Great Post with the unwritten rules of the game that in my book is called: Have Respect for Others. Act in social media how you would act in real life. That is not throwing all your own stuff over to the other side. Many (new?) Steemians seem not to get that.
You write about commenting, I already wrote about how aggressive promotions of posts are done and the do's and don'ts. I get many private chat messages, with user publishing just their posts link, or sometimes they add something like "I'll vote for you if you vote this post". Although I engaged with them in chat before, explaining that this is not the way to do it, it becomes so much, that I just started to ignore those chats.
BTW, I dont link any old posts, if you like my comment, you can decide yourself if you like to go to my page and look at my posts :)
Regarding voting for comments: Yes! I really like to do that, and I generally upvote all comments. However, this leaves me with only small voting power for all comments and I want to start giving good comments 5 to 10 times more power than the rest. So I shall start not voting for "Thank you"and "Great Post" comments anymore. Still difficult to put to practise though, since I started voting for comments to show appreciation for reading my post (maybe they didn't, but I generally assume they did) and taking the time and effort to place a comment. But yeh, if the comment is very generic, not really something that starts engagement, the value of such comment is not that much and compared to meaningful comments maybe even less.
Lately I also notice quite a few comments to my posts but no upvote of the post. Somehow, I don't mind it, but on the other hand I find it quite rude; Especially when some post is promoted or a statement to visit their page is included in the comment.
The funny thing is that in my first months at Steemit I got so many more votes than views on my posts; Now it is completely the opposite: I noticed one of my recent posts having more than 250 views and only 50 votes. The World Upside Down within 6 months (I started in Jan'17 at Steemit). LOL
Super Post You Created and SO TRUE