Someone called me a few days, but I wasn't fit enough to pick up their call, when I called them back at night, I told them I haven't been well for over 5 weeks, and I just got a little bit better to use my phone.
After feeling sorry for my situation, that went ahead and started telling me about how their father was in hospital and unconscious and how they had to spend about two weeks in the hospital, caring for him and how they're practically broke to the teeth.
I know this person quite well, we went to college together eleven years ago, (I dropped out, but they went on to graduate) we weren't exactly that close, but after graduating, they started helping I and one other friend to do a few things, so that was how I reconnected with them.
While we probably only talk once in 5 months, I still hold them dear to heart. Unfortunately this person has been having financial problems for a while, and most times, I try to help in ways I can.
After listening to their story about their father, I was moved and wanted to send them some money, only to realize I actually don't know when next im going to get paid for the jobs I've done previously, since I didn't have any decent compounding income, I'm mostly concerned about spending money as they come. So I promised I'd give them some money when I get some
I have hospital bills coming to pay in a few weeks time and a expensive medications to buy thereafter. I'm the guy who likes to help, I just hate it when people are in need or suffering, unfortunately I can't even pay my own bills.
I'm not fit to hold down a solid 9 to 5, basically not healthy enough to do heavy jobs, but I still don't have a handicapped mindset, I still believe I have the capability to give, but somehow, for someone with such a mentality, my body gives up on me when I don't expect it, and somehow this makes me disappoint people without even planning to.
Either I'm out or I can't meet up, or I make a promise to come through and eventually I couldn't.
It's unbelievable but that's life, a lot of things is dependent on what happens to your body or mind. Without being fit or healthy enough, there are many limitations that stares you in the face, and this is really hard.
The mind might be strong but the body is weak, or vice versa sometimes you need a clean slate to function: come through for people, help them and maybe build transactional relationships. Unfortunately I no longer try to explain for being absent because sometimes people don't understand, this is fine.
I just finished going through a few of your posts and all I can say is that you are a good fighter. Some of us have not been through a quarter of what you've been through yet we are tired of life and wish to end things up.
I admire your good heart, courage and strength. I must say, you just inspired me I'm not gonna lie. Thanks a lot. ❤️
it's just normal, I was telling a friend this same thing, it's okay to help but first be atleast stable enough to extend that hand, yeah people will say all sort of things but wave that, it's like trying safe safe someone who is drawning if you're not careful you too will drawn ...
it's totally fine. don't feel bad about it ... at this point its you except you've got some phone calls that can safe the day
You are indeed a strong man,the Lord is your strength,I miss reading your content though,just getting back on my feet as well and I know how it feels to be indisposed,I pray may God perfect your healing ijn
I think for how things are, it's better to save up money for yourself, medicine and food need to be paid, medics want their money and if you aren't well, you can't help anyone you want... I feel you are generous if you can, but now it's time to think for you, it's a delicate moment, get in track before extra giving
Hello Jose 😊,
It's really not easy to look away when a friend is in need. I hope you get the courage to put your own needs first in this situation as you also have your own medical bills and then reach out to help with the little that you CAN (and only if you can) without compromising your OWN needs.🌹
Stay strong bro.
One can't predict how their life will turn out even the next minute. We only hold on to hope that life will always treat us well, unfortunately, it doesn't.
In the past you've always strived to help and support your friends in whatever way you can, but now that you're unable to do so, don't beat yourself up. Being a deadbeat friend wasn't what you signed up for - but life happened, and there's nothing you can do about it, at least not now.
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It's tough, but I think that is the right choice. Your own situation is more important, but you can go back and help him when your situation is better.