I have more thoughts on this topic, but at the time I published this post they didn't occur to me at the time. It's not a fun topic for anyone, but we have to deal with it when it arrives in some form or other. I just wanted to get across that we can grieve for a time, but it should be as short a time as possible.
Also, if our loved ones are watching us, they do not want to see us miserable and holed up in our rooms bawling our days away; they want us to get on with our lives and find whatever happiness we can even as we remember them. No one likes a basket case, not even the dead. So we keep moving forward as we live our lives.
I agree completely. I didn't really process my emotions when my grandma died a few years ago and the grief just hung with me. Now I know how important the grieving process is. We can't just shove the emotions down.