Abi Abi is here again. I might get used to this your pre-weekend posting schedule. You are somewhat of a santa claus, whose package, I and a lot of people always anticipate and expect. I trust you and your family are good, Abi?
As for your post, it is really remarkable what communication and care can do for our little ones before they grow up feeling unloved and uncared for, and even grow to become monsters and menace to society.
I don't have such a troublesome child at the moment...thankfully. But I've seen families that do, and something I've really noticed in such families is the lack of attention that such children often get from their immediate family or parents.
In most cases, the lack of care, direct communication and attention is what pushes the children to act out. In some other cases, the few negative actions of the children, make their parents distant their love, affection and communication from such a child. And this is somewhat pathetic, because it can only get worse from then on.
Truly speaking, from my observations of the families with such challenges, there isn't much communication between parents and the child. And a lack of communication doesn't even create any opportunity for trust and understanding to be built. Plus, things can not be resolved from lack of communication and attention for such a child.
A case is the way you handled Lily's persistent search for attention......by simply and lovingly communicating with her. By all means, if all little ones are talked to and treated as such, there might be less troublesome and radical 7 year olds or children in our society.
A loving communication between parent and child is key. Discuss with them, share in their worries, questions, uneasiness and discomforts. I kind of believe that such a close bond and cordiality with the babies would mold them into better composed and behaved children, as they grow up. Also, setting a good example of the expected and required behaviour both at home and in public, is the obligation of parents too. We can't expect them to be what we are not. Neither can they emulate good behaviours from us, if we ourselves do not exhibit or have good behaviours. Using curse words on our kids too is a no-no........
This is turning into a mini post..........I better drop my phone. Lolz
A lovely weekend to you and yours @abigail-dantes. Love you loads.
@rickie !!! 😍
What a wonderful mini-post you left me here. Thank you so much :)
Absolutely, I could not agree more with you. You said it all : Communication, love, discipline, good role models. It is truly no easy feat to educate and prepare a child for the world out there. Much less when mum and dad work full time and feel constantly tired.
However, the understanding of doing it from early on it helps everyone in the long term. It is a lot easy to communicate and shape the behaviour of a 2-4 year old, than 7, 10 a teen! If mums and dads out there only reflected about this....
Well, your children are truly privileged for having a loving father with such incredible insights. Again, thank you for sharing them with us here.
We are all fine over here, enjoying the warm weather! Oh, by the way... I think I love you more Ricke 😘
I wish only the best to you and your family :)
Lolz....Nah! I love you more @abigail-dantes 😂. Best of the weekend to you once again. Thanks for the great post and the reminder of why we should spend more time and pay more attention to out little ones.
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