I agree with you on each point outside of one thing. The girl who wrote that note did it with a vindictive tone. There is a point when its too far in the direction of lumping all people with a similar attribute together only to say "they are all the same, and they are evil" That's when it goes from saying "this is how I feel and I understand its irrational" to "Be warned my comrades in arms"
At that point its just something a guy like TJ can make fun of, and he did.
Someone who understands that it is trauma is on a completely different tier in this case. You are not even close to the person TJ made fun of.
That's a matter of perspective. We don't know her. We don't know what she's been through. All we know is that she either lives in hell, constant afraid for her life, or she feels the need to spew random radfem ideals to feel belonging to a group. Vindictive? I didn't get that from her text.
Remember that the next time you lump all feminists into a "supremacist hate group". :)
I don't know if I'd make fun of her. But that's because I am, in a way, "closer" to her than I am to TJ. From my perspective, she is suffering and miserable and needs help and support. Making fun of her feels a little like making fun on a person in a wheelchair standing in the middle of a square screaming "I can't walk!!!!". And it doesn't matter if she put herself in it. She's ill and living in hell and my heart goes out to her. No one deserves to live like that. No one.
That's an extremely dangerous mindset by the way. Moral relativism yada yada.
I don't care either. I just know from a non relativistic standpoint she doesn't fit in society. And she is definitely not the kind of person worth much time.
I am not lumping anyone into any groups. I am explaining the flaws of well known and established ideologies. To me, its very hard to see a difference between different forms of extremism.
I think its important for society to start being more honest and just completely blow people like this out. I am 100% done with caring anymore about peoples feelings or extravagant extremist ideologies. Its dangerous and wasteful. Its also more damaging for her. If everyone races to coddle her when she behaves that way it will teach her that she can get what she wants from behaving that way.
Yeah I am done with that kind of crap personally. We need to be less agreeable and more abrupt with each other. We need to be blunt and we need to start doing it now.