Hmm. I don't know. Not always. I think you can learn to tell, if you're half self-aware, when it's blatant asskissing, and when they're being genuine. I think your people can be extremely grounding, in the sense that they could also help keep you on the right track.
Seems to me it's about finding people you're on the same vibration with, not necessarily people you agree with 100%. On the contrary. If I meet someone whose opinions and general ethics I respect a great deal, they may expose me to new ideas/views on topics we don't agree with. But I don't think everyone gets that, and a lot of people do end up muddled in asskissy echo chambers...
It might sound mean...but I can't wait for you to get older...just wait!
Shit change...you will be like wow, plenty..