No bother, I'm happy to try and answer sincere questions...
Simply put, I don't really know? What you are doing is certainly important, and keep it up. I feel similar frustrations even after being here for almost two years now.
I think the best advice would be to look for some whales that you have genuinely shared interests with, and cultivate a relationship with them.
We all have the problem that there are limited hours in the day, and it is difficult to add "new people" to our set of folk that we interact with...
I wish you the best!