In other words, you may want to solve the conflict, but you also have to understand that at some point it is not enough that you want, the other must want.
Why? Because in a conflict you can build a bridge, but the other has to cross it.
It is not enough that you approach to resolve the conflict, it is time to accept that the other must be willing to cross it, and this applies to partner, friends, family, work.
Sometimes, it's just time to leave the door open if we care about the bond, at others it's time to accept that not everything that breaks deserves to be fixed.
I do this based on my personal experience, I'm going to explain something emotional insecurity has a very clear symptom: you start to monitor more than you talk, it still happens to me, it was in express surveillance mode.😬
When there is no trust, do you know what happens? ...
Because when distrust is the one that rules, one becomes a fortune teller, a magic ball guru, a detective, a judge and a victim, all at the same time. And that doesn't solve anything. It just wears down the relationship and wears us down to the soul. If something bothers us, let's not pursue it: we just have to put it on the table. If there is no transparency or real agreements, anxiety is not calmed: it multiplies.
Just because you have been able to change something in your life does not mean that you are ready to accompany another. It's good if you lost weight, it's good if today your life is better than it was. But there is a huge difference between that and the seriousness behind a process of conflicts of those that affect our health.
Every story, every reality has particularities to take into account. But in addition, there is a criterion of responsibility, because when a false guru orients you and then it goes wrong, they get lost... you are left with your problem, having to go many times for help trying to solve the damage that distrust causes us.
False gurus, there are them everywhere...
We have all lost ourselves and we have believed and we have acted in a way that we are not, to please, to believe or to like others, and in the world where we live of fame, work, and appearances it is much easier, to believe or do what others say, or do or believe or live, the brave thing is to reflect and look at them in the mirror honestly before pointing outside, it is what allows us to grow and stop living for the approval of others.
Accepting that there are times when things just came full circle is vital. Sometimes relationships do not give for more and the only thing that survives is the wear and tear. We cling to what was once valuable, but in that resistance to change we end up suffering and, many times, making others suffer.
Accepting the end is not a failure, it is the necessary space for the new. Obviously, it is also important that we learn not to trust people who do not have the appropriate preparation to help us. What do you guys think?
Janitze 🦋
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Translation with |DeepL
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Indeed accepting failure isn't the end result, it is rather a wake up call for strategizing for a positive outcome. In other words, that aspect of tryst isn't to be neglected because it has drain and created setbacks of ambitious individuals. Trust should be earned not just by blood but loyalty. @janitzearratia