One of the biggest lessons I learned in life about growth is understanding that it can be tough, hard, tedious and 80% of people give up, not because they're weak but because growth can take time no matter how hard or how long you work hard for.
It's been 8 years in crypto for me, yet I'm still hustling to own a real-time business not to talk of being at least financially safe. I've seen a few people who has spent less time and are currently financially stable (Not free).
I beat myself everyday, check myself, try to better and of course, make tht right changes and keep working hard.
One thing we tend to underestimate is the importance of networking.
Most of the time people try to network with those who are way out of their league, hoping they can quickly climb the ladder of success, forgetting the importance of those who are hungry, in their level, and willing to connect with them.
Connection is a value-based effort to truly network, get the regular support you need to grow, but sometimes we try to do it with those who aren't on the same wavelength as we are.
For example, when an older man is trying to marry a younger girl, we we immediately try to see that hidden motives, that's because they're not on the same age range, so there has to be a different driving factor.
This is the same with networking.
When the motive is displaced, growth and genuineness is hardly established. While disparity is networking classes is not impossible, it's always rare.
The reason why people will easily want to mingle with those better than them is because they want to skip the networking at the grassroot level which is a misguided attempted to follow a shortcut.
The people who do not care about your level in a networking process are very few, and they're a massive blessing as well, however there's nothing wrong with knowing and choosing people who are at your level in life.
Relationship like this are no based on ulterior intentions. Also external motivation is very important. Sometimes we cannot motivate ourselves enough. Our attempts to change our lives or make money is not enough. We need some external push.
We all need help, but we cannot jump the line.
For someone who has been hustling for over 14 years I understand the concept of growth and relevance and why growth can not be replaced with something else.
Life is a hard place filled with a lot of unfairness, but it's either you push hard or you are left behind. For me, I've lived the past four years without much acquaintances who could push life-changing motivation into my life.
However I've mostly been out of touch, mourning, dealing with depression, loss and pain. However bills and responsibilities of life do not care, it's either you pay or you sleep under the bridge. When you're sick, no one will pay your hospital bills, and life does not care, it's either you deal with it or move on. Life is cruel, but crueler for some others .
I love where you said, most people try to network with people above their league not realize those who are on par with them can know a friend who knows a friend that have what they need to become successful..
It reminds me of how I joined the hive blockchain, it was through a friend I met on 2go platform in 2012 and we were friends for 5 years, just pure friendship nothing attached, she was a student and I was a teacher trying to survive, fast forward to 2017, she introduced me to the hive platform just two month after she joined and realized there is money to be made…
The thing with people nowadays is they don’t look beyond what they see, your friend that has nothing today can become a billionaire tomorrow … and your friend struggling today can become a business owner tomorrow, we just need to follow our instinct and make friends with people not thinking much of what they have to offer us but then we should be care ful not to make friends with those who will draw us back either…
Trust the process man….
Yes, anyone can easily become something, the fact that they're currently small or struggling doesn't mean they cannot useful to use.
I see this everyday, people neglecting others on their level because they think these people are not useful them..the biggest advantage we have is to actually be aligned with people on our level who have the same driving spirit.
Provided people are like minded, hardworking, we can always gain from them, irrespective of whatever present situation they're in.
People immediately try to change towards you when they think they can no longer get anything from you, or if they think they deserve others who are up there.
This!
We shall be alright, brother
God help us all 🙏🙏
Hmm, the truth is we actually need someone who is above our league to mentor and help us achieve what remains stagnant. We can’t grow if we keep doing the some thing and expect a different results. I understand your perspectives as some people aren't patient enough as they always want to belong and fast track the process to financial freedom but they forget that it is not something they can come by in a day or two. Its all require processes and consistency and perseverance and meaningful connections.
I can say that it is easy to connect with someone you share same value as they won't see you as pest only ready to milk them without any contributions to make. We all have to contribute in order to make the relationships last long and bear frukt
Yes, we need people to look up to, but when it comes to networking, 90% of people above our class will never network with someone that is not within their networking range. Even mentorship comes at a cost, if you're not paying in any way for mentorship then whoever is doing the mentoring stands to gain nothing. Except we're blessed to have the gift of good people.
This is why many people cannot break free, the people who should help them are above their networking range.
This is why I think the power to break free lies in our hands mostly.
Hmm, you are right which is why many do all sorts of things to be relevant. It is not easy to break through in this life. It requires a lot of effort and perseverance and it is something we have to be deliberate about. I realise that nothing is free in this world. Even people that do charity do that for a purpose. It is difficult to see who we do something for you without a cost to pay and can you really blame people? We all have to survive no matter what. It is something we must all do in our own way.
Life is cruel, but it continues on. We need to continue pushing and learning from the mistakes that happen to improve our chances of succeeding. That is why it is good to have some good close family or friends that you can rely on.
Yes, this is absolutely true. That's why I learn and try to share my learning experience here as well.
everyone is trying to upscale, life is a survival of the fittest, it's either you eat or be eaten a place were it's constant thriving no pause no stopping you however must figure out life as you go, this is what adulthood taught us whenever you conquer a level now unto the next relating at your level will feel like stagnation, that's because man is created to be a leader, he always wants to venture into something different and new....
it is growth to always reachout to the unknown
Yes, but while trying to scale you gotta do it with people who are almost on the same levels. Especially if you're growing with people who are hungry and passionate
that's true, it's amazing how hive somehow taught us this... thankyou for the enlightenment
I hear you, life makes us push on because the bills must be paid and no one else is going to help. Even if you don't feel well you have to push forward, no one really cares except you. It's sad that the world is the way it is, but it just is and always has been.
Networking is another thing altogether and has to be done throughout life to survive. No man is an island, and we need others to live. Trying to network above your "class" doesn't usually pan out very well. For example, I have couple second cousins who are billionaires, but they most certainly won't even talk to me about business because I'm not part of that club. Stick with those who can work with you and stand to benefit from your experience.
I hope you are holding together okay, I know life is rough for you. Take care my friend!
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You've talked about these cousins of yours previously and honestly it's saddening. My mother's brothers are rich folks too, but they're mean and selfish people.
The idea of family didn't mean much for them. I think they won't talk to you about business probably because they don't think you're part of it, however because you're some how related, this should have actually mattered, but that's life anyway.
I've mostly taken my financial responsibilities into my own hands despite my illnesses and conditions, and that's why I don't even worry anymore, we won't all make it out alive anyway.
Everyone wants access to the next level, but the strongest growth often comes from building alongside people who are just as hungry and just as committed. Those relationships tend to be more genuine and less transactional.
Yes, building alongside those who are actually as hungry and passionate as you. Someone who's above you, or those their goals differs would not want that.
People try and find the easy way, but in everything in life, people try to skip the queue, try to go with the red light, etc... Go for the big fish on networking is an other example... Usually it doesn't end well for who tries
Yes. It doesn't end well. I think the big fishes wants to associate with fellow big fishes. They were once small as well, and there's nothing wrong with starting small