You've talked about a number of ways in which people manipulate each other through nonverbal behavior. Most of this is just self-evident to any person who has ever had prolonged contact with people. And yet it seems these kinds of self-evident observations are difficult to state in the PC culture we live in right now. How, for example, would a feminist interpret the following?
Because usually people never know as much about their own nonverbal behaviors as do the people with whom they are interacting.
Our social lives are so much based on nonverbal communication, that they would be almost impossible without it. And yes sometimes people communicate things they are not aware of. But dare a man say that a woman was sending signals, even if she didn't mean them that way, and that what was later interpreted as "harassment" was a direct result of that? This kind of defense is not even allowed in our current culture I think, and the fault is always laid squarely on the man's side. (Note that I've never been inappropriate with a woman! Or a man! I just suspect that these kinds of things can happen, yet their possibility is unacknowledged by many.)
I understand your point but that's why it is an interpretation :)