Curiously my grandmother who I know loved me her own way also shaped me and made me feel awkward with myself. " You are so pale, too delicate will wither soon" Her encouraging sentence used to be " you are not pretty like your cousins but at least you are smart". I barely took pics of myself until mid 20s. I take selfpotraits today as an exercise of acceptance. We are around the same age.
About shadows... I come from a different kind of shadow... A shadow that walks with me, we jump together from shade to shade, light is hurting sometimes. I befriended my fears and became one in part. Up is the mystery one day I will explain.
The article can make you cry, but this comment makes me laugh! I can imagine you thinking, "please kick the bucket grandma".
As children, few of us (and maybe it's more female than males) feel resentful towards our elders for their remarks. Hence why they so deeply affect us all.
Thank you for sharing @yidneth. ♥️ Tis my bday so I haven't been able to check all of my notifications. I deeply appreciate your contribution to this post. Indeed, generational differences can be so vast le sigh Sometimes I wonder if it was just the child-rearing trend or what.
Befriending fears is a whole process in itself, one I don't have words for. I hope one day you DO explain. Feel free to tag me if you ever decide to write on such things. I'd very much enjoy reading them.
Oh... I will... I know a lot about shadows can become one sometimes... that's my superpower :)
but yes, maybe not with bad intentions... but sometimes adults can mess it up :)
by the way happy birthday hope you had a great one!
@yidneth Thank you, it was pleasant 😍.