Often times people fall in love with certain mentalities on how a relationship should go. Well here are some myths and reasons why they are wrong.
a) Always be at your best and please your partner especially when the relationship is new.
This is good but you set the tone of a relationship at the onset. Overlooking things that your partner does which upsets you in some way all because you want to please him can only last for a little while. Sooner or later you would be frustrated and not able to hide it anymore. Be at your best but do not hesitate to point out your boundaries nicely.
b) love solves everything
It takes work and conscious effort from both partners to nurture love and let it grow. Love cannot fix everything if there is no understanding
c) Couples in good relationships don't argue
That isn't true, no human is perfect and people have different views. Arguments and clashes are bound to happen but compromise and understanding would strengthen the relationship
d) if he /she loves me, he should know what I need
It's an absolute setup to expect your partner to read your mind. This might work for children but as adults communication is paramount. You must be able to communicate effectively with your partner. Let them know what you like and what you don't.
e) if you're truly happy with your partner you shouldn't be close to anyone else.
This may work for some people but not everyone. Friendship with others shouldn't be broken because of a relationship. Know your boundaries and trust your partner, enjoy mutual friendships.
f) he/she should know what he did to upset me
Your partner cannot read your mind. Love doesn't give supernatural powers. It's easy to tell when a person is sad or out of place but let your partner know the problem. Speak up and do not let assumptions ruin your relationship.
g) if you're in love, passion never fades
That only works in telenovelas and fairy tales. In this real world times would come when the fire is almost not there but it takes effort to rekindle the flame and let it glow.
h) jealously is a sign of true love and care
Jealousy is more about how confident a person is in a relationship and how insecure they are. Jealousy is not the way to show care or love towards a partner. When both lovers are not insecure there would be no need for jealousy.
These are just a few myths and misconceptions about relationships. I hope it helps you to understand more about love life.
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