As someone who's just starting out (just published my 2nd post), I can see why so many people find it frustrating. Especially if you choose not to use promotion/upvote bots.
I signed up because I enjoy writing and getting my ideas out. If someone likes them, well, that's great! If someone likes them enough to support it financially, that's even cooler!
Think marathons. Sprinting won't get you anywhere.
That's a great mindset to have sek3!!! As long as you keep staying in your own lane and keep leaving thoughtful comments, and posting quality content, the right people will begin to gravitate towards you :)