All parents always have to solve the problem of how to raise an obedient child. And the sooner you start teaching your children, the better it will be for everyone.
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The education process is very long. Therefore, if you want your child to just delight you with their actions and behavior, and not get distressed, then you must be patient.
Seven basic tips that will help you to find a mutual understanding with your children and they will tell you how to teach your child to be obedient:
- Act consistently in education.
That is, if a ban was imposed on something, for example, not to leave the yard or run off for the ball on the road, then it should be observed every day.
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In fact, the children are very good psychologists, and they will instantly understand what mom and dad give to accept, and this also applies to the established rules. And, as soon as they feel it, they will begin to believe that the rules are followed, not necessarily, respectively, all the prohibitions can be violated. That is why teaching a child to be obedient is necessary constantly.
- Be firm and gentle at the same time.
As practice shows, it is very difficult to raise children with a single cry, and even more with anger. For a small person to develop obedience skills, he must know that he is loved and punished not out of hatred, but out of love for him.
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Focus on love, attention and affectionate attitude, but be firm in your convictions. Then he shows the child that he loves him very much and knows what he feels, but he will still have to follow the established rules.
- Be an example for your children.
Many parents are puzzled by the question: how to make a child obedient, while they do not want to change their habits and their established lifestyle. But they forget that the child does not perceive any moralization as a personal example of the parents.
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Studies show that children are very sensitive at a very young age. And that is why they try to subconsciously imitate the closest adults that are seen every day and those who trust their parents the most. And, therefore, it is very important that parents behave as they should to become a good example for a child.
All, without exception, the rules that are established for children, must be perfectly followed by adults. For example, if the father smokes, it will be very difficult for the child to explain in more detail why this is harmful and why it can not be done.
- Punish properly.
Every year, children grow up and constantly try to find new activities for themselves, therefore, finding out what to do is allowed and what is not. The appropriate punishment for minor offenses must be determined. For example, if a child has committed a small fault, you do not need to stop talking to him for three days, show that this is unpleasant.
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You can not intimidate the child, it will not do you good. Just make it clear that all the rules established by the parents must be observed, otherwise, the punishment will come.
- Develop a reward system.
How to grow an obedient child: encourage him, noticing even the smallest victories and positive changes in his behavior. If your baby is obedient, not capricious, does not violate the rules, then encourage him in some way, with a kind word or praise. In this case, the child will have a good incentive to be obedient, will know that he is acting correctly and will continue to act correctly, even to justify his trust.
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- Reward the child correctly.
Even for adults, a great incentive that makes working harder and more diligent is the reward. This also applies to children. When the child has behaved obediently for some time, he can say in advance what awaits him. For example, it could be a trip to the cinema to a new cartoon, to the zoo, new toys, candy, access to computer games, etc.
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But to get it, you must meet your requirements. However, this method works well: do not abuse, because the child will only be obedient by the "bribe" in the form of a nice gift.
- Finally, you must maintain the line of education chosen, think in the same way with your spouse and with all the grandparents and uncles of the aunts.
Otherwise, your offspring will have a bad fashion to manipulate. A husband and wife should support each other in everything, even if they think completely differently, or in general, they are divorced.
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Necessarily parents must agree to their absence. A child will only be obedient if both the mother and the father are the authority.
And remember: an obedient child can grow up alone in the family where they love him, and everyone does him good!
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It's very fruitful articles especially for young parents. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks to you, for reading and commenting on my post.
Awesome post. Some of these lessons I've learned sending a few children into the world
Yes, @towjam, most of the parents, we learn from our own experiences, however, it is important to read and instruct us in this topic to help us; Educating a child is not easy.
The most important guide to learning to make parents, is the Bible, it is an excellent manual.
Agreed fully. I love the lessons I get from the scriptures....and there is a lot more Intelligence coming from there than here