Have you ever tried doing something and you just keep failing at it? If yes, I’m sure you saw yourself as incompetent and useless but guess what, that was only your own journey to getting the success that you truly needed. It is a hard nut to crack but it is what it is. Failure can often seem like we didn’t do enough or we weren’t enough but that is fine. Even those that did enough still fail too.
Do you know what matters? It is you trying to put the pieces of yourself together and try again. Trying again doesn’t mean you are foolish or less of you. It means you understand that failure is not the end. Most times we treat failure as the end of something but that shouldn’t be the right approach. I have done that before and I only ended up delaying and wasting time on other things that weren’t what I needed. I wasn’t focused on what I wanted because I thought oh, since I failed at it, it’s probably not for me. Well, that’s just what I told myself to help me get past that phase of myself.
I have so many cases when I felt failure meant I should quit and look for something different to do. One of them was when I first failed a major exam. I was devastated. But I tried to act like it didn’t matter but I knew deep down that it did. I should have actually written that exam again the following year but I was scared. I told myself that I don’t think I would pass this exam and I will only end up wasting money again and going through the same rejection I went through the first time. Well, that was how I postponed writing that exam but come the next year, I told myself I had to face my fears and prove me wrong.
I enrolled for the exam again and this time, I studied with the mind that no one was coming to help me or cheer me up. I’m just alone with myself. That fear of failure was still there mind you, but what was different was that I didn’t let that fear cripple me from trying again. Well, my results came out way better than I expected and today, I’m in the university - my final year!
I still doubt myself every day but then, I don’t let that fear keep me away from trying at least. You know, recently I decided to try out new things and I have been experiencing so much failure even without going so deep into them yet and the truth is, I’m already feeling like giving up but guess what, that won’t happen. I’ll rather try than fail, than fail to try. I should at least have a good reason why I didn’t continue with something.
Anyways, next time when you see yourself as a failure, just know you are not the first to feel that way or even the last. What makes us stand out is the courage to keep on going on.
Thank you for reading through. 💜
Fear will make us feel less of ourselves, telling us to quit but when we don’t give in, we reap a good result.
Absolutely, mama.
You just have to keep going and even your fears will be scared of you, lol.
As they say, failures are stepping stones to success. Some of these stones may take us underwater but we need to learn to swim and keep going. I think for the most part, fear never really goes away, although the intensity of it may vary.
Fear is always going to be there. We need it. But it depends on the type of fear we choose to work with. There are two acronyms for fear. Forget everything and run or face everything and rise.
Thanks for the reminder of the acronym, it's been a while since I last read it. Great that we realise that it's up to us to decide how we respond to fear :)
You’re welcome, Takhar.
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