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The major reason why some people tend to test their fiance or bride is mostly as a result of the lack of trust. They don't actually want to end up heartbroken or deceived by their future partners. I won't say testing is a bad idea though but sometimes what if what we are actually thinking about isn't really true? There are times whereby testing maybe an advantage as it reveals the true nature of such individual which protects us from falling as a prey to such people hands in the future by marrying the wrong person.
On the other hand, feeling lucky you have someone must have shown that such person is really trying their best to make you happy and feel loved. It also shows that such person will be ready to make lots of sacrifice for you and he will surely be with you till the end. In this type of case, you will automatically be happy and feeling lucky due to the special treatment you are gaining from such person unlike other people outside there.
I will conclude by making you know that "true love matters a lot". We should try as much as possible to avoid being deceived by what we see or what we hear.. We actually need to know the real person behind those curves you see, sweet words you hear, beauty, wealth, fame, etc because those things are temporary and they are subjected to changes. Someone who loves you will always make you feel loved and happy, he will also be ready to make lots of sacrifices for you to avoid loosing you.
Thanks for reading and I hope this helps.
I like your answer because you're looking at it from many angles.
The underlying point is that if we love someone, do we love their appearance or something we heard about them, these are liable to change, if those are the reasons for love then our feelings for them will be transient. I feel true love will accept a person as the person is, if they change we should be willing to adjust with them unless love is based on particular conditionalities. True love should be based on understanding, if we don't understand someone or even trust the person then how can we claim to love what we don't fully grasp, I mean can we love what we don't truly desire. A person's character, belief, stature can change for many reasons: if we are not willing to go through the ups and downs of life with them as it's occurring can we really say we love them?