There is a saying in this way: "the three views are a hundred fun, the three views do not fit together." in love, it is true that the world outlook, the outlook on life, and the values often determine whether the two people can go on for a long time.
Three views are different, but they must be fused together. What kind of experience is it?
Although you may be well - looking and suitable for all aspects, when you say you want to go to the sea, she says the sea has drowned many people, and the feeling of being incompatible with each other is too much of a heart.
As a matter of fact, two people with three different views, like two planets, don't expect the other person to understand their feelings, the spiritual alienation, and the most often tortured people.
Couples who broke up because of "three different views" have always been quite common. It is worth mentioning that in the newly released "China 95 post data report" recently, "three views disagreement" has become the most important condition of the 95 post selection of the present age - none of them!
Although more and more people are aware of the destructive effect of "three different views" on the feelings, the princesses have repeatedly encouraged everyone to "disagree" with each other. Do not have to melt, as early as the score!
" It's refreshing to break up, but where should I find a third half that fits perfectly with you? Just like the leaves that do not have two veins completely matched in the world, there are no two people in the world who are completely consistent.
It is normal for each person to be influenced by the different native family and the experience of the day after, and the way of thinking and the habits of life are certain to be different from those of others. Two people in love, despite the conclusion of the relationship, are still completely different two individuals, so in the relationship, encounter friction, contradictions, are unavoidable things. The person who will run the feelings, even if there is an emotional contradiction, can be properly solved, the rain is clear; the person who does not know how to manage the emotion is in the endless quarrel, and chooses the breakup with the "three views disagreement".
In fact, the three contradictions result in emotional conflict. The main reasons are the following two points:
● Too much self, lack of understanding of a partner
When there is conflict, the person who is too self often holds his own mode of thinking, and he does not understand the feelings and needs of the other. In this way, two people will be separated from each other for a long time.
● The wrong way of communication deepens the gap between the two worlds.
Good communication can dissolve most of the emotional contradictions, and ignore communication, or erroneous use of erroneous communication, such as disputes, cold war and so on, can only make the two people do not know each other more and more, the estrangement gradually grows and deepens, and the final end is to break up.
Prophase: transforming thinking and respecting the differences of both sides
Because "three views disagree" and break up? People are always so, easy to immerse themselves in the world, but not to jump out of their own small circle, to truly understand the inner values of each other's words and deeds. Then, if you want to save love, you should change your mind. You need to realize that the differences between your habits and thinking patterns are not right or wrong, so don't impose your things on each other, and learn to respect the difference between each other and you, when you do it. To this point, your redeem is no longer an armchair strategist.
Medium term: efficient communication to cultivate the commonality of both sides
How can you save your love and let your partner know how you change after your transformation? At this point, you should realize that communication will play an important role in it. Communication should be two-way, efficient, and learn to guide each other to tell the real point of view, then move into the other's inner world, deepen mutual understanding, but also to further cultivate the commonality of both sides, so that the recovery is no longer difficult.
In the later period: seeking common ground and saving differences, improving the comfort of getting along
You shouldn't take it lightly before you really save it. In the next coexistence, learn to seek common ground, find, create and enlarge the common ground between you, and in the tolerance and understanding, gradually improve the comfort between you and the other person. "Ta is the person who is with me and understands me, he is still my choice."