Oh wow I loved the quote.... So powerful.... Oh if all people would think like this, they would control their thoughts, therefore their actions better. I will remember this quote, thank you!
Your story of overcoming your trouble is inspiring. Often the obstacle is inside our mind, because we fear judgement, shame, we are afraid of how people will see us. I congratulate you for the victory, ot definetely shaped you into the person you are now!
I always admire people who overcome adversities. It is easy to blame the circumstances, the people, the poverty, the traumas. But we have the freedom to choose how to react. Nobody can take that away from us, no matter how hard it gets.
My week started great and I wish you the same😊
Thank you and yeah, that quote has meant a lot to me in my life.
I learned not to entertain every thought that flits through my mind, as I read somewhere that a thought is only a thought, unless you clothe it in action.
Once I had beaten that worry about how people will see me, or what they would say about me, my freedom started and it allowed me to do and say anything that I liked. If others didn't like it, then it was their problem not mine. I know that it is easy to say this, but it is not easy to do as we have become so attached to the opinions of others. If they praise us we love them, but if they say anything bad about us then we allow it to eat us up.
But that should not be how life works. If they love you, fine! If they hate you, also fine because they invariably hate themselves. So you forgive and move on!
Yes indeed, we are responsible for and to ourselves and blaming any external circumstances means that we are lying to ourselselves to make us feel better about our own errant choices.
That little word "but" has brought about much inner grief.
"Yes, I loved him/her, but they hurt me me"! or "No, I didn't really mean that, but you made me"?
Or a person has overslept and they are late for work, so they tell the boss; "Sorry I am late, but the bus had a flat wheel"? All beginnings of the rot that starts to fester inside the self.
Say it like it is and be damned or loved for it lol.
Blessings and thank you!
This is so true! Finding excuses is always lame. Apologising and saying but after is a fake apology. Unfortunately those people are so wounded themselves and so oblivious that they lie even to themselves to get through the day.
It is said to wish those who hurt you not to hurt too, but to heal. I wish all people who hurt me to heal. For themselves. For what it will make of them as a person.
Trauma goes through generations. If people do not solve their issue with their family of origin, mom, dad, sisters etc, they will repeat toxic patterns in every interaction. Few realise it. It is not up for us to fix them, they have to fix themselves or live in ignorance, consumed by their own ego and fear.
The main issue that I have here is ego dear Mary.
When ego becomes one's driver, this world presents consistent traps and one falls into one hole after the other.
Of course one also draws fellow egoist's with their false praise.
Sadly during the moments of reckoning those friends become like mist before the sun, they disappear.
Best is to be just as one is, not to put on airs and graces and to avoid bitterness and negativities.
Snide remarks whether orally, or written reflects one's character and bitterness and ego is also often clearly reflected in these remarks. We normally feel hurt when one of these remarks are aimed at us and normally our first reaction is to take revenge. But why and against whom?
I am talking as much to myself as to you here.
Are you going to change a bitter person's viewpoint by attacking them? No.
Are you going to convert an egoist by showing them their faults? No.
Best is then to ignore them isn't it?
I am only telling you my own experiences here and it works for me.
All of us are different and they might not work for you.
I only hope that some of the things that I say makes a bit of sense to you!
They do make sense! Mentioning about friends. I am more than sure that the right people are meant to stay. A friend who walks away in distress, leaving you alone, is no friend at all. A person who brings you down, who doesn't encourage you, who only needs a personal entertainer to fill their void, is not your friend. A person jealous on your success and happy for your sadness is not your friend
I believe true friends are very rare. The best friendship starts with you and God/spiritual higher force. I believe in those two the most.
It matters in life to surround yourself with good people who will support you in you becoming the best version. Ditching negative people is necessary. And we can all do it in a kind way.
I cannot agree more with you.
We call them "fairweather friends" over here and life teaches us about their habits.
I have 5 lifelong friends (had 6, but 1 died) in different parts of the country.
We see each other rarely, maybe at times not in a year or two, but if one calls me, I will go running to his aid and so it is with all of us. Each live their own lives and we love and respect each other.
I have also in the past few years made some good friends with certain people here online.
All of the other people that frequently, or infrequently appear in my life, I call associates.
True friends are indeed rare and you are right in my opinion, as if God is the foundation of a friendship, then it stands every chance to grow into a great bond.
Yeah, again agreed as in business, true leaders make others good leaders and in general true friends build each other up. They are happy at your achievements and continue to spur you on.
Kindness do indeed float our boats.
Thank you for the interesting chat here!
Yes, associates is a good name. I call them acquaintances. Some people come into our lives to teach us a lesson, some stay for a longer period of time, some for shorter, some stay forever.
I enjoyed this quality conversation too! Thank you😊
Acquaintances is indeed a great way to describe them my friend.
And for sure, some of them leave footprints in our hearts.
Glad that you also liked the conversation.
Blessings!