I’m Jake. I’m 40. I have worked in 13 countries, learned communicative fluency in 7 languages, authored a memoir, interviewed 1000s of people across the globe, and introduced 53 products to the marketplace.
I’m weird. I’m eccentric. I’m passionate. I’m strong.
I’m divorced. I was an excellent husband and I am an excellent father.
Yet, in my artistic aspiration for near perfection, I have some very serious, fundamental flaws. Despite my best efforts in trying and trying and trying my entire life to see the world with optimistic and objective eyes, I did it all wrong. Though I claim to be a true man, everything I have worked for since a young boy has drastically backfired.
Men, are we man enough to be Kings? By birth, we have one gift permeating all our rights on this earth - To show and express love. Innately, we physically and emotionally protect, exhibit strength, carry burdens, enforce chivalry, exceptionally father, and pedestal our women. We are the ambassadors of objective, situational logic.
Ladies, are you deserving to be Queens? By birth, you have one gift permeating all your rights on this earth - To be loved. Innately, you warrant chivalry, respect, gentility, and emotion. You have the right to fall into a ball on the floor, then be pedestaled by a man. You are the ambassadors of subjective, ambiguous, and insane emotion.
Ladies, we want nothing more on this earth than to make you happy. In bed, at home, on dates. We want you to understand we have not yet been fully educated on how to do it. We spend countless hours studying ways to become exceptional financial providers; we hunt, we kill, we deliver. Yet for millennia, we have missed our ability to fully show and express love. Most of us can only manage 3 tracks of responsibilities at a time.
Guys, our ladies on the other hand, can manage 22 different tracks of responsibilities at any given time. They clean, cook, mother, feed, wash, bathe, groom, shop, work, sleep with one eye open, instill protection, apply makeup, dress up, exercise, worry, fret, nag, harvest, sew, iron, launder, and beg. They are stronger than any other life force on earth, save one - Us.
We are just as strong; physically, mentally, and emotionally. But how do we viscerally surface these strengths?
Logic will never win over emotion. Ever. No matter what words of logic we cast at emotion, it will not win. The ‘happy wife, happy life’ adage misleads us to think we must cower to our ladies’ demands and wishes. No. We do not cower to our ladies’ demands, wishes, and flip outs. We support them. We hold them. We cuddle them and coddle them. We protect, pamper, and indulge them. We commandeer the charge to work it out together with them. It is our gift; we must bear the responsibility to learn to carry almost all the weight. As protectors, lovers, and providers, it is our gift to show compassion even when their logic might be six different ways from sideways.
While marriage does take work, the souls of our girls already, instinctually have a reserve of energy to make relationships succeed. They buy books, read articles, and constantly beset themselves in front of friends for relationship advice.
Men, our relationships toward our ladies requires fulfilling work. When she is screaming at you at the top of her lungs, it is our choice to shut down and cower, or to stand up and face their right to wield the sword of perfect emotion. All they want to do is vent; let them.
Every single woman’s heart expresses a deep desire to one day be treated like a Queen. It’s not their fault we do the laundry poorly or buy the wrong brand of hamburger. We have not taken the time and effort to study the minutia of how they manage the array of craziness in their hourly struggles. As an equally strong gender, we must learn to extract our strength. They need us more than anything. And as daughters of the Life-Giving Universal Mystery, the holders of sexual prowess, horniness, cramping monthly visits, hormones, gestation, child bearing, menopause, and 22 insanities, we must learn how to achieve more.
We must give them the gift we genetically own to hold them when they are a tattered mess. For they do not and never will have the power to let go nor change their emotions. No matter how hard they try, no matter how much scientific logic we throw in their faces, they cannot sustainably do it. This is their perfection, their crazy…their exquisite beauty. It is what draws us to them after all.
Our ladies are the ones shepherding life-altering emotion into this world, the very emotion both of us so desire. So let them be right, even when they are wrong. For in their perfect and senseless emotions lie fundamental truths, “Dear life partner, carry me and my confusion to glorious heights. Make me the center of your world. Hold me higher than any standard you have ever dreamed.”
Words hurt. Words kill. Words precede slaps, kicks, and cannon fire. Words blast more condemnation to us humans than any other element in our world. Words, ironically, do unspeakable damage.
But we mustn’t bow our heads in shame when our ladies berate us. We mustn’t walk out to the other room when they are seething. We must chase them. They will push and kick back. Yet we must still chase them. We have to lead them to know their feelings of wanting almost near perfection in their King are more than valid. We demand from them they are not allowed to berate us. Then we rectify our behavior by learning to achieve the majestic Kingship they so rightly deserve.
It goes beyond listening. It goes beyond understanding. It requires incredible emotional strength, reaching deep down, further than we have ever reached before; then reaching even further than that. Then reaching again. It will destroy us, exhaust us, and chew us up into little pieces. But then, in the moment we are about to break, guess who will be there to stare into our eyes in the middle of the night and tell us how amazing we are?
In that one split-second, we will have earned our Crown.
Deep inside most of us know that you right. But this days that is not the way we should think about this issue. Main stream media and governments try to convince us to opposite. Both genders have his own role in society and both are different but same important. We should be proud of our different tasks we have in lives. Current path is not good for man kind.
This is dangerous. This is how a woman ends up believing she can do as she wants without consequences. Your crown does not depend on her approval. You are not a fool to do tricks for her entertaiment. Masculinity and femininity compliment each other, recognizing this is important, recognizing how the other gender contributes, it's called gratitude.
Putting women on a pedestal weakens them, they are blind to the harsh reality of men, some of them have even come to think men are in some sort of conspiracy to hurt them.
I was born female, now I look male because I've taken hormones to change my looks. I got to see the other side from the other side and let me tell you, a lot of women are abusing men and most men are letting them because they share your gratitude.
You are right, you couldn't possibly compare to the zillion things going through her mind. You are no match. But not because she has great power it means she's going to use it correctly. There is danger in believing power equals to its benevolent use.
A lot of women think men are just going around trying to make themselves happy no matter what, no matter if they hurt women. It's easy for them to believe this, even I came to think this at some point. But then I saw the truth, I saw that men's love for women was such that if women tell them that they don't like the color of the sky they will get together to change the color. However if women tell them that they don't like the sky, men will get together to destroy the sky and most likely will.
Gender roles are not bad, what is bad about gender roles is how often they are seen as mandatory rather than optional. Gender roles in most of the way they are composed are suggestions about what each sex has better chances of being good at, but this is not true 100% and it never will be. Some people fight the mandatory aspect of the roles because they know they can't reach 100% and feel like they've been set up to fail. Some gender roles have no basis on biological reality, that's something else to keep in mind.
You are expressing the feeling I've seen most men have, despite how many women may think that men think they themselves are superior, in my experience this is not the case.
Maybe we should look at animal kingdom. And learn from it. No speculations and manipulations. True nature.
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