we must change ourselves. All of the things we don't like about ourselves and all of the reasons we convince ourselves that things are not possible will then promptly meet us for a discussion about how drastically unprepared we are for this undertaking.
Most times, the more we want to change ourselves and remove the reflection imbibed in us by our environment and society, it's the more we sink into this mire.
Most times, we watch as observer, when our real self take actions that does not really define who we are inside.