The technique in teaching your child to do what you want them to do by choosing to do it themselves is simple.
- Example 1: What to eat for dinner?
Always offer your child at least 3 options that they like and are also ok and possible (ingredient wise) with you.
- Mac & Cheese with Brocolli?
- Hamburgers & Fries with corn on the cob?
- Meatloaf, mashed potatoes and steamed carrots?
With each choice your child makes it reinforces their confidence, esteem and individuality.
- Example 2. So, What do you want to do today?
- Go to the Beach?
- Go Hiking?
- Go Fishing?
Let them choose. That choice is what makes them believe they are in charge.
Conclusion:
So if you want your child to do what you want them to do? Offer them 3 or more options that you desire and you will begin to get the results you wish?
"Patience is a virtue"
My ex-wife used to get pissed-off with me.
She would say; "Tristen tellls me you let him do what ever he wants when he's with you?"
I would explain to her; I give him 3 choices all choices that are ok with me Tristen chooses and thus believes he is making the decisions.
this works! makes them feel included and that they're making their own decisions.
Hey nice suggestions. Even I being father of twin daughters do worry about what to make them eat and what not! Also being from India and a vegetarian have to think a lot about right options. I found a good friend who can suggest something useful. Surely follow you. Thanks