I am quite an emotional person and an expressive one too. However, for a long time I did not really know what it was to own up to your emotions or why was it really important to do that. But since the time I started working on different books related to self-acceptance and self-love as a ghost writer, my knowledge and understanding of your emotions and why you must own them has improved. This has really improved the way I think and feel about things and how I react and respond to different situations. In fact, now that I have started embracing and owning up to my emotions, I don't react to them instead I let them settle in and respond to them.
This week when I saw the @ecotrain's question of the week (qotw) on what it means to own your emotions, I couldn't have been happier. It was something I have been thinking a lot about and since I have been quite absent from Steemit lately, I thought the question was a great one to do a post on. Here is my take on it.
I remember as a child my siblings and I were often told not to cry much and if we did cry, we were told to wipe off the tears and if anybody felt angry or frustrated, they were told to calm down, but never guided on how to do that properly. Like my mother would tell me to stop sulking and smile, but even when I did that instantly, it never really helped me but at that time, I didn't know how to do that myself so I just did what she said. However, as I grew older I realized that there was a lot of built up tension and frustration inside me, but I didn't quite get the reason behind that. It was only when I started working for a certain client of mine and did several e-books for him on self-acceptance, self-love and embracing your emotions that I realized and understood the root cause of it. It was that way because I had never learned how to own up to my emotions and embrace them.
Owning up to your emotions to me means to understand what you are going through, the feelings you are experiencing and then to accept them instead of disowning them. Like when we quickly try to cover up our frustration or guilt with a smile and do not address that emotion, we disregard and disown it. For me, it was always the emotion of jealousy and envy that I disowned a lot. I never really accepted that jealousy affected me a lot or even when I did accept that I used to be jealous of my siblings, I used to feel bad about it. I never owned my jealousy and that's why it kept getting bigger with time. However, when I made a move to accept, acknowledge and own up to my jealousy, I slowly got the courage to work on it positively as well. So when someone told me that I was a jealous person, instead of saying no, I accepted it openly and then the other person would tell me it is not a good emotion to nurture so I shouldn't proudly accept my problem as they called it and I would politely answer them that jealousy may turn into something negative if you let it grow bigger but it isn't a bad emotion. It is just an emotion and I am happy I own up to it because most people don't and that's what makes their jealousy grow bigger.
Owning up to your emotions is about embracing the emotion genuinely and completely so if a certain emotion strikes you, you do not shun it away or do not feel unhappy about it. Rather, you let it settle in and experience it in the moment. So if you are sad, you allow the sadness to take its time inside you instead of trying to push it out. Honestly, if you do not react to an emotion or do not hold on to it by thinking on it for too long, it does pass away quickly and that helps you respond to it the right way too. Embracing your pain, happiness, guilt, envy and every emotion that you experience is what helps you experience each emotion fully because honestly, now I feel every emotion has a beauty of its own. I did not think sadness was beautiful till the time I started accepting and owning up to it. Now I do that and I don't stay sad for too long and I also find it special.
So for me, owning up to your emotions is all about accepting the different emotions you experience and feel and not being upset about them. They are your emotions and a part of you so it is only right you own up to them. What do you think?
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