It is so cool that you are able to find this space of self-safety around someone who inflicts themself. It's such a sneaky way to hurt another person, to just steal their energy by forcing them to feel so crazy and hateful that it actually ends up hurting them.
Way to be a ninja, @zool237. I'm burning some sage and stuff up in here right now. I'll smudge on this with you, man! Only good energies in our life paths henceforth!