Let me start by definiting what proactive mean : it means Acting in advance to deal with an expected change or difficult.
We are bound to take responsibility for our actions whether good or bad but a lot of people don't usually want to be find wanting by actually trying to find one excuse or the others.
I can absolutely say, There are people in our life who are there to assist us through problem solving but if we don't take action then we don't expect them to first acted. We must always be responsible for all our action whether palatable or unpalatable. Even simple sorry, I mean honest one work out well for us.
Setting realistic goals for yourself is a great way to keep yourself moving forward and motivated.
Setting a goal is paramount as you have said because it is the only way we can fall forward, not just setting a goal but setting goals that are achievable, I mean those you won't have to go through extra mile before you can get realize. Although it is good to always set goal that is a bit behind our reach so that we can absolutely work tirelessly before getting them achieved.
Control; be in control and don't false or award blame on somebody , always remember to take responsibility for all your action, instead of putting blame or someone else, you that time to set things right.
Consistency is the key, though the present might not that pay well but with time, focus and commitment things will surely work out for your good.
We needed to be accountable for all our action and we shouldnt try to force things on other, that is the problem we are having today becauee we hardly or readily giving in to accountability of whatever we do whether wrong or right. Take action today and be on the winning side. All this factors really to be considered; consistency, motivation, control, realism, and ownership. You will surely win. Keep the good work flowing man. I really got motivated reading this piece of yours.
To take control in life, we must be realistic to understand that we must put our best foot forward and then, consistency is key as usual.
Thank you for your contribution.