Let us be congruent people.
Affirmations are worthless if they are not accompanied by actions. Because actions are always worth more than words.
Acting within the chaos is what moves from reaffirmation to doing. Especially in that action that difficult experiences impose on us, I think that self-esteem is the grounding wire.
It's like going to church to get beat up on.chest and do harm to others. It's okay to be positive but you have to put your feet on the ground. Because words and actions complement each other and give us power.
The important thing about this that I write, is to believe in you, because you can live doing laudable, not les, very good things and still not believe in you. Telling yourself positive things is an action of (talking to yourself), the internal dialogue is very important because it drives you to continue to move forward, to do things for yourself and for others and to believe that the environment is not against you, it is a way of saying: "do it, cheer up, everything you do will help you!.
When we finally truly understand that self-esteem is our most valuable emotional tool, everything changes.
My grandmother Margarita always told me "God rewards actions". That is to say... Empty affirmations do not help you or save you, they only sink you.
You can repeat "I am valuable" many times and still feel like a fraud, a failure inside, because self-esteem is NOT decreed, it is built. And it is not the phrase that you repeat a thousand times, it is the life that you give to yourself.
Self-esteem is demonstrated, even when we give ourselves those emotional blows that life may present us. It's really not stand in front of the mirror and recite nice phrases. It's telling yourself "I don't deserve this" and "the river brought us here" and that way get the hell out of where they don't want you. It's putting yourself first on your own list, even if others judge you or complain. This is what I and many of you who read me call "self-esteem".
The other, is motivational fantasy of that that abounds for example: in social networks 🥴
When we assume that the only way to start healing is by facing what hurts you and taking charge of your life with concrete steps, it's because you recognize yourself, accept yourself and act based on what does you good.
It's not feeling good all the time and living in a bubble of "toxic positivity."
Above all, it is to be honest with oneself, without falling into tales and stories on the way. I don't know it's about being perfect, it's about being yourself even if you make mistakes, you make mistakes you deserve respect, love and care of yourself, and of others.
Because without a doubt true change begins with actions, and not with illusions.
Speaking of ground wire, the new transformer installed late yesterday in my condo, after the other one, exploded when it made ground wire.🥴
Janitze 💘
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Translation with |DeepL