成熟?麻木?包容?

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  我留意到社区最近有人的帖子被踩了,为什么被踩?据说是因为举报另一“大佬”发垃圾,被那个所谓的“大佬”疯狂报复而被踩的。

  我其实一般不喜欢这种在网络上“惹事”,我个人的原则是,如果真碰到不讲理的人,没必要跟他一般见识,走开就行。但是相比不惹事原则,我其实内心更不喜欢那种恃强凌弱的人,尤其是那种狐假虎威、颠倒黑白的,内心更为鄙视。

  社区里先前也有位同学,我本挺尊重,但后来好几件事情的发生,改变了我对他的看法,至于那种表面一套背地一套的做法,本以为半闭着眼睛也就过去了,但后来也是被人举报,其实我认为被人举报也没啥问题,谁还没犯过错?谁还没干过几件蠢事?按理说,碰到这种事情,自己承认,如果心(胸宽)大的话,再公开道歉下,下次注意不要再犯,不是很好的吗?

  然而这位同学也是犯了多数人容易犯的毛病,被别人说穿后,不是想到先承认错误,而是指鹿为马,颠倒黑白,反而说指出他错误的人在那里胡搅蛮缠,甚至一度以自己的级别和power高来恃强凌弱,这就有点过份了。

  我少年的时候,性格也比较偏激,可能是精力旺盛引起的内分泌失调吧,碰到一些事情总喜欢跟人争辩,尤其是些看起来高大上,其实跟你的生活遥远的如同十万八千里的事情。但我那时候就认为应该那样,如果不那样去做,反而觉得不对。但是多年之后,回想起来,有些事情尤其那些不涉及到原则的事情,并没有因为我的一些争辩而有任何改变,相反,却留下了一些不愉快的回忆。

  很多时候就是这样,从步入社会的一番年轻气盛,到经历过很多之后,见多了社会上的很多尔虞我诈,你反而更加内心平静如水,遇到事情也不再像先前那般义愤填膺,而是冷静(麻木)地去思考(发呆)。

  这是成熟吗?很难讲到底是成熟,还是麻木不仁。我个人的看法是,对待一些原则性的问题,则必须要坚持自己的看法;对于一般性的问题,可以讲出自己的看法,如果对方愿意听最好,不愿意听甚至不讲理,从此以后就敬而远之;对于那些似乎无伤大雅,更跟原则无关的,就不要太过于计较,尽量多些包容最好。

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哈,最近社区是非多,远离!

这几天你有空了一起聚下喝茶:)

English Version of today's 2nd Article by Teacher @rivalhw!

Mature? Numbness? Inclusive?

I noticed some recent community posts have been stepped on, why are they stepped on? It is said that because of reporting another "big brother" to send rubbish, it was stepped on by the so-called "big brother" in a mad retaliation.

In fact, I generally do not like this kind of "stir up trouble" on the Internet. My personal principle is that if you really encounter unreasonable people, you do not need to have common knowledge with him and walk away. However, compared with the principle of not triggering trouble, in fact, I actually do not like the heart of those bullying people, especially the kind of fake tiger Viagra, upside down black and white, the heart more despised.

There was also a former classmate in the community, was very respectful, but then several things happened that changed my view on him. As for the kind of superficiality, I thought that half-closed eyes would have passed , But then was also reported, in fact, I think it was reported no problem, who has not made a mistake? Who has not done a few stupid things? Logically speaking, encountered such a thing, admits that if the heart (chest width), then a public apology, next time not to pay attention again, not good?

However, this classmate also made most people easy to commit mistakes. After they were put to another person, they did not think of admitting mistakes first. Instead, they referred to deer as horse and black and white instead of saying that the wrong person was very rude there, and even once used his own rank and Power to bully, this is a bit too much.

When I was a teenager, my personality was rather extreme. I could end up with hormonal endocrine disorders. Some things I always like to argue with, especially those who seem tall, are actually as distant as your eighteen thousand In the matter. But then I think that should be the case, if not to do that, but feel wrong. However, many years later, in retrospect, some things, especially those that did not involve principles, did not change anything because of some of my arguments. On the contrary, they left some unpleasant memories.

This is often the case. From the young and prosperous of entering the community, after many experiences, I have seen many social intrigues. You are even better. My heart is calm and the things I have encountered are no longer indignant. , But calm (numb) to think (daze).

Is this mature? Hard to tell in the end is mature, or insensitive. My personal view is that we should stick to our own views on the treatment of some of the problems of principle. For the general issues, we can express our own views. If the other side is willing to listen to the best and does not want to hear or even unreasonable, On the other hand, for those seemingly innocuous and even unrelated to principle, do not care too much and try to be as tolerant as possible.

That's all from this Article. Thanks to the Sir @rivalhw for sharing such a useful Article!

您这翻译也太快了!
1分钟的时候我看到这篇文章,我这边发表完评论,您这边已经翻译完了,cow!

完全是机器翻译,没有太大的意义。

感谢队友 @woolfe19861008 其实这是我和亲爱的 @rivalhw 爵士之间的一段可爱的关系。 一切都很有效率。 也感谢喜欢我的速度!

这个。。能帮我翻译一下么?

神奇的默契,您真棒!

大伟老师的这篇文章让我想起了“圆滑”二字。
其实曾经的我是很鄙视这两个字的,不过步入社会之后,一次次的打磨,让以前那个愣头青的棱角不再那么尖锐。
还记得刚结婚的时候,总是跟老婆高谈阔论,讲道理,讲格局,讲人生。
今晚朋友一家来我家吃火锅,到最后都吃饱的时候,我本想把肉处理光,老婆说把菜处理光,我本能的“哦”了一声,朋友笑着说道,你这个“哦”字,饱经沧桑啊!
哈哈,是啊,有人的地方就有江湖,无论是家庭,还是社会,圆滑才是处世之道,无论这二字对与错。
成熟也好,麻木也好,包容也好,大家好,才是真正的好!

这的确是历经风雨的人才能说出那么一番话~

I prefer 圓融

或许您还可以写一篇后续呢!

大偉的想法跟我很接近,這麼巧,我今天也剛看了一下這事。我其實對於這位“被欺負”的同學,感到很可惜,原本可以在社區有更好的發展,做更多貢獻的(當然未來還是可以)。我自己也經歷過一些類似的,只是沒這麼誇張,只能說,"怕事"這看似孬孬的特質,有時候還是不錯的。活得久,才是真正硬道理。

刘美女说的对。我们做更多有意义的事

一切都随风啦,没必要太认真

我倒觉得年纪渐长更偏向关注自己内心世界,外在干扰始终是外在的

年龄越大越淡定(麻木)了:)

@rivalhw 大伟哥的EQ比较高,不需要和那些人一般见识,所谓:“人在做,天在看”嘛~

不惹事,不怕事,与人相处和谐是能力

是这样的。那位现在踩人的同学其实解释一下,反而对他的声望更好。凌弱实在不理智啊。退一步海阔天空啊。

求同存异四字虽常见,践行起来却不容易。

说实话,我也对被踩的那位朋友感到惋惜。很可惜,依我现在的能力也是爱莫能助。不过我还是很敬重路见不平,并且能承担后果的人。有一天当我足够强大的时候,我会伸出援手的。

yess, is it very nice

It includes our changes in all aspects, although some of us still look normal
but without our conscious consciousness has changed
if we can choose, of course we choose to be good people who bring goodness to others

but this is our life that runs as our environment and the way we adapt
so try to be better and useful for others

生活中遇到这种事,一般我会据理力争。实在是道不同不相为谋,敬而远之作罢!我们都需要一颗平常心、包容心。

以和为贵,中庸,包容,宽恕,老祖宗的教诲还是很有现实意义的。

贺老师说的在理,我们都听着呢~!

自身有错而又持强凌弱就如同宵小鼠辈!大家不去理会他就是啦,这种人没有道理可讲啊!

最好的方式,大概是“内方外圆”,对自己的要求方正严格,有棱有角,对外处事圆润贯通,多些宽容。

我觉得被踩的同学应该发贴道个歉,跟他说不要再踩啦,我知道错了,你没有发垃圾贴,我闲着没事乱说的。原谅我吧。

不知道有没有人想踩我,但我真是这样想的,不管是以何种目的混在Steemit,都不必这样死磕,对方执著,我们就放下吧。

还是看不惯持强凌弱的人,无奈自己却帮不了什么。希望误会快点解开吧😄

这种事还是要改革制度来限制大户恃强凌弱滥用权利吧。就像现实中独立的司法制度,让被欺负的人有地方说理。

只想保持初心,虽然很难在这社会上

从第一天加入 Steem 就知道他们之间的战争,大半年后的今日得知恩怨仍然在进行中。他们的毅力实在令我十分敬佩,只是用在正事上不是更好吗?

上面这段话我也情不自禁斗胆留言在他们的战场上了。还好没被Flag

哎,没必要那样。不知道那人怎么想的。错就是错,认了就好了。把做人的信用都丢了,就真的什么都不是了。

楼上的回复都好温和,典型的中国人的性格,其最近页遇到了这种人,顶烦他们强行争辩,颠倒黑白的样子,我选择在这件事情上和他们干到底!认错都不会吗?!

以前会为对错和别人争论,现在觉得 每个人的世界观都不同 ,哪有什么 错与对 只有相同与不同 ,也不再去改变别人的看法,合得来做个朋友 ,合不来不打扰 就可以了

最近论坛这么热闹吗,这几天比较忙,没大上论坛,竟然多了这么多的梗啊……