I HATE YOU!!!
There are couples who hate each other to the point of murder. They did not start that way. In fact, they started as great lovers but years of negligence and taking each other for granted killed every bit of love they have for each other.
Starting your courtship with hot chemistry and romantic love for each other is not enough. Marriage is far more than those "oosh-oosh, I can't do without you" erotic feelings you have for each other. A successful marriage takes God and hard-work. If you are a lazy person, you can't succeed in marriage, it is not possible. You need to work hard at pleasing God and your spouse daily.. You may behave the way you like in courtship and get away with it. You can't behave the way you like in marriage. Married couples can't neglect their duties because they don't feel like. You must be disciplined to do what needs done and be a blessing to your spouse.
When you keep neglecting your duties, you are hurting your spouse. If you keep taking them for granted and doing things that cause them pain and frustration they would end up hating you. No one likes pain, we hate it and avoid it as much as possible.
It's time to turn your marriage around for good. What are the things your spouse is complaining about? Start changing them before you lose them forever.
Your wife can still respect you, your husband can still love you. Love is not free in marriage. You must keep doing things that win her respect and admiration if you want your marriage to be the perfect picture of bliss.
Show him respect and with time his love will return. Show her love and the respect will return. God bless you both. Cheers!