Maybe I'm getting old, but my parents taught me that being polite was important. A simple 'Thank you', or 'No, thank you', ... just a couple of simple words that can make a world of difference.
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'No, Thanks' Would Do The Trick
These last couple of weeks I've been confronted with the fact that politeness, which I've always taken for granted, isn't that common anymore.
No matter whether it is on SteemIt or in real life, people seem to have no problem with expressing gratitude when something is offered to them and they take you up on the offer.
But for some strange reason it seems hard for people to turn down something you offer. They'd rather ignore the offer, while a simple 'No, thanks' would be worth so much more.
Maybe I'm indeed that much older than I consider myself to be, and maybe that kind of politeness is a thing from the past. Nevertheless, I don't like to be ignored - I assume that goes for most people. Definitely not when all it would take would be 2 simple words to at least let me know someone is not interested in what I offered.
Expectations
I've worked hard to learn to live my life without expecting things from people. Apparently, I've failed.
Because taking a 'No, thanks' for granted, is still an expectation.
I think every single one of you knows I do a lot for other people, and I never ask for something in return.
Still, it pisses me off when a 'Thanks, but no thanks' is too much to ask for.
I guess I'm just in a bad mood today, and things annoy me a little more than they would on other days. I just had to get this off my chest, so please don't pay too much attention to it.
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Is the full moon testing your mood?! I can really sense your annoyedness with the lack of response you're encountering lately! Funny i have fallen behind on responding to important messages lately. Emails, voicemails... they are piling up! I hope ppl are not thinking 'the silent treatment' equals a 'no thanks!'because ... it actually doesn't mean that at all. Life just gets hectic sometimes! And, likely i spend too much time with my head in the Steem Sand than i aught to!! Haha Sometimes, it's nice to enjoy another reality though. Earn Steem rather than spend fiat which is what a lot of irl transactions often require. Musings..... lol. Great to cross your path! Looking forward to the next growing season. Hope you can pull through the doldrums of getting the cold shoulder 😉🎶🌞
Everything is piling up indeed. I try to blame it on the winter blues, but when I look outside, there is no sign of winter anywhere. It looks like full spring. I have loads of seeds lying around, waiting to be sprouted, but for some reason I just can't find the energy to go downstairs and just sow them. It would be a welcome change from lying on my bed doing absolutely nothing but play Steemmonsters. I'm so sick of being limited in my actions because of my back. But part of it is my own fault; I need to get out of bed more and move for it to get better.
I should take some time to rearrange Gina, because the way I've set her up now she's currently showing 388 messages... I'm demotivated by going through all of them, just by seeing that number. I used to rely on Partiko to see my mentions and replies, but that doesn't work half of the time, so I miss out on a lot.
How I miss 'Fast-Reply' - now that was a great service. But maybe that was before your time here? (Now I'm really sounding old, lol)
After years of training, I finally got my friends to understand that they shouldn't call me, because I never pick up the phone anyway, lol - I hate phone calls.
And on here... it was just easier to get back to everyone and everything when I was just a small redfish. Sometimes I'm longing for those days. Anonymity is a blessing, haha.
I don't have a clue what that means, but it did make me smile. That's a lot more than I can say for a lot of things these last couple of weeks.
Thanks for your reply. Maybe you're right, and I jumped to conclusions to fast. Thanks for making me aware of that, and putting my feet back on the ground. 😉
I'm glad I read your comment as one of the first, because it really helped me to put things into perspective. It made me realize that I indeed had no right to put up a post like this one, and I feel pretty bad I did.
It actually goes against everything I normally stand for and it tells more about me than about anyone else. Lesson learned (I hope): don't write and definitely not publish posts written from within an emotion. Maybe it's not such a bad thing I usually overthink my posts and leave all emotions out of it, lol
Trying to educate my kids with being polite! Being polite doesn’t cost a dime and will bring you sometimes further in life!
That's exactly what I was taught. Glad others are passing those values on to their kids. Thanks, Peter
Exactly :)
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You are one of my favorite people on Steemit. Thank you for being great @simplymike.
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In general, people are rude because they are selfish, or worse they think it pays off when people pay them to stop.
Unfortunately I can't blame this one on the kids, lol, nor on the people that are here to make a quick buck. I don't think that would bother me as much ...
Btw, thanks for the compliment:0)
I totally agree that a simple no thank you isn't much to ask. I also agree that some days things annoy you much more than others.. I've been in so much pain during the winter, that I wasn't myself either and probably much more annoyed by things that I usually slide off easier. You are a great person, I don't know you other than being super helpful and friendly.. Don't let this one thing get in the way of being you. I also try to teach my daughter being polite, and she's not even 3 but says "thank you mama" all the time. Even when it's not even needed but a simple thing. I think that's cute, and shows she will grow up to be a polite child. Take some rest, hope you'll feel better afterwards! Big hug!
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I shouldn't have written this post in the first place. Lesson number 1: don't take it out on others when you're tired or in a bad mood, lol. I'm probably guilty of the same thing myself, since I have trouble following up on everything. Maybe some people think of me in the same way, while I simply missed their message because I just can't keep up. Sometimes I'm longing for the days when I was a simple redfish, who got 3 comments a day, and there was no SM or Drugwars to take up so much time, lol.
When I was a kid, I remember I always asked my mum if I could go to my room, or even to the bathroom. I can still hear her laugh every time I did, telling me those were things I shouldn't have to ask her.
I'm a bit too polite in general, but I do have days that I'm the complete opposite. Yesterday was one of them, lol, and I feel so guilty for putting up this post. Maybe I should give up trying to write more spontaneous posts and go back to my clinical way of writing and leave emotions where they belong; off SteemIt 😉
haha :)
The problem with common sense and common courtesy is that they just aren't that common anymore
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@sparkesy43, I think you should print that on a T-shirt, lol. It would probably sell like hot cakes 😉
When I gave it to others, he didn't say thank you, I would think, maybe she was shy...
When I worked with others, I paid, but my inventory did not increase. I would think, maybe it was transportation or other problems, not the problem of that person...
When I did all the work, but didn't get the reward, I would think, maybe the boss has an accident? So can't / forget to pay me....
I like use greatest goodwill to explain the maliciousness of others , because so think, I will not be sad ...
I am also teaching childrens so as this...
It' s a great way to deal with things and avoid you're feeling disappointed. I must say, most of the time I succeed in doing this myself. But like I said at the end of my post, I was in a very bad mood yesterday. Normally, I would never put up a post like this one, and I already feel guilty for doing so, lol. Because I'm pretty sure I make the same mistake myself every once in a while.
I often feel like most of my posts lack spontaneity, it doesn't happen really often that I write something without thinking about it. And when I finally succeed in writing one straight from the heart, it's one like this one, lol. One that is pretty unfair and represents me being in a bad mood, not me being myself.
My recent post has also by others down-vote .
those posts only are some replies to others.
If say those replies is doing ticket - it is too embarrassing, because those only some chat reply , thier value is only 0, because no one voted for those reply, as a result, he 1 vote downvote, the reply has become hidden.
I want to reply to others, but also to open the hidden, it is very annoying to read.
so I think about it, maybe those people are ill, maybe their requirements are too good,
The result is that even those who are not bad are considered bad by them.
So,Therefore, maybe they are sick and I must Considerate them.
Hope to be better, but Overkill.
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But you are right when you say you can only feel sorry for people who do those kind of things.
thanks for sharing.
But I should lazy to do.
Maybe is because my posts worthless.. almost all 0..
What I hate is that he is hidden and causes troubles in use.
.....................
I often attend an event
That friend has held it many times.
I always thought it was a good activity.
And its awards are issued.
one once comment ,
Was voted 2 votes down-vote and became hidden.
The result for I go to view,
See more than 60 people's responses,
All of them are down-vote by the same number of people, all become hidden.
I am also helpless.
THe activity, and our participants have no opinion!
others has opinions, run down-vote all the replies
they are too busy.
As a result, the friend gave all the reply up-vote
I also admire
So down-vote again up-vote, it’s really a panic.
People in general are assholes ....
I blame the internet .... too many people not interacting in real life anymore. Yesterday I seen a picture of a pregnant lady standing up on a bus while three healthy young men sat beside her with their noses stuck to their phones. Its a different world then even just 10 years ago.
You can't tell a lot from a picture. Maybe these guys had bad backs, or a had a paralyzed leg. It could have been me sitting there staring at my phone - my back wouldn't allow me to give up my seat for anyone, but if you don't know I have a bad back, you don't see.
True but three people having issues sitting next to each other while a pregnant lady stands beside them is too big of a stretch for me to make. I could believe one of them had an injury of some sort but not all three.
I am not berating those unable to get up as I was in that exact situation once.
Yeah, you're right. I exaggerated a little. It's true, it does happen. Values have shifted over time
For me even if I exchange cryptocurrency, I always say thank you after a successful or unsuccessful deal. That's always been my habit. Without a thank you note after a deal, I feel it is blatant.
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I can only admire that and encourage you to keep that up :0)
I think the reason why people are less kind these days is because it has become a trend to be rude. "Savage", as the kids call it these days. I'm pretty sure those kids are going to end up lonely if they continue to be this way because nobody would want to be around them for long enough.
I don't think it's a trend that's typical for 'these days'. I think there have always been people who are more rude than others. Maybe it is because our world has become so much bigger because of the internet, that it seems there are more of them.
I remember that when I was a kid, I had classmates nobody liked to be around, because they were rude. And my parents probably had too. It's a thing of ll times
Makes sense. I guess it's easier to display your hatred now than it was before.
You're spot on @simplymike. I think with the advent of social media it really has 'dumbed down' the social IQ among the millineals lol
I'm not a millennial, and I think the post I made above isn't really a sign of a high social IQ, lol. Besides, the person I was targeting isn't a millennial either.
I think it's a thing that has always existed, and will always exist. Every person has different values, whether he's 8, 18 or 80.
I shouldn't have written the post in the first place. I always say I keep far away from judging others, still, that's exactly what I do in the post. And I feel bad about it, because it might just have been a misunderstanding. There are so many comments and mentions I miss - unintentionally. So what gives me the right to think this case is any different?
I give what I get. I am probably to quick to fire back rudeness when I get it.
If I cannot be polite then I avoid contact altogether. Most times from me you will get a polite smile and nod.
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lol, even though I woke up in the same mood I was yesterday - which was really, really bad - I find myself feeling better with every comment on this post I read. You actually made me laugh out loud, @krazzytrukker. Thanks for that.
Giving back what you get sounds fair, but it would make the world even more ugly than it already is. So it's a smart idea to avoid contact if you can not be polite.
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welcome to my world :p a world in which the majority of people don't have basic politeness mindset. A world that people aren't themselves but instead they build fake personas in order to "fit in" and be acceptable in the eyes of others.
the more annoying is that i thought that as i grow up, i would have more patience and tolerance to these kind of behaviors but apparently it's the other way around
I wrote this post on one of the few moments I was being intolerant. Most of the time, it doesn't bother me that much, because I know it often happens for the reason you mention
And that makes me feel sad for these people, instead of being annoyed.
Goodafternoon dear, i see it every day here in school not everybody has the same values , but i learn the kids to say thank you, youre Welcome etc,
That has nothing to do with having a bad day, its just or world now
Can't argue with that, @brittansjosie, but @yogajill's comment made me realize that maybe I simply jumped to conclusions too quickly. There is so much going on here, and there's so little time in a day, that I probably miss some similar things myself, and that some people could say the same about me. 😉