Aw, did it help a little? I've been really missing Dad a lot, and I'm sad he never got to see me move to the coast. It doesn't help to hear that 'he probably knows' or 'i'm sure he's there with you' whatsoever. I did have a dream the other night when I told him I'd moved, and he seemed pleased, but didn't come over to see it. I'm hoping next dream I can show he around. Mostly I get fucking angry he's gone and miss him awfully.
Hi @riverflows It did help. It is hard to go through big life events and not have our parents by our side like they were for all our lives. That is great you dreamed about your dad and got to see him. I would really love to see my parents. I treasure all the pictures I have, of all those I love.
I always desperately want to dream of him as he is sooooo present and ral in my dream. After he died it took ages to settle on a memory of his physicality my brain was happy with, so I couldn't even recall really how he looked. My first dream solidified that - he was around 60, pre illness, younger than he was when he died. I've had four dreams in 18 months. I wish I had more. Perhaps it's because I think of him so often in waking life I don't dream about him. I hope you dream about them soon.
I tend to just imagine Ive spoken to Dad. That helps. Or tell him things whilst I'm driving alone. I know I'm talking to myself but it helps. Or I just imagine what he'd say and say it aloud to Jamie in present tense like 'Dad loves this' or 'Dads here' ... Jamie gets it. He misses him too. I have come to treasure thinking about him and missing him as it feels like he is here. Better than his complete absence.