Next Gen is the best IMO. You need to dig into that if you're this much into Star Trek man!
I'm going to partly disagree with you about the new films though.. we can still be friends i hope ;)
For me, the first one that JJ did was pretty great all around. It had all the right elements of star trek, good acting and great special fxs.
I just wish that the other 2 went in more of a sci fi direction instead of in an action film direction, which they unfortunately did. That being said, I still thought 2 and 3 were entertaining, just not sci fi enough for my tastes or, to honour Star Trek properly.