This is the most annoying comment I've come across throughout this week.
Makes me wonder, "is this what gives them the right to cheat?"
Hey there you.
I'd like to share with you a piece of information you may not probably like. Since common sense isn't common anymore.
So this week, I happened to read an ebook written by Pastor Faith A. Oyedepo, wife of Bishop Dr. David Oyedopo. It's titled: Marriage Ethics for Singles. I thought I would share one of the chapters I enjoyed reading with you. 👇👇👇
Day 12
YOUR WIFE, YOUR CROWN
“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband”…
– Proverbs 12:4 –
When you look at the rate of infidelity in marriages today and then listen to the
excuses some people make, it can be extremely mind-boggling. Some men make statements like “My wife does not dress appealingly enough”, “Her hair is always untidy”, or “My wife never knows how to put on just a little make-up to cover those pimples!”
I add: when ghhixxxxffff, my wife lays down like a dead fish. My wife's body ain't sexy no more. Her coochie ain't as tight as it used to be, and yadda, yadda, yadda! 🙄
SO WHO CAUSE AM???
The book 📖 continues...
My question to these men today is, what effort have you made to make her look the way you want?
A king is incomplete without a crown, but the way his crown looks tells you a lot about the king’s person and the kind of authority he wields. The same principle applies to
your wife. The way she appears in public and how well she looks altogether tell a lot about you.
I add: LOUD IT, MA! 📢
The book 📖 continues...
If the Bible says your wife is your crown, and you understand that your authority is
incomplete without her, it will tell in the value you place on her. Remember, the Bible enjoins the man to deeply, completely, and honestly love his wife; and that love and submission go
hand-in-hand. A woman who has received true and pure love from her husband is naturally bound to submit. When this happens, your marriage becomes blissful and enviable to all.
Your crown remains of immense value to you. It announces your kingship and makes you a point of reference to generations yet unborn. Henceforth, show that you value your wife by taking care of her needs, and providing for her and the family as a whole. No matter how much she may be earning, your respect will be weightier when you also work to take care of her and her needs (Ephesians 5:25-28).
You can always go out of your way to make her look beautiful. Buy her good quality love gifts, no matter how little, and she will appreciate you for them. Treat her like a queen, and you will in turn be treated like a king. The love you profess to your wife can be seen in her disposition and that includes her appearance. Be a true king today by showing care for your “crown”.
Remain Ever Blessed!
(END OF THE CHAPTER)
My Candid Advice to Men:
What's that thing that would make you look outside after marriage?
Whatever are your answers, why not do your best to make sure that your wife has it all or does it all?
Research conducted by marriage counselors, and relationship experts have revealed that 60% of Nigerian men begin to cheat on their wives when she's worn out from the throes of childbearing.
So rather than complaining or chasing after side chicks:
Why not get her a tightening cream if you feel she ain't tight down there?
Why not help her firm her breasts upon noticing that it's becoming flat like your bathroom slippers?
Why not get her those sexy lingeries so that she'll be doing silhouette challenges for you in the bedroom?
Why not check in the first place, if your woman has those wifey qualities any virtuous woman should possess before walking her down the aisle?
Why not let her have some rest once in a while, away from kitchen and mummy duties – make stress no wrinkle her fine face?
Why not get her that quality human hair, buy her quality and decent outfits, designer shoes, and handbags, treat her to spa treatments & makeovers and sponsor her manicures and pedicures?
So that all these small slay queens no go dey enter your eyes. 👀
Or have you not learned from the story of 23-year-old Chidinma Ojukwu who killed Michael Osifo and went away with his ATM card to withdraw money to her heart's content?
He who has ears, let him hear.👂
My Candid Advice to Women:
If only we would take our time to choose for a spouse, a man who is submitted unto Christ, even as Christ is the head of the Church. Then just as God commands, he'd learn to love his wife just as he loves his own body. For no man ever yet hateth his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. Then maybe we wouldn't have to chase him and his side chick into our untimely graves.
But NO, we're always in a haste to marry who is ready, mostly because our biological clock is ticking. ✔️
God Help Us! 🙌🙏
My earnest prayer as a chronic spinster this week has been: ...Lord Jesus Christ, with all the disheartening stories I've heard this week, may I never marry a cheating or abusive spouse because my poor heart cannot be able to bear it.
And may these prayers be your portion too.
AMEN, AMEN, AMEN, FIRE!!!🔥
Indeed the rate of infidelity has been a reaction from an overinflated ego. Some men deem it fit that tht are entitled to more than one just because they provide. Unfortunately, women too.
A suggestion, when sharing a book like this, a screenshot is more preferable as the words of the book overshadow yours and could pass off as plagiarism.
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