I have been in a dark place for quite some time now. One prevalent emotion that has engulfed my consciousness is anger in the form of ‘frustration’. The last 12 months have been a rollercoaster, and I have been caught in this battle for my happiness. A lot of my discontent comes from work. I have written about this a couple of times and I do not want to go over it again, but i am writing this post because I realised a lot of people I know are battling the same issue and I hope this post would throw some light on the issue and help us find clarity.
HOW I AM DEALING WITH SETBACKS
I have identified that the major source of my frustration is work. The reason for my frustration is due to the fact that I have put a lot of time and money into the business and have lost it all. I wish I had stayed on my original path. However, I have to also come to terms with the fact that I cannot do anything about the past 12 months but learn.
I have learnt a couple of things in business which I shared a couple of days ago. Also, I gained a useful skill that would help me in my future plans. So it hasn’t been a total waste of time. I have had some decent experiences running my business, so I am grateful for that at least.
Also, I am limiting the time and money I spent on the business. I understand it isn’t what I expected it to be and putting in more time and energy won’t change it. These signs were glaring from the onset but I chose to continue. I suppose this is where regret comes into the picture. Optimism should not always override reality, and I have learnt this valuable lesson.
The other aspect of a setback is having to deal with emotional baggage from the said experience which is easily triggered by any form of negative emotions. Also, there is this crippling sense of powerlessness that often leads to inactivity. So you are unable to move forward because that hasn’t necessarily gotten you anywhere, so you do nothing, and by doing nothing you increase your frustration and whatever you have left is taken from you.
Fortunately, we all can move past bad experiences irrespective of how we feel. I understand that this might not bring out the very best in us but it is a good step regardless. If we all let our emotions get the best of us, chances are we might achieve nothing. I have written this post and completed my engagement routine for today despite feeling emotionally trapped. I will still make out time to read and take my courses. Even if I am unable to complete all these tasks, I can identify the things I have done to further my long-term plan and that makes the burden of life bearable, and this is how it is going to be until my next big break.
We should all love ourselves as much as we criticised ourselves. We are our biggest critics, but we can as well be our own cheerleaders. Jordan Peterson talks about this in his book, ‘12 Rules of Life”. The burden of Life is soul-crushing but if we can be kind and motivate ourselves to take the leap of faith by believing and taking little steps toward our desired goal we can accomplish a lot. This is the principle by which I live my life.
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Hello @nonsowrites
I am sorry you had to go through all of these, it's not easy i know but i am really glad that you are holding up and pushing against all odds.
Hang in there and sooner than later you will be totally fine😃
Yeah certainly. It's only a temporary setback. Thanks for your kind words. I appreciate
Im sorry you feel this way, I have been there twice, I cant say I know how you feeling because Im not inside your head but I have an idea, lost all my money and the second time the only thing left was my mom, sister and brother this was before I got married and kids, I was depress for sometime and had to start from zero, I learn a lot of things but the most important is that you can always start from scratch, work hard again to climb back up and not to live thinking about mistakes because at a point it kept hunting me down and getting depressed, there is nothing we can do about the past but a lot about the future, stay strong, good luck ✌️
I find your words quite refreshing. Thank you very much. I am doing my best to move forward and not dwell on the past. I catch myself whenever negative thoughts creep in and fix that with something positive. I believe things will get better. It is only a matter of time. Thanks for stopping by
Reading Jordan Peterson's book was a bit life changing for me. I was in a similar situation a few years ago with never ending problems that seem to zapped out all life from me. But I've come to realise that been delayed or taking a wrong path is always a possibility and part of the journey. So I try to not overly beat myself over it and find practicals ways to deal with it while making a way to get out of it.
I hope everything works out well for you.
Yeah, listening to Jordan has impressed my life. He is a blessing to modern men. I do appreciate his world view. Thanks for stopping by
Same here too. His works and worldview is like a breath of fresh air in a suffocating environment.
You're most welcome!
We all have beautiful virtues that make us feel fulfilled. Thinking about them to encourage us, is certainly a very good way to avoid or eradicate these negative feelings that take away our strength.
A question, as an observation: the image you use in your publication, is it personal?
If so, it is better to identify it somewhere in our post. This way we avoid confusions and contribute to the best work of the curators.
We appreciate your input and good disposition, greetings @nonsowrites ☺️🤗
Yes the image is mine, which is why I did not add any corresponding link to state otherwise.
Thank you for stopping by. Cheers!