1 | |
Latex clothing | no | 2 | |
Leather clothing | yes | 3 | |
Leather restraints | yes | 3 | |
Manacles & irons | yes | 3 | |
Marks / bruises (temporary / just for a few hours) | yes | 2 | |
Marks / bruises (that might last more than a few hours) | yes | 1 | |
Massage (giving) | yes | 2 | |
Massage (receiving) | yes | 2 | |
Medical scenes | no | 2 | |
Military scenes (Army, Air Force, Navy, Marines) (specify) | no | 2 | |
Modeling for erotic photos | yes | 3 | |
Motorcycles | yes | 3 | |
Mummification | no | 2 | |
Nipple clamps | yes | 3 | |
Nipple rings (piercings) | yes | no | Have two. No additonal ones allowed |
Nipple play/"torture" | yes | 3 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Nipple weights | no | 2 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Outdoor scenes | yes | 3 | |
Outdoor sex | yes | 3 | |
Pain (mild) | yes | 3 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Pain (severe) | yes | 3 | If built up to it gradually. Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Phone sex | no | no | |
Piercing (temporary) | no | no | |
Piercing (permanent) | no | no | Both nipples are pierced. |
Prison scenes | no | 2 | |
Punishment scene | no | 2 | |
Rape fantasy | no | 3 | |
Rape (gang-style) fantasy | no | 3 | |
Religious scenes | no | 1 | |
Restrictive rules on behavior | yes | 2 | |
Riding crops | yes | 3 | |
Rimming (oral/anal contact) | yes | 1 | |
Rituals | ? | ||
Rubber (neoprene) clothing -- see also latex | no | 2 | |
Saline injections in balls | no | 1 | |
Scarification | no | no | |
Scat (brown showers) | no | no | |
Scent worship (man musk & man smell in armpits for example) | yes | 1 | |
Scratching - getting | no | 2 | |
Sensory deprivation | yes | 2 | |
Service / serving | yes | 2 | |
Serving as art | no | 0 | |
Serving as a housekeeper | yes | 2 | |
Serving as a waiter | yes | 2 | |
Serving other Tops (supervised) | yes | 3 | |
Serving other Tops (unsupervised) | yes | 3 | |
Sex | yes | 4 | |
Sexual deprivation / chastity (short term) | yes | 0 | |
Sexual deprivation / chastity (long term) | yes | no | |
Shaving (body hair) | yes | 2 | |
Shaving (head hair) | yes | 1 | |
Skinny-dipping | yes | 3 | |
Sleep deprivation | yes | 0 | |
Sleepsacks | yes | 1 | |
Sounds (metal urethral rods) | no | 1 | |
Spandex clothing | no | 1 | |
Spanking | yes | 3 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Spanking (over-the-knee) | yes | 3 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Speech restrictions (when, what) | yes | 2 | |
Speculums (anal) | no | 1 | |
Spitting | yes | 0 | |
Spreader bars | yes | 2 | |
Standing in corner | yes | 1 | |
Stocks | yes | 1 | |
Straight jackets | no | 1 | |
Strapping (full body beating) | no | 2 | Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Sucking dick (blowing) | yes | 3 | I occasionally have issues with fullfilling this role. (Childhood experiences). |
Sucking dick (getting blown) | yes | 2 | Any sensation of teeth causes a lot of discomfort. |
Suspension (upright) | no | 2 | |
Suspension (horizontal) | no | 2 | |
Suspension (inverted) | no | 2 | |
Swallowing cum | yes | 3 | As a result of blowjobs or off of immediately after a jack off. Never done spunk from a bowl, etc. |
Swallowing urine (see "water sports") | yes | 2 | Much prefer it on me, especially a hot stream hitting the head of my cock |
Tattooing | yes | no | No additional tats allowed |
Teasing | no | 1 | |
Thumbcuffs (metal) | yes | 1 | meh... |
Tickling | no | 2 | |
Tit clamps (see nipples) | yes | 2 | clothespins are ok, some clamps, depends on how tight, my tits don't connect with my cock. Best if "edged" and kept hard during the experience. |
Tongue bath / tongue worship | no | 0 | |
Trucks / sleeper cabs | no | 2 | |
Uniforms (specify) | yes | 2 | scene leather, motorcycle leather |
Verbal humiliation | yes | 0 | |
Violet wand (electrical device) | yes | 2 | |
Voyeurism (watching others) | yes | 2 | I want to get involved after watching a short bit |
Video (watching others) | yes | 2 | |
Video (recordings of you) | yes | 3 | When in "pup space", love getting filmed. When in "slave space", don't care about getting filmed. |
Water sports (external) | yes | 3 | Love getting it onto the head of the cock while jacking |
Water sports (internal / swallowing piss) | yes | 2 | |
Wax (hot, dripping) | yes | 2 | |
Wearing symbolic jewelry | no | 1 | |
Whipping | yes | 3 | |
Wooden paddles | yes | 3 | |
Wrestling | no | 3 | I'm a terrible wrestler and would end up being the bitch every time. Which I would enjoy greatly after losing while trying not to lose. |
Other: Pain and sex combination training has not been done in a very long time, my threshold has dropped, and I no longer get an erection from certain pain play as a result. I am interested in being "edged" and kept hard during the various experiences involving gradual build up of pain levels for retraining.
Wow quite the extensive checklist. Welcome to SteemIt!
wow, this is the most comprehensive categorization of human sexuality and fantasy I have read. great work putting it together.
It is actually a shortened list. Try Googling for "BDSM checklist". There are some rather detailed ones out there. Overly detailed and exhaustive.
I am just impressed someone went through the time to write these things down.
some of them, I was not even aware were a thing.
fascinating!