Each person wanted others to lead them. We would talk to each other in ones and twos about what we wanted to do, but once we got into the group, people were terrified to stand up.
That's because we're trained from grade 1, there is one leader, one teacher, and the rest of us need to wait until we're appointed or selected by others.
Same goes for being picked to see what team you're on during baseball, football, or soccer when the teacher leads the class during physical education or gym.
Our whole lives are spent waiting to be told what to do, and other "single" leaders stepping up to the plate and leading us.
Most of us do not know how to be a leader. The incentive for being a leader is very thin. It's easier to let someone else get the thankless job.
I believe in none of these ideals of what I've just said. I'm simply narrating why this continues to happen, and it's the very root of the problems we face today.
I continually stand up when no one else will. Sometimes my nose gets bitten off. Sometimes I'm praised. Someone has to do it, and if I'm the only one, I do..
Yea, I get it. I guess I feel the presence of Rightness in me when I do it - but I am often the one to stand up and be crucified. It's interesting. The last time I did before a big crowd, I was the only one speaking up for principles and when I sat down after saying my peace, and of course my vote was crushed, people came up to me and said "you failed". And I said, "No, I did not. I said what needed to be said." and I felt fine - in the eye of the storm. I got to set an example for them - or not. It is none of my business, but it was the right thing to do, and the result in me was that I received a spiritual gift of non-attachment. The more I do it, the weller I get - so I will keep doing it, when necessary and also will stand back and try to encourage others to do it as well. There is a lot of spiritual growth to be gained from going through that birth canal.
It's all in the approach. You're coming at this from your angle.
If you want to reach people, think outside the box, pretend you are them, and wonder how they would perceive you with their way of thinking that got them to this point.
They aren't ready for it.
It's almost like: How would you speak to a 5 year old when they're not in the right mindset? Berate them? Flood them with information? Or speak to them slowly, and use examples in a way that even a 5 year old could say "yes daddy. I see your point. can I go out and play nicer now?"
nah - I don't need advice. I don't believe in the "pearls before swine" thing. I speak the truth as I see it and they get it on the spiritual level or they don't - it's none of my business. I think the "pearls before swine" thing is what got the knowledge occulted in the first place - so no. I speak to them as adults and they hear or they don't. That's between them and God.