Sometimes what appears to be laziness is lack of confidence, but that doesn't excuse rudeness when asking help!
I see a paradox in applying to be in a Utopia because the process involves judging and grading people. Sadly, sociopaths and narcissists tend to be the best at promoting themselves!
I would therefore hang out in the real Utopia with the rejects and the wise people who refused to apply.
Hahah...I'd totally be ok with those that got 'rejected' actually being the ones to get in.
However, if you watch people that don't know that they're being watched...you get a much better idea of the real self. But to get into this...it'd require a whole post of it's own. Lol