Sometimes I wonder about why I go to extremes...all or nothing; do well or don't do it... I think it's partly my personality but then I have to consider the jobs I've had in the past: food service - get an order wrong and they don't come back; obituarist for a daily newspaper - get it wrong and it's wrong FOREVER in the archives.
Even with my oldest son. He was assessed with Asperger's. Say one wrong thing and he's learned it wrong. Period. Always the pursuit of perfection...and severely imperfect.
That was quite a ramble, eh?
Our middle kid (29, boy) is a mild Aspie... most people wouldn't know it, except for when he has to learn new things; everything has to be introduced in a very specific order or it just goes in one ear and out the other... it has been a challenge for him at work, but once he knows something, her tends to be in the top 1% of whatever company he's with.
My son is 22 and has yet to embrace his "Aspie-ism" He's still angry at the world and angry at me but refuses to take any kind of ownership for finding joy. He thinks I'm trying to project a disability on him when I KNOW it can be a strength. I'm a mild Aspie and jumped for joy when I was finally assessed (in my 30s.) Ah well. One day...maybe...something will click in his head.
Often part of the resistance comes from the general societal biases... Aspergers gets classified as a thing you "have," like the pox, or a wart on your nose. I used to resist it, too, under that guise. But it's really just a tool for self-understanding... I've spent the better part of 20 years studying Sensory-Processing Sensitivity (often an Aspergers lookalike, but different) and people resist it, as well, because it gets classified as something you "have." Well, no. You don't. It's a way you're wired.