WE WERE TOLD: MYTH vs REALITY

in #relationslast year

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We were told that men are afraid of strong, smart, and independent women. We need to act like a girl, be weak and feminine to attract a real man.
⚠️It turned out that weak men are afraid of independent women who they cannot manipulate. A strong man doesn't see competition in a strong woman, he sees support and a partner.

We were told that a woman is responsible for the atmosphere in the family. We need to be gentle, affectionate, sensitive, and responsive - and then the relationship will be harmonious.
✅It turned out that both partners are equally responsible for the microclimate in the relationship. Neither of them can create harmony alone.

We were told that a true woman is wise and patient. She doesn't expect a perfect man here and now; she patiently raises him herself.
👌🏻It turned out that a woman can want a caring, attentive, and loving man here and now. She may want a rich, tall, specific car-driving man with a house in Monaco. It's her inherent right. Parents should raise a man.

We were told that a real woman is not left, cheated on, or betrayed. You need to be a real woman - and then you will have a faithful man.
❌It turned out that partners can cheat, leave, and betray. We cannot control the thoughts, feelings, and desires of another person. Neither love nor family nor responsibility will keep a partner from cheating.

We were told to treat our partner the way we want to be treated. If you don't get enough attention and love - give more, then you will receive more.
⚠️It turned out that good treatment of another person does not guarantee reciprocity. You should give as much as you are willing to invest in the relationship, but don't deplete yourself if there is no reciprocity.

We were told that good treatment, respect, trust, and love need to be earned.
‼️It turned out that it is not necessary. If a partner demands that you earn something from them, it means they are initially putting themselves in a higher position. There will be no equal relationship in this case.

Listen to yourself and your desires. Live your own life. 🤍