Why There Is No Such Thing As Love

in #psychology6 years ago

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It is not everyday people experience something that is exactly what they have been desiring for or even more than what they wish for, and I am referring to those encounters we have with other people. A lot of people could be interesting, but not all of them could make you feel something so strong, and cut the romantic crap, this is not about love. This is about soul. Sure, we're not even sure if souls exist but I do know that it could at least be a feeling more present than the definitely non-existent love.


It's Not Love


There is thus no anger; there is only acting angrily , or feeling angrily. Anger is feeling in motion to some other "state". - Nature, Man and Woman by Alan W. Watts

If a labeled feeling like anger could be described as such, then perhaps you could now see that the universal concepts of so many other things like love has been keeping you a little blind for a while now. "All you need is love" is so broad a concept that it actually doesn't give you an idea of what you really need. When people hear this, they get a notion that they should get out there to get attached or be with someone, yet here is the reality that there is no love but just a feeling in motion to some other "state".

What people need is the excitement of meeting someone and tapping into their soul which in this context means the energy they give off. This could be considered falling in love, but it isn't. People have to see it for what it really is--a mental foreplay. And that is one strong feeling in motion with a state you could feel tickling your entire body.

I remember someone once told me that if he were to see a woman everyday, the woman would end up having love to take with her. As a person with commitment issues, that would have made me cringe but it merely made me think. I thought that it's very clear that the label "love" has complicated the fact that what this man simply wants is to have someone maintain a soulful gaze for him that would benefit both of them whether sexually or just in the aspect of companionship. We all want to be looked at by a passionate person and not necessarily by someone who has a passion for us, yet many people fail to realize that and just mess things up with unrealistic expectations and silly ultimatums.


I Love You, But What Does It Mean?


When members of a family, friends, or lovers exchange I love you's it could mean a lot. Love is like a collective term for care, trust, honesty, loyalty, etc., and I hate it when things get grouped into one whole category that narrows down everything into absurdity. Love in that three-word phrase means a lot as in a lot of things not meant to be expressed that bury the main idea wished to be delivered. This issue might be a linguistic case, but the way people submit to the growing demands from the unwritten terms and conditions of this label is a bigger case.

No wonder "But you said you love me!" is such a big deal. There are simply too many interpretations of the label that could shake even the truest of all loves. There is no love, just a bunch of other "states" we associate with the general concept of it.






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very nice and informative post..i like you

Love is really a good thing

splendid & accomplishment!