Hello everyone, my beautiful hive naija people, it's another beautiful weekend and we are so happy to have you here once again. It’s nice to get everyone together every weekend to talk about random things and just have fun.
OBJECTIVE
As we all know, the Hive Naija Weekend Engagement is focused on promoting the togetherness of the Nigeria brethren through engagement and it's also now concerned of the well being of each and everyone who is part of the engagement. This account was opened to make the engagement more personal and official. You can find the INTRODUCTION POST to read more about the purpose and aim of this new account and also do well to follow the account so as to know when a post is made.
A long time ago, I thought, I shared and I asked "Why don't we chat on hive every Weekend?"
And you all said... YES
"Well, we won't be the first as there are some weekend engagement trends already on Hive! But this would be THE NIGERIAN VERSION!"
The last time, the topic was ”FAVORITE FRONTEND
We had over 1000+ comments in our last weekend engagement. Everyone came together and talked about their favorite frontends. There were jokes, harmless banter, and valuable lessons. This is just the beginning! Let’s see if we can still make 1000 comments possible this weekend, shall we? 👀. It has always been so nice seeing people who dedicate their time to engaging and sharing their thoughts and ideas with us, I want to appreciate you all for the consistency, quality engagement and your efforts, let's keep them coming. Special thanks to everyone who makes this hang out possible.
I will drop a topic every Friday (Today's topic is below), share your thoughts on the matter, reply to someone else opinion, and interrogate the opinion if you like. Keep the discussion on. If you don't have anything to say about the topic. Just reply to someone else's comment.
Do all these in the comment section, as that is where it all goes down.
This week's engagement starts immediately after you see this post and ends on Sunday at 11:59 pm.
Prizes for this week:
Prize to 5 random persons that joins. No longer to top engagers because I see that everyone is putting in good effort. This is to encourage meaningful discussion.
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TRUST ISSUES
Now to our discussion for this weekend! We will be discussing about “TRUST ISSUES”. When it comes to relationships or marriages, trust plays an important role. Is it okay for your partner to have a best friend of the opposite gender? Do you think it is harmless or do you think it can lead to something else? (ahem ahem)
"Tell us if you think it is okay for your partner to have a best friend of the opposite gender"
OR
- Would you allow them sleep over at each other’s place if needed, afterall they are best friends?
***Remember, the aim of the hangout is to bring Nigerians together so make sure you have this in mind when responding to the questions. And feel free to add even more to it if you have any.
If you think you have a topic you would want us to discuss about, please feel free to suggest them to us. All you have to do is suggest the topic in the comment and tag @sam.hangout to it.
Okay Let's Gist!!!!
Be as simple and sincere with the discussion, hehehe.
Don't you think we are forgetting somebody?... Well, I'm sure we are...
FRIDAY PLANS, OWANBE SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY REFLECTIONS
As mentioned in our last post, this week we will be trying something different. On Friday, we talk about our goals for the weekend. Will you be indoor throughout or do you have a date to plan? Owanbe Saturday is a day to share interesting gists about parties. You can also share pictures. On Sunday, we reflect and share our plans for the new week. Let’s see how it goes!
There are no further rules, please banter as you like, speak any Nigerian language (Igbo, Yoruba, pidgin, Efik), anything, as long as someone else can understand.
Pls note : However, please don't take it to the extreme.
With all that said, let the discussion begin....
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Now to our discussion for this weekend! We will be discussing about “TRUST ISSUES”. When it comes to relationships or marriages, trust plays an important role. Is it okay for your partner to have a best friend of the opposite gender? Do you think it is harmless or do you think it can lead to something else? (ahem ahem)
- "Tell us if you think it is okay for your partner to have a best friend of the opposite gender"
- Would you allow them sleep over at each other’s place if needed, afterall they are best friends?
***Remember, the aim of the hangout is to bring Nigerians together so make sure you have this in mind when responding to the questions. And feel free to add even more to it if you have any.
If you think you have a topic you would want us to discuss about, please feel free to suggest them to us. All you have to do is suggest the topic in the comment and tag @sam.hangout to it.
Okay Let's Gist!!!!
Be as simple and sincere with the discussion, hehehe.
Don't you think we are forgetting somebody?... Well, I'm sure we are...
As mentioned in our last post, this week we will be trying something different. On Friday, we talk about our goals for the weekend. Will you be indoor throughout or do you have a date to plan? Owanbe Saturday is a day to share interesting gists about parties. You can also share pictures. On Sunday, we reflect and share our plans for the new week. Let’s see how it goes!
There are no further rules, please banter as you like, speak any Nigerian language (Igbo, Yoruba, pidgin, Efik), anything, as long as someone else can understand.
With all that said, let the discussion begin....
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Mention list: @deraaa @b0s @merit.ahama @peaq @monioluwa @brightdavid @stevenson7 @obrisgold1 @jaydr @mayorkeys @wolfofnostreet @readthisplease @young-boss-karin @tukem1 @k-banti @iskafan @chosenfingers @onwugbenuvictor @monica-ene @heskay @etiboy56 @doziekash @chincoculbert @funshee @omosefe @ozohu @attentionneeded @popmanj @estherscott @vickoly @gloriaolar @pianokills @hepziba @tblings-art @anissignature @ijohnsen @manuel6 @khaleesii @kenechukwu97 @abidemiademok21 @otshotz @blezyn @uzuka @mrenglish @bbjmed @uddydan @reineesmay @b0s @prechidi @joydukeson @benii @henryce @nkemakonam89 @zestimony @surgeoncaspar @kingobonnaya @royalpeek @sekani @olawalium @drstrings @ajumaa @blackavalon @jachy @samostically @treasuree @dimmablogs @glorydee @quduus1 @obaro @temibot @hivedeb @stefanovah @adaezeinchrist @kierydearie @khingstan @emreal @moremoney28 @justfavour @herbae @temmylade @princessbusayo @geelocks @actordontee @cescajove @adeife2 @etorobong @jannaforyou @amiegeoffrey @schola.kosy @busk1999 @redna @etiboy56 @jmis101 @queenstarr @yinks @empressjay @marajah @ovey10 @anthony57 @mercytosh @cleevesh @sharonia02 @balikis95 @ibbtammy @afrikens
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We go again today!!!
Today is Saturday and we know what that means! OWANBE SATURDAY Do you have a party to attend today? Tell us about an OWANBE that still lives rent free in your head. Have you ever attended a party where you ate to your stomach’s satisfaction? Share with us.
Ps: IF YOU MAKE A POST ABOUT YOUR OWANBE EXPERIENCES AND SHARE IT IN THE HIVE NAIJA COMMUNITY, WE’LL ENGAGE AND WHO KNOWS MAYBE YOU MIGHT GET SWEET UPVOTES.
@ozd @treasuree @princessbusayo @mrenglish @fashtioluwa @beckyroyal @susuqueen @luchyl @afrikens.
We cannot possibly tag everyone, so do well to tag your friends.
Let’s go!!
@suqueen @glorydee @pearlsuddy
You people that use to go to parties come and see something here.
I will come back and write my own.
I'm just having breakfast.
And Sam where have you been ?
Am not a party person. But I have friends that live to attend one
I don't have plans for owanbe today though but there's an owanbe I actually went for that can't seem to leave my head. Like a memory for life o 😂
Back then, I went on an event with my boss for a wedding decoration and after we were done on the day of the event, we were given a table to sit in with the other team members and we were served deliciously enticingly and graviously 😄. Probably because it's a family thing and that's why we could be entertained and given a table but then it was my first time of taking salad oo wahalaaad 😂 I should have just ate Abula Amala Ejire jejely
Na running stomach and visitation to toilet make me comot the party that day and tommy no rest till the next day so since then I have the Phobia for salad and won't take it outside except I'm indoors in case 😆
Lol 😂
I remember attending a training in maitama Abuja, all the food they served us was very foreign to me, because I was hungry I chose one that had rice in it. Omo come and see me praying inside the bus to get home safely so as not to poo on my body 😂😄😄
😂😂 Those kind of experience are like a worse nightmare
You will now be sweating profusely in and out, internal heat and external sweat
Sitting uneasy with a sole prayer point of "please let me just get home" 🤣🤣
True true you have been there before 😂😂😂
Severally sef 🤣🤣
All these grammarians ehn 😄😄
You see anything amala or swallows, I am picky at any event except for parties hosted by a real close friend or my family. I don't like eating swallows outside like that.
Those grammars are divinely recognized 😂 so use am like that o
Exactly o so it's rare before you see me take Amala at events
Hahaha 😂 Okay na
@cool08, @nkemakonam89 @deraaa @merit.ahama
Hello guys!
Today is local government election in Lagos. For me, I don't think there is any reason to vote especially in APC dominating Lagos.
Two years ago, I attended one Owanbe in one town called Epe in Lagos. My colleague's mother was celebrating her 70th birthday. His older brother was a local government chairman and the other a council manager in one of the local government area in Lagos. So, you can guess that it was a huge party.
When I arrived at the venue with two of my other colleagues, how host welded us and led us to a special sit where we were served sauced lobsters with red wine. It was an appetizer from what I later learned. Seriously, at the moment we knew we were in for a very sumptuous treat.
Moments later, a waiter came to ask for what we cared to eat. The menu list was long that at first I got confused in making a choice. I later resolved for Amaka with Gbegiri and fresh fish soup.
Others made their request from the menu but I was served first. When my dish arrived, everyone around us and my colleagues decided to go for what I was served.
Before we finished eating, the waiters started bombarding our table with bottles of beer, red wine, champagne. When other guys who were seated around us saw that we were given preferential treatment, they decided to join us.
I watched closely how the guys sipped from their tumbler of beer, it was glaring that they had gotten tipsy. Then, we started debating about football, politics and academics. It was indeed a great outing.
Finally, before we left the venue, our host distributed different kind of souvenir to us. Towel, handkerchief, detergent, hand fans, noodles, cutleries and toilet papers. I went back home that day with a lot of souvenir. I learned that day that when it comes to Owanbe, the Ijebu people does it better.
Hahaha. Ijebu no dey carry last. Lol
You guys were treated so well and I like such kind of party where everyone goes home with satisfactory mind and stomach. Lol
Hehehe. Imagine those plenty souvenirs you went home with.
That's Ijebu party for you. Some people even got bread and Ankara as souvenirs.
Yoruba people are the best at Owambe ooo. I cut hand for them 😁
Yes ooo. The way they cut their meat is out of this world.
That meat stuff is wonderful. Sometimes, I end up putting the meat in a black nylon bag and take it home 😁😁
I don't have any serious plans for today apart from my normal routine. I am not really an owanbe person, I was supposed to attend a wedding last week Saturday but changed my mind at the dying minute.
One wedding that has been living in my head rent free was that of a relative I attended in 2020.
Before I continue let me advise you people, if anyone gets to invite you to a wedding in the village then after getting to the village the village says it's inside the village, omo don't attend.
It was a relatives wedding, after getting to the village we were told that it's inside another village that means the village we were in was the town, omo I changed to red color because of how dusty the road was before we got to this village at night. My whole body was aching because of how bad the road was. Since most of us were looking like frustrated masquerades, we asked for water to take our bath, they told us it's just one well they have we will have to wait till early hours for morning when the water must have settled down before we can fetch water. Oya na show us our room to sleep, we almost tour the whole village, going from house to house looking for free space to sleep.
The following day we were thirsty, we needed water to drink they said, it's from that well. Omo I suffer no be small, we waited till when they were decorating the place for reception, and I asked one of them to please give me water to drink and I was told it's only 1 pack of water they have and it's for people on the high table.
Omo, I almost died that day from thirst.
After this wedding it's only one wedding I have attended in 2022 till date. I no like stress abeg
This is both hilarious and pitiful. You went from village to village plus another tour around the village for a place to lay your head. Sorry 🤣 But your host didn't try at all or wasn't she expecting people to attend? Nothing go ever make me attend any event hosted by such person again.
!BBH
She knew oo, she was the one that invited us na. When she gave birth to her first child she invited me for the child's dedication, I didn't attend oo. Them no dey tell blind man say rain they fall.
It's not me that will suffer for the second time 😂
No be me and una go dey inside village like ijele abeg o
😂😂😂
Mood this weekend.
!DOOK
!LOLZ
!BBH
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No party or church?
Church, yes. Party, not sure.
😂😂😂 chai
Pick your phone and call Uncle na
Make everybody dey their dey.
😂
!BBH
I no agree to this one o. Uncle mist be called upon 😂😂
The last Owanbe parry I went was last year December - at my friend's wedding. I really enjoyed the time. I was part of the bridal train, helped the bride who is my friend to pick money sprayed for her because according to her, she doesn't trust any of her siblings or other friends 😄😄 I actually enjoyed it because it was fun especially having to pick money at the reception with lots of people coming to spray the couple money. The money, when I counted it was over 50k, though some did transfers.
It was an amazing time out there, not for me who don't like going out. It took me weeks to finally decide going because I'd try coming up with different excuses not to come but there was no way I could avoid it. But it turned out great.
@nkemakonam89 @funshee @toluwanih @fashtioluwa where una dey? Come yarn una own oo 😃
Show us your owambe dress first 😌
Lol 😂 why are you like this?
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I want to copy style 😃
Chai, 😂😂 Happy copying
Yesooo😍😍
🤣🤣🤣🤣
😜
For being the one to help picks her money that must be really fun 😊.
So you like to pick money 😁😁😁
I remember this particular owembe that you’re talking about princess. Purple like this or so
😂😂😂
Chai...that owambe I went that I can't forget still dey pain me till date , because imagine craving for hot party jollof rice and just before it got to my turn , rice finished , not even another type of food
Like , we even sew cloth for this wedding oo
I.spent my hard earned HBDs, buying the material and sewing it..then bought yummy gift for the bride ...I was well prepared !
Infact , I didn't eat food while leaving my house because I needed to make room in my stomach where the party jollof go fit enter ...only for me to get disappointed
I was angry ..I no go lie oo 😃
Going home, traffic everywhere ...no vehicle at all..even if I see vehicle , e no dey move an inch because traffic tie wrapper..pple resorted to trekking and I followed suit..lol
We started trekking it...for two hours, I was trekking on the road with empty stomach and with my shoes in my hands because the heel is much to do the trekking
Infact ..make I just write a post at once 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh no this is not Owambe again. It has turned to Owamgo 😂😂😂
Sorry about that happenings but na so e dey happen sometimes
Hahaha...it turned to another thing oo
What an experience lol
Chai 😂😂😂
I have a birthday party at church to attend tomorrow but today I was indoors due to the movement restriction curfew fo local government elections held today.
But as a party-buddy, I recall an owambe I went to last year and it was a lovely expecrience.
There was enough party jollof rice, fried chicken and malt. Owambe's are fun o especially when you were not directly invited 😂😂
This is a nice party jollof rice 😁
Oya ooo, time to do Owambe.
@jmis101, @funshee, @rukkie, come and tell us about your last Owambe party 💃💃
Na read I go dey read because I can't remember any oo
😂😂😂
How una dey, my people?
Today is for FRIDAY PLANS. What are your plans for the weekend? Do you plan to stay home all weekend or do you have a date to plan? While we discuss about this weekend’s topic, you can also share your weekend plans with us.
@ozd @treasuree @bipolar95 @princessbusayo @nkemakonam89 @mrenglish @kilvnrex and others.
We cannot possibly tag everyone and since we don’t want to leave anyone behind, what we will do is to drop comments and tag our friends.
Let’s go!
Omo! I had a very busy week oo. Dem just dey push me up and down. I don’t really have plans for the weekend. Just to watch movies and sleep well.
@hopestylist @rukkie @ozd
What are your plans for the weekend?
Na housework dey call my name like this. Na only God fit help me this weekend.
Thank God I quickly washed my plates this morning.
Don't have any yet, but will make out time if you go carry me go eat suya and shawarma 😁🤗
Eiii! Make I run.
Run to where 😂😂😂
🏃🏃🏃
Come back ooo 😂
Yaayy, happy weekend, Sam. My weekend is planned, mostly to stay indoors, watch movies, eat, go for a program in church later in the afternoon and possibly visit a new friend I met recently 🙂🙂
Eiii! We are almost twinning. No church program for me today .
Yeah, that's great. I hope the day turns out good.
I hope so too, Princess.
So cute.😂😂
I don't have any plans today... Like this now I'm taking my medication for the day, I don't know what happened that sickness is flying around, just this morning my friend was saying he's sick , after he had been the one checking up on me since. Na wa o
I will just be here, you need see the way I'm currently dressed 😂 .
@justfavour do you have any Friday☺️ plan? Come and take tea with me.
Wait! You’re still sick? I guess it is the weather oo.
I am better than yesterday , I have not eaten good food since
Omo.
Is there no food at home?
Yes .
And I have not had strength to go to market to buy anything , infact I have used all my money on injection and drugs. Over 30k plus sef
Omo. That’s a lot oo.
Why should I come and take tea with you, this woman?😂😂😂
My house na . You don't want , just say that . Ehn don't stress me
I will take it with another person.
Wat ever oooo
😂😂😂
I hear you
!BBH
Does it still work sef?
!BBH
Chaiii sorry ma.
Thank you rukkie
Chai what is wrong with you
I'm getting better jawe . Thank you
Good to know
I wish you strength and quick recovery, Treasure. Take care of yourself. The weather is something else for everyone.
Thank you princess
How is the Saturday going?
I dey Dangote refinery like this. Nah for here I know say Nigeria get money, seriously.
But for the matter wey dey ground, my wife no fit male bestie oooo..it is an insult on my person.
@cool08, @debbyrose, @princessbusayo, @nkemakonam89
Come and share you views.
Hahaha 😀 Nigeria get money oo. Yes, I shared mine already and sometimes, one needs to be careful. I wouldn't allow such if we are married.
Basically.
What would a married man or woman be doing with an opposite sex?
Let you partner be your bestie.
That is it oo. You don't need that when you have your partner with you already.
Dangote refinery?? Make una dey help us eeeeee heeeeee.
Nah hustle ooo
Hahaha ..
My lawd 🤣🤣🤣
Ah! How you take reach there?
Nah hustle ooo. The costal road project.
Supply of materials. If you have anyone who has new trucks, connect them to me.
Oh! Okay, sir.
Make Una Dey share update na.
Which kind update you dey find?
Update wey go bring money.
I agree with you, I can let such thing happen ooo. My husband no fit get female bestie. E no make any sense at all.
You got it.
I go envy die.
How another man go be bestie to my wife?
It can never be possible on my side o.
But seriously, folks that allow their spouses to have besties of the opposite gender are risking too much.
Honestly, I can't even imagine myself in that kind of situation.
It a NO NO for me.
I dey Dangote refinery like this. Nah for here I know say Nigeria get money, seriously.
But for the matter wey dey ground, my wife no fit male bestie oooo..it is an insult on my person.
@cool08, @debbyrose, @princessbusayo, @nkemakonam89
Come and share you views.
Lmao which dangote branch?
I'm just seeing this ooo.... Hope say the issue when dey ground no too much sha?
Issue no much oo.
The matter be say, you fit allow your wife get close friend wey be man, like bestie?
Well, she fit get because I trust her a lot
Ok!
Nice one.
I have a busy weekend with a shoot starting today
Good luck with it.
All the best to you.
I don't have any plans for the weekend but am available for anyone that will take me out to eat shawarma and juice
@beckyroyal @justfavour am available for the weekend ooo, as far as you will spend on me
Eyah.....sorry o because shawarma is not in my destiny this weekend na moi-moi things onboard
Na moi moi I eat yesterday, I want eat something different today
😂😂😂
Chai...my lawd my papa. You dey enjoy
Na de enjoyment I dey look for like this
Nice one
Nice one. Please send here
Really?
You want to partake in the fellowship too? 😝😝😝💙
Yes oo 😂 I'm very much interested in this kind of fellowship
Chai 😂😂😂
Naija pipu will not kill me.
Oya get ready
Eii God. I'd plan to make moimoi, too but to go down the street to get pepper is my problem like this 😕
That's not a problem na. Just send one small girl in your neighborhood. Then dash her 100 naira and she will buy the pepper for you 😁
Problem solved o
See her mouth like sharwarma and juice 🤣🤣
Lol 😂
Or you will take me out, distance is not a barrier ooo. If you can't take me out, you can send money let me take myself out 😉😂
House work and artwork o... No other work than that except to eat
Okay I think I have plans for Sunday... From church I have to go visit a friend of mine who just got married to spend the Sunday with them after church service and write my posts on Hive. Probably if there's still a free moment I can see the movies on my phone
Enjoyment. Help me greet your married friend oo.
Lol yes oo.... Yes I shalled 😁
I'm just seeing this sha, but today was just very awesome. The traffic sha con make everything interesting but with that one, I got home from work early.
My plan for this week eh, na to sleep and okay with my children as well as my lovely and beautiful wife.
That's amazing 👏 enjoy the moment with your family.
Yes ooo..... And thanks a lot. I saw your handwork.....
As @beckyroyal and @emreal dey tag me upandan, una no wan make this plan of spending the night at my bestie's place work ni? 😂
Which kain monitoring spirits be this one na? 😂.
We even plan to go to the movies from there we go hang out at one cool joint and then head home. We go come gist small, play hide and seek and throw pillows and then fall on each other while laughing. We'll then hit the bed and sleep soundly.
Ehen nau. What were you expecting? Oh, you think emotions go rise and we go chop the kpomo? No na, we're besties and besties don't do that. 🤣
Hehehe, story for the gods.
Since two adults of opposite gender, wey dey able and active, with fresh blood running through their veins go carry their short legs and clear eye dey do bestie bestie, to the extent of spending the night together, claiming nothing will happen in between. Issorite.
Me I believe them, nothing go happen na, besties don't do such things. 😂 I hear you.
But you see that sleeping lion wey dem wan wake, make dem no run o when im finally wake. With their two korokoro eyes, they'll see that thing they're looking for.
No be for my mouth una go hear say Naija jaga jaga, everything scatter scatter . 🤣🤣
@ebonymama @bipolar95 @thelastdash, come chuk mouth for this matter.
Hahahah mama, you don catch us😂 who be that bestie of yours? Na me go fry am, no talk say I no tell you😂
Say nothing go happen.. dey play😂 @dwixer come see wetin this my mom dey talk o
Wait, my baby don get bestie and I no know?
Tor, help me see am o 🤣
Curfew go start for Imo state tomorrow if she no reverse her actions
Hehehe
It's nothing na. We're just best friends. 😂
Make I see the guy picture first. Na there I fit decide if he stays or go
Ehen nau, nothing suppose happen. Na bestie code be that.
No be wetin dem dey talk.? 😂
Me I no know, shey you said make I no do friend with girl🥹
Girlfriend, good. Na having bestie when the girlfriend is there be the kasala. 🤣
!DOOK
!LOLZ
!BBH
Chai, my lawd, my fada, see my sis don land o with bomb for that matter.
Abeg chop knuckle 🤜🤜🤜
Man and woman dey do bestie, na ebe Keanu?
The beat they're playing, they must surely be ready to dance the dance too.
This your lion talk make me remember two funny songs if those days.
#1. Unleash the dragon by Sisqo
#2. Who let the dogs out by Baha men.
If you know this 2 songs, den you are qualified to eat at the elders table but if you don't know this 2 songs ehn, oya from now just dey call me Aunty Becky ASAP😂😂😂
@rukkie, @kingsleyy do you know these songs
I no tok say make person no do bestie o, but my own be say, e no dey waste time for water to pass garri. To do bestie good o, but no carry fowl tempt dog, e nọ go chop am, crack the bone join. 🤣
Nonsense and ingredients
!BBH
😂😂😂 Maggi and salt 😂😂
Happy weekend,
Honestly, I think it's a potential recipe for trouble. While friendships can be platonic, the lines can easily blur, especially if boundaries aren't clearly defined. Trust issues often stem from situations like these, where one partner might feel uncomfortable or insecure about the other's close relationship with someone else. It's not about assuming infidelity, but about respecting each other's feelings and boundaries. Communication and mutual understanding are key, but it's also essential to consider the potential risks and how they might impact the relationship.
What your own say on this @nellybestie
@bipolar95 @funshee
Check it out @treasuree
Seen
Well done.
You too
It's definitely a risky thing to do, there should be clear boundaries to avoid unnecessary problems in the relationship.
Absolutely, that is my thoughts. It very risky
I agree in the boundaries and also communication too it's is always the key
With a little crack everything can just fall apart
Yeah . I get that so much
Fact💯
Communication is the main key for a healthy and strong relationship, trust is required in every aspect of ones life, without it, relationship is heading no where
Well said. Hope your weekend is starting on a good note
Potential recipe for trouble is the perfect way to define this kind of thing.
Absolutely, cause a small spark will flame so hard
You get it.
Yes. How you weekend is going great?
There is always risk attached to this thing. That best friend might become distraction along the line.
There is nothing wrong with keeping friends but you both should know your boundaries
Exactly.
@tangibleay @tenny-trigah , @toluwayme You can hang out with us here every weekend.
We have @justfavour and @justola1 here. I could organize cage matches for you guys with Hive prizes o
Cage matches, soft. I always love your ideas @samostically
Don't love it yet o. I can throw you into the lions den. These guys I tagged are lions o
Ah. Don't pair me with them ooo
I don't want to get eaten
Give me my size please 🙏🏾
Especially @tenny-trigah . It would be brutal 😭
I am seeing partner having an opposite gender besty and sleeping over… Well no wam, as long as me can go on a vacation with my male besty….. 1+1 = 13
So you like Aura for Aura?
Yes Okro soup for Okro soup 🫵🏿
My guyyyyy! I expected this, make I no lie.😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 see finish dun enter this friendship 🫵🏿😂
Sorry sorry.😂😂😂
You are lucky I can't find my pointing finger emoji 😑
But seriously, good question.
Let’s use this scenario as a case study:
Janet grew up with Paul. They grew in the same neighborhood, dancing, singing and playing together. They attended the same nursery, primary and secondary school, even university. Now, Janet got married to another person. Should she stop being friends with Paul because she is now married?
No, but there should be boundaries. If they are traveling on a family trip with both families no problem but traveling alone??? Just the both of them? That’s crossing the line or sleeping over at each other’s house without their families? Being seen in compromising positions????
Omo. I won’t even have peace of mind. My wife and her “bestie” in the same room all alone?!!!
Thank you dey see am from my perspective. Make everybody just respect their self.
It’s not trust issues for wanting boundaries to certain relationships, occurrences and things because trust me, no one will tolerate such nonsense being done to them not even the supposed partner and their besty
I will soon drop my entry.
Waiting 🧎🏿♀️
No she should not buy their friendship has never crossed friendship . You know so I don't think there's harm . But there should be balance
Omo. It should be different for me oo.
How different ?
No bestie at all.
But normal friends?
Thank you my sister, Aura for Aura. Make all of us dey bestfriending dey go.
😂 wahalad polar .
So you 😂
😂.... Do me I do you God no go vex 🧘♀️
😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂🥂
I'm never surprised 🤣🤣🤣
Avoid me make fight no start here 😂🤣
Yayyyy! It’s time!
It's too early maybe. Today seems boring for some weird reason
Today is just there. Hopefully it gets better.
Its raining here , I don't know about other parts of the country
It's not raining in Lagos right now sha. But I'm sure it will today
Ok ok . I sha miss lag . This weather is not for me at all. How's your weekend going Sam?
Yes, it feels so boring here, too. The weather is doing its own and nature sef dey mind him business. But all good.
You have started again ba, let the post rest first before you start commenting na 😏
No vex, my oga.😂😂😂😂
I been want vex but as you done beg me, I don calm down 😄
Thank God oo.
Your blood too hot.😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
You no fit dey naija and your blood no go hot 🥵
Na everybody blood dey hot.
I will do better next time.😂😂😂
Please do. Don't comment again ooo till tomorrow, rest in Jesus name 😂
Ah! Till tomorrow? You did not even say 15 minutes.😂😂
Even the 15 minutes sef is not possible with you 😂
Thank God you know.😂😂
@hopestylist might not be able to join us today. Hopefully, she makes it tomorrow.
Get better soon Hope. @hopestylist
Fighting 💪
Thank you, mama Treasure.
I will allow you answer for today . Because of hope sake .
So if not for Hope, you won’t allow me answer?😂😂
Yes na
Okay oo.
Have you dropped your entry?
Speedy recovery to @hopestylist👍
Thank you so much.❤️
Thank God
Thank you, Kenny.
You have been so nice.
🙈 No jhor, stop thanking me... We're all friends and we need to check-up on one another
Eii! That’s right.🥹❤️
Amen by God's grace. Get well soon @hopestylist
Thank you so much.
Good morning better people.
This question tie wrapper ooo, nawa ooo! which one is besties again. Then why am I in your life.
I dey come first. @beckyroyal come give them better answer
I don land oooo
Welcome, ma.😂
Thanks bro 👍
❤️❤️
😁💗🌺
Fine flowers.🫣
Welcome ma 😀
😁
Ah but you have bestie?
As of now ehn, I don't have a male bestie because that term bestie is a disguise to hide the guy's inner feelings.
99% of the male friends I had, tried to date me at one point or the other. So that best friend thing na scam
Lmao! At least you're saying the truth. Most people to date won't say it. Once a bestie always a bestie
No ooo. No be for this one o.
Bestie is just a facade. Let's be honest.
99.5 % of opposite genders who are besties have done the deed. They are not entirely innocent, not even the church ones 😂😂
Hmmmm
This is why I say it depends o. Well maybe because all my friends are virtual friends too sha 😂
Come to think of it , I have always been alone for most of the times , indoors with my phone.
@justfavour I just realised that all my friends, like people I call friends are all virtual friends , except for recently wen I travelled o met two . Omooooooo.
😂 . Welli have male friends, I think I have male friends than females. I have never had any try to approach me to date me at all . What we are always discussing is money and we share jokes, but none has come forth to say treasure date me.
That is why I say it is all about your boundaries too
@samostically
Interesting 😁😁
It is
Yes oo but he's my husband sha 😁
Good morning ooooo.
I greet you too brotherly
Make I go find wetin I wan chop.
Buy for three because my stomach na vacuum 😂😂😂
Don’t worry. I’ve got you covered.😂😂
Who else?
I'm waiting ooo
Welcome to this weekend’s hangout.
Thank you
You’re welcome.
Let's go!!!
You don reach here?😂😂
😃😃😃😃 fast fast.
Well done.😂😂😂
Oga!
Don't be a mugu ooo.
In this.our generation, if allow your spouse to have a bestie of the other gender, for me, it's not safe to allow such.
Truth is that most men do not feel secured when another man is close to their wives, the unimaginable could happen.
Besties end up being in love. Most guys who are besties to married women would have been in love with them at one point or the other.
But what if she knows the bestie before the met you abi the bestie is a family friend
Even at that, there must be boundaries. The guy too should begin to settle down nah.
He should not be too close knowing that he would get married someday.
Chai.😂😂😂
What if she met the best friend before she met the husband/boyfriend?
Bros!
Once marriage is sealed, boundaries must be set.
True sha.
Na so, bro.
I salute you, my oga.
That's why life is like a talking drum, when it faces you, it backs other people.
Another angle is, to you men, having besties of opposite gender is not a crime but if the female is to have an opposite gender as bestie, it becomes an offense and act of cheating.
WHYYYY 😋
No oo.
I don't have a female bestie because I respect my wife and don't want her to be insecure. Marriage is sacred and between only man and wife, any other should stay away and never interfere.
Yeaaahhh I get, it's a choice but should never be a suspicious act of cheating towards the person who chose to have
Na so na. Best friend should not be gender-based.
Its best there are set boundaries once married, make everybody cut off their "besties"
Thank youuuuu
There will be boundaries set not even until when you're married sef, shey you get
Na so.
In my opinion, Marry or Date your best friend if you choose to have one. I don't like to share
Wise words!!!
It's good to marry ones best friend but it doesn't necessarily mean your best friend.
It means marry someone who is like your best friend that you can be vulnerable with.
To me, having opposite gender as bestie isn't a crime or an abomination cos God didn't create the two genders to make friends with their particular genders alone.
MEN!!!! 😂
Growing up my mum would often say, A boy and a girl can never be just friends. I thought about it litrally and disagree, but as I grew older I realized that it isn't so.
When they say a guy and a girl can't be just friends, it's saying the love, the attention can never be thesame. And sometimes expecting your husband ir boyfriend to be comfortable with the time you spend with another guy in the name of friendship is utterly disrespectful to that relationship talkless your partner.
Imagine your man having to share his time with another lady because she's his best friend and she was there before you. Imagine doing something with your partner and he's like My bestie is calling I got to go. And such a thing keeps happening over and over again.
Except your best friend isn't someone who can call you at will or come to your house unannouced and enter everywhere and anywhere, I wonder how that kind of friendship will be.
And everything I just said, is just a fraction compared to how complicated it can be to have bestfriend of the opposite gender while married or in a relationship.
Yeah I understand perfectly and that's why I later mentioned the setting boundaries part and also looking out for those kind of red flags and not ignoring.
So I guess prevention is better than cure or as they say, provision store is better than chaos.
Does that mean ones partner either he/she can't cheat with a casual friend or cheat with their partner's friend
This thing na discipline and whom one choose to be with not the bestie of a thing
Yeah, but just because you can resist the devil doesn't mean you should dine with him. And the devil here isn't the person but the situations and relationships.
Chai this one have carry another level and some like this. 😂
It's another hangout time @bipolar95 @mathewdaddywah @afrikens @empressjay @suqueen @aikay @glorydee shey you are done with your exam na ?
I will come back
Ok ma . I will keep your chair
Thank you my love
You are welcome ma
So you did not tag me like this.
Wait na . You are here and I tagged you elsewhere
When and where did you tag me?
You will see it
Okay na.
Yea
Well done oo.
😂 ok
Why are you now laughing?
I should not laugh? Ehn?
Thank you for notification
You are welcome
Ahhh..who is shaking this table of violence with this type of topic oo😃😃
I will be back for my entry
No rush!!!
I.mean no rushhhhhhh!!!! For this kind of topic 😉
Let me rush visit the village market before them pack go home...I no fit buy from these retailers today ..them go cut my head wey I dey manage this period 🤣
They chose violence this early morning.😂😂😂
Mama, buy meat for us ooo.
Ahhhh!...if they choose violence ..they better tag @bipolar95 10 times oo 🤣🤣🤣
My hands are not there shaa 🏃🏃🏃🏃
Oh ..meat...goat meat or cow me eat or lion meat? Which one 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m all about fairness and equity 🧎🏿♀️
Youuuuuuu?!
🧎🏿♀️
Stand up na.😂😂
🥰🥰✅🥳
🥹🤭…. Thank you mama 😘
Bipolar and raw violence… 5 and 6.
Buy snail meat oo.
Ahhh
E cost ooo🤣🤣🤣
Dog meat go fine..lol
Chai! I don’t eat dog meat oo.
Better
Billing quenched !
😂😂😂😂😂 na real violence.
Oya quickly go my Queen, make you quick come back.
Yesooo😃
Buy enough something mamma . Make sure there's chicken .
Oya naw
Thank you ma
😂😂😂😂 This question make me laugh but let me give my response anyway.
I am okay with my partner having a best friend of the opposite gender but sleeping over ke? That's a capital No for me o.
Should either of them be stranded, they can easily spend the night in a hotel, abi na Sambisa forest them wan "strand" theirself ni.
Wait! What if your partner starts doing things with his best friend? Like, telling her secrets or even being too friendly with her?
Happy secret telling to both of them o.
Na everybody fit get best friend na. As him dey get, make me sef dey get my own.
Aura for aura.😂😂😂
No time to check time.
Na so e suppose be.
What kind of secrets are you talking about ? Because in fact there are some things that shouldnt be out to another parties ear especially in marriage, I learnt that one after a fight I had with hubby. I was chatting BJ and he saw the chat , And BJ is on a friend o. And since he said that I stoped
Secrets, gists, little talks.
Hmmmm
I really don't know , but you know when you are talking with someone , you just talk everything just comes out to keep conversation you get?
Yeah, I get it sha.
Yeah . I'm a loner normal . So......
For me, I am not okay with both the best friends and the sleeping over, nahhhh
😀😀😀🤣 make everybody dey their dey
You get the full gist😂
I have no issues with my partner having an opposite gender as bestie cos I understand such situations and that doesn't mean they're into any affair but allowing him sleep over in her house? NAH! I can't allow that.
Not because I don't trust him to sleep over in peace but because we are all humans and flesh could take charge any moment and that's why you shouldn't test a dog with raw meat all because you think you've trained it not to eat it.
My Friday is gonna be to continue with the portrait I'm making so I can finish up on time, then eat and sleep at midnight 😉😁
Omo. What if he starts calling her too frequently? What if he starts telling her secrets ?
Yayyy! Good luck with the portrait.
That means I have failed as a wife if my husband chose to tell his secret to his bestie and not me. That doesn't make me insecure about them but insecure for myself.
No matter how much my partner loves to talk to his bestie, I should be his bestie who he is always ready to share his every dirts and clean talks with. I'm not saying some men don't take it for granted or otherwise but that's why you have to be sure of whom you're spending the rest of your life with before entering into the ship and not ignoring any red flag.
I have opposite gender as besties (2) and that doesn't mean I have any string attached with them so with that I can judge that not everyone has a fling with their besties. It only depends on choice, the boundaries you set and determination on what you want to do
Hmmm! This is deep. The first part of this comment is really deep. It sounds like what someone I know would say. The same thing should work Vice Vera. If your wife shares secrets with other people, then you have failed as the husband.
Exactly you get my point now.... And another angle is someone who had noticed the closeness btw the two besties while still dating or courting, after complaints or calling to order there's still no change, then in such situation, there's no excuse for you ending up in that marriage where your partner relies on bestie than you.
It's either he/she changes when you come into the picture, though he/she still keeps the bestie but he/she is now very much attach to you and that's where the limits to the closeness with the bestie begins.
What if it's natural that men and men date or marry themselves, would we say they can't be besties as well?
If he/she really wants you, then the bestie should be out of the picture. You can’t eat your cake and have it.
You can eat and have it o if you don't chew it all 😂😂🏃🏃 All these proverbs
their topic of discussion , that what should matter
Topic of discussion?
I have shi oyinbo so
And it's always with you
Ah! You are confusing me o.
Don't worry I have edited it check again
You get ittttt.... Their topic of discussion
I can't expect them not to gist with themselves or discuss issues but you would sense it off when it's not a typical thing to talk about and that's when you come in cos everyone is prone to commit errors. It now depends on the partner to adjust if one has not missed it when choosing a life partner
Na so o. Him sleeping over or her sleeping over? NO NO NO.
Yeah I won't accept that too... Aani reshu 😂
😂😂😂😂 Ki esu gan ma lo ta felefele de odo mi.
😂😂😂😂 I was expecting a question of interpreting what I said I
As innnn 😂 Ki eshu ma ta felefele cos one leg trouser no go contain us
He cannot do that na
Don't say that o. Some people go take allowance if you give them small "allow"
😂 issoright then I hear
That's the power of trust exactly.... At the same time we shouldn't risk the unriskable
That's why the Yoruba adage says "Bi ogiri o ba lanu, alangba koni wo Inu e" (If the wall no crack open mouth gadagba, lizard no go enter am pass 🙃😉)
My dear you are on point on this .
Abi now. This life issues na like 6 and 9. The side it shows to us often make us judge the world or situations in general and that's why all our perspectives can't be the same
Omo, you get mind o.. I seriously can't permit my partner to have best friends of the opposite gender, what is wrong with me? Can't I be that friend? And for sleeping over.. Omo.. are you kidding me?
Lol seriously I don't have issues with it as long as it's a healthy one but sleeping over? Hell no 😂
Sha, you na strong lady.. no be from best friends him go get mind go sleep over?😂
See na when house no sweet man dey get mind to sleep over except if na promiscuous man before. He no go even dey calm until he reach house cos na where hin treasure dey be dat not outside
Hahaha there's always a first time to everything sha
I can't oo. I can't start what I can't finished, it a no no for me, no female bestie anything. Abeg
Lol 🤣.... I understand we have different appetite but what if he chose to cheat with a casual friend of he doesn't have a bestie
It's a determination and discipline to not cheating your partner either it's a bestie thing or casual friend
Hmmm 🤔 true sha but still, I won't allow any bestie anywhere oo.
Mama no allow am o abeg 😂 cos that two oo means a lot 😂
Hahahah I can't start what I won't be able to finish ooo .
Yeah it's actually safe to play safe if you don't feel safe about it 😉
Where is @bipolar95 before she carry head and say I did not call her?
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was giving my two cent opinion because what is good for the geese is good gander Abi is that not how they use to say it?
Guyyyy! I just laughed out loud.
What is this, my lord!😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣…. That my lord made me remember @hopestylist 😂🤲🏾
100 for you!
My baby is sick.🥲
I’m going to the hospital today for treatment because I don’t want my own fever to break me down. Yesterday I lost my sense of smell. I hope she’s getting better?
Omo. She isn’t getting better o.🥲
Omo. What is good for the geese is now good for the gander oo.
🥂 You be better person 🧎🏿♀️
Normal!
❤️✌🏾
Tell us if you think it is okay for your partner to have a best friend of the opposite gender
They are of two ways for me:
Number one, if they have both been together before I came into the picture, why not? I won't stop him from having the friendship continues. It's all depends on trust with each other. I believe if he had wanted to be with his girl friend (best friend), he wouldn't have approached me to marry him. So, I don't mind about that. Of course, I would let him know the communication should reduce and not like meeting or seeing often. Whatever they need to be discussing over should not go to the extreme.
Number two, if it happens when we are already married, that's something I wouldn't accept and allow. Am I not his best friend after we've gotten married? I'm his friend, love, wife and everything, so, there shouldn't be anything best friend from the opposite gender except for just casual friends.
Happy weekend my people, @beckyroyal @fashtioluwa @empressjay @nkemakonam89 @merit.ahama @vickoly @abdul-qudus come let's rob minds on this topic together. Do you agree with my point or make I face front mind my business? 🤣🤣
I dey come back to reply. I get things to do....🤪🤪
What of from church? Like church bestie. Will you allow? Even if you’re married. At least they met in church- you didn’t meet the person because you had a time you were working on sundays!
It should be church friend and not too close please 🤣 closeness might lead to something which most times, we can't control the circumstances- we are humans even though the trust is there. We only need to be careful. There's nothing wrong in having a friend from church but at the same time, caution is needed because devil sef wicked 🤣
So all you're saying is no bestie except he met her before you.
If then what's the difference? Isn't that one worse because you don't even know the Genesis of their friendship. And even if he did tell you, you can't verify
And do you know what? It all boils down to deeper communication while still on the way before you guys get married. As a lady, I should be able to let him know what I wouldn't want; this isn't me trying to coerce him to do what I want, he needs to be wise, too to understand that the lady he's marrying should be his one and only and not giving room for anyone except they had just meet and greet on a casual level. In my tribe, they say, what you won't accept while you are rich, you should reject while still poor before it gets too late.
Abeg write that last part in your tribe language 😀
🤣🤣🤣
”Oun ta ba ni fe ni olowo, talaka la ti n ko”
😝
Gbam my sis, I support your point
Who says church friends cannot develop feelings?
The way most people cover themselves under the disguise that they are church persons and no, they can't do such a thing. Even people hide under the coverings of the church and still commit atrocities. They also have feelings, Favor. So, whether church or not, I don't want too much closeness with each other as long as we are married and together.
I don’t know if you heard of the church brother who murdered his friend and try to blackmail her parents. Church guys are also human beings.
Yea, I heard it, too. It broke my heart. Like, he's called a gospel singer, too. Or is he not the one? Just imagine the heart of such kind of person.
Ah! Which one is church bestie again oo. Bestie na bestie.
Which one is church bestie 😂 I cannot laugh abeg. Those ones are friends.
You see all those church besties na them worst pass
That's exactly what I said as well my sister. Which kind fake bestie be that one after we are married? Mtchewww
See, everybody should respect their boundaries o. Even me as a lady, once I know that a male friend if mine is married, I use my number 6 to give chance small small na. I will reduce my level of communication with that make friend because I don't want to destabilize his family.
Exactly 👍
This is on point. Once my male friend is married, it calls for me to limit my interactions with him except when I just needed some help or advice. Enjoy your marriage and leave me 🤣
Na so o. We need to use common sense but like dey say, common sense is not common 😁😁
Hehehe 😀
😂😂
Well said, Princess. I don’t think I can handle this best friend thing even in a relationship. As long as you are my best friend, I should be your favorite person. Even if you met the person before me, it doesn’t matter.
Exactly. Your partner should be your best and favorite person. So, why choosing someone else to perform my role? Lol
Lol. They should just marry their best friends instead.
I'm telling you....lol
Even before marriage, I should be your your best friend. Why did you accept to date me in the first place. Please let's tell ourselves the truth, that thing is risky 😂
Now I agree with this. But funny how when a guy that’s good have a girl, the girl will become his best friend even though he has a best friend before, it wouldn’t just be the same especially if the best friend is a girl and same goes for a girl too
It’s just common sense
I greet una oooo, my naija pipu. How is you all does? 😁
I throway salut for this topic because it is topicking 😁.
Clears throat
My own for this one be say.....
I will be okay with my man having a female best friend especially if they've been friends before I came into the picture. But immediately I enter the picture, I will establish myself well in my man's heart so that he won't think of his female bestie.
For the 2nd part of this engagement, all I can say is that I laugh in Japanese.
My man can not and should not even tho k of trying they stunt with me o. Sleep over night in whose house. Na ebe ka ha ne me ihe nka?
For his own sake, if he wants his third memeber intact, he should not even try it.
Like what the heck is that mtchewww
Madam abeg no vex, explain with charts and diagrams, the meaning of "third member"
😂😂😂
Eweleke! Shiuuuu, na my mouth you wan hear say Bihari don get bele abi?
You no do Biology for school?
Pay me for more studies 😂😂
My teacher no teach me reach that side, make him make I say make you explain.
Abeg add pictures to the explanations because what I see, I will never forget.
Chai... Pictures ...really?
I'm coming first.
Ehen, I have come as your teacher to show you.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yes na, why you dey laugh 😁😁
Yes na, why you dey laugh 😁😁
You want more ????
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Teacher ma pa mi nau.
You will need private tutorial for that one no be for here
😂😂😂😂
😂 you have seen na
Let me follow you to laugh in Japanese.😂😂😂
Abeg join ooo because I don leave Japan now. I dey go towards Indonesia 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You no go like stay for one place?😂😂
Who dey stay one place this days....?
Abeg we move
I just dey wake oo.
Chai.
Happy wake up. Oya go bring the food 😁
😂 you are funny .
Establish yourself well well.
Sha when you get there you will cross it
Yes oo. I go do the doings and talkings wella so that him no go get mind to remember one bestie.
But on a serious note, a responsible guy would not maintain a deep relationship with the opposite gender if he is lawfully married. His whole attention and focus would be on his new family. He will not have time to be calling any outsider with the umbrella of friend.
The reason we are having this discussion is because we don't understand the power of the flesh and chemistry in emotions. If we really do, then each person will respect themselves.
Hmmmm ok na .
Its not only a man . Women too .
Keeping friends is not bad but bestie hmmmm
Yeah bestie is overboard
Yeah
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Like what the heck is that, I am the only bestie in your life
Gbam!!!
Supported!!!
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It's cool to have a friend but not best friend please and there must be boundaries if I am accepting it. I can't come and be the cause of my relationships failure na
Exactly o bro. Abeg chop knuckle for your sharpness joor.
Ah, this our world get as e be o. If you do anyhow, you will watch another person take away your partner 😂
Please raise the volume oooo
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This thing you said is the Koko of the matter 😂
😂😂
👍
You are a real man 🤜🤜
LoL, prevention is better than cure
Na so 😁
I can't think of that too hahah 🤣 which bestie for where, abeg o. And no sleeping over anywhere.
Chop knuckle jare. You be better pikin joor 🤜🤜
Hahaha 🤣 moving in one spirit abi.
Yes ooo
NASo sister.
😁😁
Common sense be say, you make your partner your bestie.
That is just it. You on point.
Gbam! 😂😂😂
Hahahah
I want @fashtioluwa, @kingsley and @daverick to put mouth.
See me running to come and put mouth for wetin I no know 😅.
Omoooooo...make I shout fess cos this matter long pass Long Island 😁. That's if it's long sha.
Be like una don dissect the topic finish, na wetin I wan come put mouth again laidis.
I just busy like wetin yesterday, wey I for come put mouth on top this matter...
You can still chook mouth o because this is more for guys than for ladies 😂
Dem don dey push am to us oo 😅
No wahala sha, we go still take am laidat.
Yes oooo. I go push am because na you guys dey do this kind thing pass.
Funny thing is that, the guy will claim to have a female bestie but he won't allow his wife to have a male bestie. Who do us like this????
Make I carry this matter go meet association of gentlemen fess...
In any case, it's not right sha, at all. Who do us too like this? 😄
Yes ooo
As a guy do you a female bestie?
If you do and you are also in a very serious relationship, will you be sleeping over at your bestie's house?
Na the summarization of the whole matter be this.
So put mouth becos laidis self, we never disect the matter finish😁
Omooo...emme take water fess for two minutes, hehe...
See this bestie thing ehhn, especially with the opposite sex, na issue from time. Not all cases sha, but in most dem just dey lie to each other or one person dey genuinely deceive the other. Na so I see it observe am sha.
I think for whatever reason I end up with another lady, then even if I have a bestie she no get choice but go relegation to a friend, in a case we don marry especially. Just to avoid stories that touch later. This human feelings and emotions no be play oo, lol.
And then sleeping over? For wetin na? How inwan come dey explain say I sleep for my supposedly bestie side. I go just explain tire. Na wetin dem dey call playing with fire and I no ready to burn or catch fire 😂😂.
With dis small mouth wey I chook hope say I no cause wahala but I direct the matter too small...😁
You direct the matter well because I been dey look you with corner eye to hear wetin you want to talk but last last, you talk well. So gbosa for you 🤜🤜
Omoo thank God dat corner eye no catch me sha. Only two gbosa? E suppose reach like 10 na 😁
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E don complete like this o.
😂😂
Let's call a spade a spade....
There's no sense in keeping a bestie of the opposite gender especially when you are married or in a serious relationship.
Your partner is your bestie, whom you forsake all others to cleave to.....period.
That's just it. Where I come from we'll say ‘shikenan’
And to think of it, if you call someone else a bestie, that means is someone you comfide in and can tell deep things. So you then leave your husband or wife or relationship partner to confide in the bestie?
So unreasonable...
Very very very very very unreasonable 🤜
I have put mouth see
Even eyes and nose
😂😂😂
Let me also call on my personal pipu for this @nkemakonam, @luchyl, @faithwellingtin and @ellizy to come and support me because this one is like we need to be violent 😂😂
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You're welcome
Where is @empressjay and her emperor?
Friday is already screaming hectic as this is examination period in schools. But Saturday gen gen, is for eating and sleeping. I plan to prepare moi-moi and add pap with it so that the sleep will be deep and sweet.
Nobody jealous me oo😂😂😂
@luchyl, and @rukkie, how you see am na
Chaiii, you no go like give me your address bayi make me self con ganusi small.
I go send am to your spiritual P.O box. Just text it to me in the spirit 😂😂
I feel that this whole matter of having a best friend of the opposite gender while in a relationship or marriage depends on your boundaries, if there is full respect and nothing shady is going on, then it is not that deep at all, But at the same time, how close is too close?
Because let sha not lie o , if you see your partner is always calling or chatting with someone of the opposite gender, laughing anyhow, sharing deep stuff and you are not even carried along, you go feel somehow. It is not about insecurity, it is just normal.
So I’m not saying that people should drop their old friends because they are now in a relationship, but there should be balance and clear communication. Nobody wants to feel like second place to your “bestie.”
I don't have a best friend per say, because I never wanted to keep one because of my Ex husband, he has always been someone I could talk to about anything then. If I doing something or met someone online that I have started talking to I sure was to let him know , especially if there were opposite gender.
And there is this thing called trust , if you do not trust your partners too, you would be having this thought that he or she keeping opposite gender friend is wrong. Well I stand to be corrected @nkemakonam89 @vickoly @jessicaossom @suqueen @justfavour @merit.ahama @jamerussell
What's your say?
You saw my tag right @justfavour
Omo, Respect or not Respect. Trust or no Trust. It is never wise to have an opposite bestie. You can have an opposite sex friend that I am okay. There is no way, at least one among the two must have a feeling for the other.
😂 , hmmm ok let me say I agree with you, I just can't relate. I have always had virtual friends.
Also I think being a friend to the opposite gender is okay, at least we are human, still with being casual friends there should still be boundaries
It is easier for virtual friends but if there friends are in the same environment when they spend the much time together. It will have a different story
Hmmm I get it.
Have you made your own entry on the post?
Yes just did. Check it out let me tag you to it
Ok tag me
Can't find your tag
Heheh, my dear, you don talk my mind, no one say make you no keep friends of the opposite gender but know your boundaries. You can come and be treating someone like your lover and be telling me it's bestie..
😂 I get that kind thing . It is well
No be small well o
Many people wonder if it’s acceptable for their partner to have a best friend of the opposite sex. The answer is yes provided there is trust, clear boundaries, and open communication.
Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. If you trust your partner, their friendships shouldn’t cause worry simply because of gender. Clear boundaries help ensure that emotional intimacy, physical contact, and time spent with friends don’t interfere with the romantic relationship. Open communication allows both partners to express feelings, clarify expectations, and maintain transparency.
Ultimately, having a best friend of the opposite sex is normal and healthy when both partners feel secure and respected. It’s not about the gender of the friend but about the strength and honesty within the relationship itself @fashtioluwa what's your opinion sir.
Trust can still be broken .yunnor?
Omo. This is deep ooo. Even if there is trust enh. You see, you might trust your partner, but what about the friend?
Since you trust your partner,that he or she can't try to betray the marriage or relationship it's just for you to keep on monitoring him or her and reducing the time him or her spend with the friend
Hm. It doesn’t really work that way.
But yes, I guess your point.
Too much trust fit be problem too. I can't approve what will give me high blood pressure. I trust whosoever I am dating but seriously, I don't think I will be okay with them having best friends of the opposite gender.
You can have casual friends, it's cool but best friends is a no, no for me
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Chai, it's like someone is trying very hard to spoil market for besties this weekend 😂🤣
But wait, an African proverb said, "What kind of playing a leopard 🐆 can be playing with a dog?
Let's all besties rest o, I'm now his bestie, and did I just read sleepover at his bestie house, no now that is kind of risky.
It's not as if I have trust issues o, but some boundaries needs to be set.
Where is @ibbtammy, @lecia89 and @dwixer come and put your thoughts in this topic.
We have poured sand in all the besties’ garri.😂😂
Hahaha, it's better o before they will spoil our show.
Hahaha. Na just trust issues sha. I don get plenty besties wey I sleep for their house and I no even think anything as long as rain no fall 😂.
However, no be say I no trust my woman o, but devil no dey rest, and sometimes man brain fit knock out if the position compromise small.
Before I get high blood pressure dey think left and right wetin dey happen next as them dey together, make everybody just dey him lane.
Hahaha 🤣😂 you see, if rain falls.
It's simply better everybody maintains their side lol
True.
I sha fear ex pass bestie
Hehe that one is a different strong case 🤣
Omo this weekend don start with another rainy section. No plans yet but it already looking long.
Bestie ke,, na only me be my partner bestie and na me be his bestie.. as for the second question, it's not an option at all , just find hotel lodge their or better still spend the night in another person's place @danieluche @blessedglow @harmony2605 come chok mouth for this matter
Confirm!😂😂
This topic get as e be😏
Abeg shey i fit tak my mind
My own be say most married people today got married through bestie say bestie nor say
You understand,my wife or my girlfriend will keep nothing as a male bestie because one day the will fall in love leave me🙄
I am inviting @favourright @joymm @chilucky to join me on this one
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Hello naija. This is my first time posting here. Hope I'm welcome. I can't let my partner have a female bestie, not because I don't trust him, but because anything can happen from the other side. You know what i mean right 👍, what if she have feelings for him already secretly? What if he want to stay faithful, but then, the bestie goes extreme just to make him do the unthinkable.
I can't even imagine my man in another woman house talk more of passing the night, so it a capital NO for me. Thank you for reading through. I also want to be tag on the next post please.
Una welldone o my people, Una doo.
My own be say I no talk say make my man no get woman or girl as friend but wetin go make me get wahala with am con show her small film for her be say make she no feel comfortable when I dey around abi make she no no her place.
SEBI nah she grew make dem introduce am as ordinary friend, even if them two dey do he no consign me, my own be say if I dey around my man make she shift go one side and if transformer dey, she fit hug am sha. This one make me remember one woman wey wan follow my husband by force dey call am friend dey chew gum the man up and down.
Na just my look pursue the were comot for my husband store me wey be say I be drama queen. The funny thing be say I no go even follow the woman talk, nah me with my man go do the talk. I the woman con put her mouth, she go collect. Ire o
lol did your husband tell you anything about her!
Yes nah. Him tell me say babe see lagbaja o, nah computer she say she wan learn o but I no like as she dey touch me if anybody no and I no wan offend am
Na so I close from work one Friday go resume for him store, woo body tell the woman so they she stop work the following week con tell him neighbour wey con gist us later say me I get igba for head say shame dey catch her. The story long but make nobody bring shit come my domot
Yes nah. Him tell me say babe see lagbaja o, nah computer she say she wan learn o but I no like as she dey touch me if anybody no and I no wan offend am
Na so I close from work one Friday go resume for him store, woo body tell the woman so they she stop work the following week con tell him neighbour wey con gist us later say me I get igba for head say shame dey catch her. The story long but make nobody bring shit come my domot
Una welldone o my people, Una doo.
My own be say I no talk say make my man no get woman or girl as friend but wetin go make me get wahala with am con show her small film for her be say make she no feel comfortable when I dey around abi make she no no her place.
SEBI nah she grew make dem introduce am as ordinary friend, even if them two dey do he no consign me, my own be say if I dey around my man make she shift go one side and if transformer dey, she fit hug am sha. This one make me remember one woman wey wan follow my husband by force dey call am friend dey chew g
This one na better topic be this ooo... I wish say I don see this topic before now, e for sweat die. My wife na jealous type ooo. She can never allow me to have a female as best friend. Even if nothing dey happen between us, she can never let me have anyone like that, not in her next life.
This na weitin she dey always talk and truly she hates am seeing me with another woman as my ordinary friend. Having woman phone number in my phone self na wahala. I have write thousands of letters before she go fit know say na ordinary friend or else, she no fit agree at all.
For me sha, I fit allow her make she gets because I trust her to my last level.
Jealousy is part of human nature in both men and women. It takes deep trust to overpower that side of us. So don’t be quick to say she doesn’t trust you; she does. But the trust she has for you might not yet be strong enough to silence the natural jealousy within her...
She's my heart and even with her jealousy, our love has grown stronger.
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STOPI have been off my phone for the past 3 weeks, but I’m fully back now...and this week’s topic is a real gbas gbos one! 😄 Trust issues? I’ve had my fair share of personal experiences. It’s deep. I might as well put it all into a write-up. ..because trust is a big deal for me.
Hello everyone..
I won't like my partner having a bestie aside me, my trust issues won't let me.
So it's a no no for me
Somebody should invite me to come and eat nah.. it's not fair ooo
lol...which kind question be this? especially the second part... hmmm. I will be reading the comments
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To be Sincere in as much as we are expected to have an "automatic trust" in our Partner, personally, my trust in my Partner is strengthened by track records.
How much you've built your reputation, not putting me in a position to doubt or question your loyalty, being transparent and making clear and defined friendships over time strengthens my trust for you.
While this may sound as jealousy, I assure you, it's not. Best Friends means (to me) Best out of my Friends, I believe this title should be kept for me! Lol (Believe I'm not a hater) I believe I am an open minded person so I like to see things from their perspective and draw reasonable conclusion.
He can have good friends of the opposite gender but relating with them should have clear boundaries. If you need to spend the night somewhere else, it must definitely be at his fellow guy's place or a hotel. He should already know this without me even telling him.
I am the one choosing to do life with you, go through your highs and lows, carry your Children, be your solace and a lot more, I should be your Best Friend.
Trust issues can begin to rise when you're character becomes questionable.
I would really want all the ladies in his life to know my place in his life and respect it and he should be the one setting that standard.
@sam.hangout
What do you think @bhetea01 @bem999 @amma1