this whole thing you just said, don't make sense to me.
It's up to him if he wants to stop trying and give up,
but it's not a very social thing to do. that's not how the world works.
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this whole thing you just said, don't make sense to me.
It's up to him if he wants to stop trying and give up,
but it's not a very social thing to do. that's not how the world works.
I told him to stop dealing with people who are assholes and who have no sympathy for his position.
I told him to find different people to hang out with, because the ones he's associating with her clearly not making them happy.
That is the very definition of a social thing to do. Don't hang out with people who are toxic. Don't hang out with people who don't understand the things that you want in life. Don't expose yourself to the opinions of people who don't matter.
Do the work. Love the work. Go find people who will also love the work.
Anything else is masochism. And while I know some masochists who are really cute and like a good beating now again – you don't have to. You can choose differently.
I guess you're right, But I say we change the way they think. Meanwhile, keep doing the work. love the work, and be open to other people's opinions. that's how we improve. a feedback is always a good thing, even from assholes.
Well – I suppose I could shoot them right in the forehead. That would serve to change the way they think real quick.
Short of such radical intervention, there is no way to change how they think. In fact, it's arrogant to think that we could or should change how they think. That's not our place. That's not our job. The moment that we arrogate the belief that we have the right to change or they think we allow them the same right to behave in the same way to us.
I'm really not down for that.
So – we're back to "fuck those guys and their opinions."
Feedback is not always a good thing. In fact, quite a lot of feedback is wasted time and wasted effort to read. It's kind of amazing how that happens.
No, if you find yourself falling into a nest of toxic serpents, don't try to sweet talk them out of their delicious venom – crawl out of the hole and go down the street to the nearest bar where at least you can have a pleasant drink and the chance of going home with a hooker.
Unless you're into snakes. In which case – go to a snake bar.