Sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now :-( Sending you positive thoughts and a heap of hugs. I do hope you can stay strong through this and if you need to lean on the community as a sounding board, you should. Writing in and of itself can be very cathartic. Have you considered whether an official crowdfunding campaign for your shoulder op or for your friend's little boy may be an appropriate approach, if affordability is an issue at this point in time? Many people in similar situations to you have been able to get through a particularly dark time with the kindness of strangers. Thank you for sharing your story and more of the pictures from your world :-) All the best.