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TRANSGENDER
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FRIDAY PLANS, OWANBE SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY REFLECTIONS
On Friday, we talk about our goals for the weekend. Will you be indoor throughout or do you have a date to plan? Owanbe Saturday is a day to share interesting gists about parties. You can also share pictures. On Sunday, we reflect and share our plans for the new week. Let’s see how it goes!
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For me, I believe anyone whose identity changes over time or lost their self of identity, then I think that person is not fit to be moving freely in the society. It just shows that that person is mentally challenged:
This is something we as a society should not accept. The fact that some people can identify as anything is just so absurd. You can identify as a cat and then you’ll expect the society to accept you are a cat, any society that accept such should know that that society is running mad and will collapse
What are your thoughts @tressuree @soma18 @desire-pen @justola1 @abdul-qudus @neysco @trojan1
This was so funny and I know it was funny because I’m not guilty.
Most people that chose to identify as anything needs help not acceptance. They are screaming help me the moment they are confused of what they are and they start seeing the need to be something else that they weren’t initially.
The society accepting just anything is only calling for chaos. The moment some countries accepted it, that was the moment more persons became encouraged to want to be who they are not.
People that can decide to be anything at any point in time has lost themselves and definitely they need help.
They do o. And we have to try to bring them close first to be able to make them see reasons with us.
Like really... I'm not really against gay people and all that, but hearing the recent talks of "I identify as...". Like bro, come on. When did all this start?? They really have lost themselves.
They have lost their self of identity actually
It's just still okay that there's still a lil fear about it over here
Yes o.
I just pray we don’t join the crowd soon.
Amen o 🙏 big prayer at that
Yes o. God please help us. 🤲
Lol, if they give Nigeria such freedom
Not even the government will be able to handle us
If they accept it
They would do beyond that, humans are know to do more if given the freedom
Yeah. That’s why we say “if they give us chance we will take chances”.
😄
I saw one meme like that which said "l identify as a threat,my pronouns are try/me"
Since anybody can be anything now.
This is extremely serious 😂
😂😂 yes na.
🤣🤣
That one sef Dey
Try me and you’ll see threat
The fact that every human has rights according to the law has made everyone mind their business And allow which ever decision an adult can made. Be it Positive or negative
I don’t think our right as citizens of a country should give us the freedom to do things that are against our norms and traditions
Like broo. They really are mentally challenged. Because wtf would anyone want to identify and live their life as a cat. But everyone is preaching human right now, people can any or whatever they like
One thing we need to understand is that
Even when we have human right and all
That doesnt still give us the right to go against normal morality
Anyone who have right of movement, then go ahead to kill someone, their right will be taken from them
Same should be applied to this people
Straight to the point. No mincing words, this is just it.
Thank you jare
No time to play with words here
Give them as it is
Haha...
Òmo, you no send any Johnny just come.
Well, I must confess,some people have lost their sense of belonging and as such the society should take it up squarely with them.
There should be strict measures to what os acceptable to the society and what is not.
But then, what do we say to some of the western world that have accepted this nasty lifestyle in the name of culture or diversity 🤔 🙄
Thank God that done still have that sense of saying and doing the right thing.
Am also happy that this community has raised this issue and happy with the responses I've read so far on it.
To be candid, such vice should not be allowed to thrive among us.
You see
They wanted to give people the freedom to express themselves and now it has backed fired
Now they are looking for a way to manage it
It will be hard to do such
I know if Nigeria government give Nigerians such freedom to do what they want, I bet you, the Nation would have turned upside down
You think so?
Well, I don't think we are talking about what we want ,but the things we can do if given the opportunity.
Just like your 10 points agenda when campaigning for the post of a councilor or any post whether in politics or student union government or even in market, church etc.
You must have a manifesto that reflects the things you want to do if given the opportunity 😉 😏
So many Nigerians have good intention for the country but they do not have such opportunities to even get close to those in the corridors of power, let alone executing their ideas.
Òmò, I will reiterate, if I have such opportunity, that house of assembly will be my first visiting place.
We need to make good laws that will impact and add values to people's lives.
@fashtioluwa are you getting me?
I get you but you know not everyone can be in power
What I’m saying is that
If the Nigeria government give Nigerians the free to identify as anything they want, like trans and gay rights, they will misuse it
Happy Owanbe Saturday 🎉💃 Saturdays are for parties, weddings, and plenty of jollof rice. Do you have any owambe lined up today, or are you chilling at home? Share your Saturday plans with us.
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My Saturday is always a busy one for me
Same here man
No owambe today again ooo
Today's for resting.
No owambe here too oo
Rest well ehn
Thank you
Today ehn! I will be sleeping and sleeping with no worries for city giveaway if I come short 🙈😕 cos I'm so tired. I had been out for a ministration since last night. Though it's a 24hours 9am-9am but I was called for overnight session so I joined in since 9pm last night and my legs from thighs are so freaking weak atm.
My eyes are saying:
I think @princessbusayo has a planned Owanbe of a wedding today and the Olubadan coronation she went to that day 😄😜. Oya do fast and come and gist us.
Ouch! Sorry about your legs. I hope you will be able to find time and rest.
Happy Saturday ❣️
I rest small though not as I planned
Thanks Funshee
You are trying, I hav backslided from church things sha. Sha with time . Hope it was spirit filling? Well I know it will be
He's always waiting for his precious daughter
Yeah it was.. All glory to God
How did you know it will be 😁😄
See Her Mouth 😂
Wo I am my father's daughter
I know na
I know right.... True daughter of her father
Ehn how you take know
Abeg where people dey see owambe dey go. Drop locations abeg, I dey active!
Laidis we just dey house oo today.
Let me know when the location is dropped 😂😂 don't leave me behind!LOL
I can't leave you. No worry, lemme find those locations dem dey hide, we go mount there 😅
Oya now, I will be with you in spirit.
Lol
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U wan to go and ganu🤣🤣🤣🤣
I no know wetin be ganu but as na for owambe I dey game 😅😁
Dey play
Lol
Owambe later today by 4, my family of faith gathering but food shall be there so we move!
Happy parting
😄😄😄💃💃💃
Owanbe wey no get food nah meeting.
Help me tell her again , be like she no no
Yes nah
😁😁😁😁yes ooo
I have no owanbe to attend oo, but I have been busy doing deep cleaning of my house, plan on cooking for the family soon and visiting a friend late in the day.
Happy Saturday guys, have fun and enjoy your weekend.
I’m glad you don’t have any to attend. I can’t be the only one 😂
Look out for one and invite me ooo😊
Okay gotcha 🫶🏻
Like this I dey find owambe, e don tey wey I chop wedding rice.. people around me don Marry finish..
Maybe we should tell them to renew their vows, we must chop jollof rice hehe
Hehe yes o
Lolz this one got me smiling over and over😃
Just like that, and imagine that?
May be, we should ask them , excluding you @funshee
Haahhahaa, soo funny 😁 😂 😀
You must be a foodie 😂🫶🏻
I no dey joke with am o😆
Too busy to even know it is Saturday
Big man doings Ajeh
😭😭😭😭 im glad you think so
As usual, no owanbe is lined up for me today, I have been home all day sewing this beautiful baggy pant for myself. @beckyroyal @ozd @rukkie bring jollof rice come from party oo
You see? Omo shey you would have sewed my own join
😂😂
It's not too late, send her your measurements and she will see it for you.
No Owambe today but Owambe dey tomorrow after church. I can't wait to rock that Owambe oo.
Your own better nah, you get hope
Yes ooo
Hope you had a wonderful time sha
Yes I did thank you ❤️
If I tell you I just woke up , like I slept all through today. So I'm home again and currently preparing to go back to Uyo.
I'm just feeling drained in a way.
It's a lazy Saturday for me sha.
I had one traditional marriage to attend, but I didn't. I had to stay back and tidy up other things
Happy weekend
This is a topic of great concern...
It's quite appalling to say we can choose who we are. At least, within the circumference of this discourse. We are who we are, and we can't change a thing about it. It's deeper than the superficial outlook given it.
Perhaps, this is just a crisis of identity not a change a person is necessarily drifting towards. This brings me to the consideration if people's sense of identity can change over time or it remains consistent.
Identity crisis again. You can't just wake up and say you feel like you're more of an opposite gender. It's a culture being sold and permeated in the mind. Will we say a person's identity changed when they begin to identity as plants too? Let's not talk animals cos some people are doing that already.
Its a drift from that natural and divine order of things. There might be societal influence and projections, but does it hold weight? It's about a culture being sold. And sadly, it's selling well.
We should do well to love and appreciate ourselves for who we are. We were created and born that way for a purpose. When one decides to go the other way, it's a case of mental instability, I'll say.
Oya, @hopestylist @beckyroyal I don chook mouth finish oo. Let's hear you too @lecia89 @emreal @soma18.
Identity crisis it is indeed. Those who think that they can get tired of being who they are created as and be something else are only lost and needs us to find them. But sadly, the society is rather looking for ways to condole it because they think it is their rights. Forgetting we all have a role to play in each other’s lives because no one knows it all and we are bound to make the wrong choices.
Nice input, Daverick. 👌
That's it. And it's very sad. The society can come in to help address it but it is rather condoning it. The effects are drastic which isn't mentioned or acknowledged from their ends. We really need each other indeed, we don't know it all.
Thank you, Hopestylist. Glad my input makes some sense. 🙂
When it comes to things like this, we forget the power of togetherness. It is only in things that brings money that we clamor for togetherness and all.
The moment a family has failed to instill the right mindset in a child, the next place that child can get help is from his or her social environment and if that environment is not after their own good, they end up making more wrong choices.
So true. It's sad, we need to do better.
That's it. The family is meant to be the principal place where a child gets their values and perceptions of life. If that's ignored then he or she will certainly learn it from the society or environment because a child will always learn.
The worrisome part is that the social environment is a funny and depraved one today. With all that's presented it will be hard for the child to tilt towards the right things. And before you know it, these narratives build.
Hmmm...
The sad truth and reality.
Hopefully parents can put in more effort to guiding their children, hopefully.
Yeah.
You don talk finish but seriously identity crisis is a thing of concern. I hope it doesn't get out of hands and for the plant I won't be surprised if people want to be identified as plants
Tohh...is a serious concern oo. It's silently getting out of hand and this is eating up like cancer.
Ahhh, seriously? 😄 Abeg make we no hear am oo.
Humm, so many questions begging for answer. And I must agree with you. Critically looking at it,it is deeper than what we see.
But the question again, in the name of what? Perhaps culture?, perhaps just a drift or even Perhaps, little dozens of it does not matter that later begin to matter.
Somebody mentioned that it is things we are exposed to while growing up.
But the big question again, is can we find our 360 degree turn around in such drift, can we look back from where we have fallen to pick up ourselves and return to the previous plan, the plan of nature.
But be it as it may, it seems difficult most times to return once that drift is done. Once the deed is done.
So my 2 Cents will be ,parents train up a child in the way he should grow so that when grown he wouldn't depart from it.
We should also not close our eyes to vices and ulterior moves our wards are making while growing up.
We should prep support them to grow into adult with sound mind devoid of odd people and moves.
Though most of these things happen while grown ,but mostly the influence comes from external influences and things they are exposed to.
I can go on and on but my spirit says no .
May our senses, nerves and intuition lead us right in our individual hones and houses.
You've said much and a lot that really resonates. I can't help but agree with these words.
The home and parents can do better. It's where the failure and issue could start from.
This is nice. You hit the nail bro👍
Thank you!
Hope the nail enter well sha 😄
Yes ooo
Oya na
Tanchu
😁😁
This is one topic that calls for concern.
Because we keep seeing people doing all sort of things on daily basis.
But personally, I think when it comes to gender, we have no choice to make. What ever happens later in life as a result of transgender is artificial and might likely have a future effect.
So I advise people stick to their initial being. You cannot battle with the lord
That’s a very good advice.
We are playing with what was divinely made and it’s interesting that we think our bodies are our own and we can do whatever we want with it.
That's true my brother
I’m a woman. 🫠
Ohh sorry ma'am
It’s fine.
Transgender.
The rate at which the male gender does so many things to turn to females in my country is so alarming.
At the same time, the rate at which a female tends to compete with the male gender over unnecessary things is getting too high
You’re welcome to the hangout!
Indeed, the rate is increasing by the day and it is even more concerning that rather than trying to help them, the society is finding ways to accept it.
Excatly, the society are now normalizing abnormalities .
It’s scary sha. It’s hard to even say the truth without being flagged as being judgy.
When it comes to Gender related issue then it's no option or choice. It's deeper than anyone getting to make a choice that this is the gender I want to be as long as you have found yourself to be created as a male or female and when it leads to such situation of choosing then it has turn to a case of sarcastipara la nsinto a.k.a disconjomiror
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Thief
I photocopy you 😂
Ahh! @oluwadrey come out of this body. 😟
I'm innocent and a changed person now😅
That’s what we have been hearing since time memorial. 😂
Changed with no constant change 😂 DROP IT
😂 he possessed me with great and mighty spirit
Ahh! Innocent Drey. 😂🫵🏾
At sight but not in act
I’m here oooo
Where’s my room🥱
😂 na you know the one weh you collect o
😂😂😂
Abeg wetin that last line mean😁
It means that it has become a sorry case 😁
Okay oooo professor of Vocabulary 😁😁😁
Title accepted with heart of honour 😂
Lolsss
Oh! For real! 😂
Yhannnn but grammatical and botanically it is that long one above
Okay, Ma. 😂
That’s just it o. Whatever that word means. 😅
It’s just like coming from a family, we don’t choose that and we also don’t choose the gender we come as. That’s all divine and it’s really grave when we think or feel there is a point we can get to and decide to change it.
Well, we are not understanding them because we are not in their shoes but it is obvious that that’s not the right order of things and we should pray and talk to anyone we get the opportunity to know of that things he or she can be anything they want genderly.
Seriously even without knowing what situation prompts their decision, it's still not right cos just as my people would say that "beheading is not the meds to headache" so transgender should definitely not be an option if there's indeed the fear of God in us.
That’s a very good point you have there. But sadly, the world is making it worse by creating avenues where people can improve or change to whoever they want to be.
They have sponsors sef
They do o.
That case will be longoo.
However, I don't know who will be the accuser and who will be the defender.
And last last the judge may get tired and discharge and acquit ijobandem
And when Idodem comes back with the case, the judge will vex and strike out the case and null it forever. 🙄
You are funny,
AI said nothing could be found .
Oya ,back to you
Aswearrr I'm lost 😂😂
And why will you be asking of my terminology from AI now 😂 AI can never know it lailai
Lolz you are too funny 😁 😂 😀 😄
But who gave the lead???
The same you.....
You better gerrrit right ✅️ 😤 😒
Lolz
😂 as if I knew already that it was a payback
You don't have forgiving spirit 😂
Greetings everyone 👋
I will be replying the first prompt question posed.
Naturally, once a child is born, the gender we see is the gender they are and grow up with. Now when a child ( male or female) decides to become something else, I believe it is a matter of choice.
The sad part is that this choice is sick and unhealthy and should be shunned greatly.
Firstly, it breaks the natural order or reproduction as stipulated by God.
Secondly, it exposes a darkness seated deep within the mind that seeks expression.
You can't literally "choose" who you are afterall, we were all born this way but to lose our identity and begin to be something we are not is just so weird.
Transitioning genders is something that our society should shun vehemently.
Be proud of who you are. Love you, believe in you and live for you.
I'm inviting @ozd, @luchyl, @rukkie, @ellizy, @patienceakoan, @faithwellington and @daverick to talk their own.
Make we seriously shun am oo.
This isn't something to be accepted. Yes, we should love and appreciate who we are.
Make I go drop my own...
Oya now....I dey wait 😁
You don see the small mouth I chook na 😁
Yes, I see am
I agree with you, I feel it's low self esteem that makes people transition because there's no way you love who you are and still want to look like someone else
Abi oo. It's even worse than low self esteem. It is an identity crisis.
Happy weekend ma
Yea, happy new week 🤗
Thank you
🤗
Well said, mama.
This is just mostly a problem of lack of love for oneself. If changing our gender is what makes us feel love, that’s a big problem and such people need our help and prayers.
Exactly ooo. They need serious help. They shouldn't be applauded rather they should be helped back on track.
Thanks dear👍
That’s right, mama.
You’re welcome, mama. Thank you for your beautiful contribution to the topic. 🥰
You're welcome
Our way of life depends on our choices nothing more deeper than that, it all goes to what we feed our mind and what we let it tell our heart which brings our choice. People choose who they are, I have seen kids brought up from a deep believer home and later turn out to opp of what the parents gave her/him,if not, I would have say maybe it's what parents give out to their kids.
Many children out there suffer from peer pressure mainly because they do not have mind of their own , they get confused easily, they question their choice every now and then ,so there is nothing to be surprised if seeing people wanting to change their gender , believing that a gender has more benefits or has less responsibility. I see it all breaks down to selfishness in their life which is why they think of what could benefit them more or act of not responsible,they don't want to be accountable for anything.
@empressjay @marsdave @afrikens @goldenproject
What do you think guys ?
It's true that family upbringing, environment and the like cannot be overlooked but still, one's life is a product of his or her choices. When you're to choose between two things, whichever you go for is nothing but your choice.
And when anyone thinks a certain gender has it all rosey compared to the other, such person is simply dwelling in a lie.
Yes ,my dear, it's all on choice the background just have little contributions but whatever you decide is utmost
Yes ooo
Even though it doesn't really sit well with me, I choose not to judge them.
You can never really tell the real force behind their decisions.
Personally, I always blame the parents for most things that a child turns out to become why? It might just be that one day when you said something so casually or overlooked something because the child is still young he or she won’t possibly take that because they are children and such a parent took it casually until later they realize how much that habit has eaten deep into their child.
Or the part that parents are even ever hardly around to discuss with their children. Or they always appear too righteous before them. All of these and many more can turn a good training void.
But yes, there is a possibility of these children still making wrong choices even after the good training and that is usually due to one factor some parents overlooked or couldn’t afford a better one and that is their environment (friends, teacher, classmates, church members, the games they play, the movies they watch the words they hear and so much).
As a child grows,a lot of factors affect the kind of person they would eventually turn out to be. It's up to the parents to continue giving them guidance and never stopping. There's a kind a child will receive and they'll just know that a certain lifestyle is not for them.
That’s right. Most parents start teaching their children late. They think taking them to the best schools is what will make them have sense automatically. And some stop guiding them because they assume they should know how to do things. I guess they forget that learning never ends until we die.
The reason why it was hard for me to change my beliefs are bcos my parents teaches us with a lot of strictness and discipline, my parents has different punishment for each actions right from early life and they also lead by example so then we know we can't do against this people we call our parents. Bcos they started training us early and didn't back down at any time, each mistakes comes with punishment,they never let any go without punishing you. That's why today, I think of consequences before I act.
Hmmm well you make a point ,I will take my sister has an example,anyone that sees how my sister handles her children now will wonder how come still they turn out bad like that but I as a family ,when I think it deeply , the still comes from her , she didn't introduced this discipline early to them, she thought they were to young to be disciplined ,now that she i now doing so, they are already matured with indiscipline. So, I can say your point are right too
Exactly!
When do you think it’s the right time to correcting our kids?
My pastor once said and I hold onto it since then that once a child is no more an infant, infant are (0-1year old) we must start correcting them, we must let them know if their actions are bad.
That’s fair enough but I have a different time to start correcting them. Right from the womb. Have you ever been close to a pregnant woman before me see how the child moves?
Anyways, it’s actually best to start the training right from the time you feel that precious life within you.
It all boils down to our thoughts and what we think of ourselves. If someone thinks life will be easier if they just become something out of the original,then it sad. People have to work more of finding who they are than investing the energy trying to be something they're not meant to be.
Yes. Exactly my point. They fail to identify who they are, so they are too carried away.
Peer pressure have a strong part to play here , as you rightly stated
I came late, hope you left a portion of jollof for me oo
Yes a lot of people lose or change their identity over time. This is common among people from Africa who finds the opportunity to japa and are able to land themselves an opportunity to stay in their destination country like indefinite leave to remain or green card.
Majority of such people especially when they have no old parents to care for in Africa, they tend to forget their root and take up their new identity
@rukkie @beckyroyal @ozd hope you marked register already?
And that's really sick. No matter how much you try to change your identity, it still wouldn't change who you are
Yes nah SEBI nah him make make dem dey bu- y then up and down
May God help those in this crisis.
Amin ooo
Awon eniyan shim
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first of all the human mind is the engine room that propels all of our actions and inactions, and we act depending on the content of the mind how do we feed our mind? by what we are expose to: our environment, friends, peer group, society family unit.....
while some society sees trangender as a diabolic thing some others welcome it with open arms all depends on our opinion
why would a person want to transfer from one gender to another?....
I still do not have the ultimate answer to that cause whatever I say do not change anything rather just my opinion...
in conclusion whatever we re depends on our society , peer pressure, friends, surroundings what we are expose to ...
come on
@jmis101 @beautyme @chi4god @nanawrites @abiye1
You’re right. There are so many factors that affects our choices as humans and what we expose our minds to is a major factor.
We can only keep sharing our opinions and hope that people see the light in it or they find the right way to go about things.
yeah very true, I totally agree with you on that, we hope that they do
Thank you. 😊
Yesooo, I like that word fa,
What we are exposed to.
Sometimes ,it starts with little practice of if I dress like this and show mum ,she laughs it off,
Gradually the pig will use back and enter the bush ..😆😆
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Bring your head here .
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I personally think that identity is a mix of both choice and influence also. Influences like upbringing and life's experience. Everyone has the choice to shape who they want to be over time. But ah, it's becoming too much already. I saw a video on instagram recently, where the girl was like she identifies as a cat so she has her friend taking care of her and treating her like a cat.
This last session in the university, I came across and saw a lot of femboys (boys that identify as girls) more than usual. The rate at which they are becoming more and more is really alarming.
@deraaa come and see. Identify as a cat ke.
I’m curious @kristabel123 what role do you think religion play in all this? Do you think modernization has conquered religion or it has always been like this irrespective of any relational background.
Parents have failed what would church do?it's all goes down to each home.
@chefqueen true, parents play a role but I don't even think they have that much say again. Social media and what people see outside influences them more than whatever their parents are teaching. Even people from very strict homes are doing these things
@sam.hangout 😂😂😂 exactly, identify as cat ke. For me, I think religion still has a say in all this because if you check, most religions don't support it at all. But modernisation and social media push people to explore things that normally we won't even think of. But I won't say that modernization has totally conquered religion because many people still hold on to their faith strongly. But the truth is, people carry more influence from what they see online than from what they hear in church or mosque sef. That's why all these things are becoming more common. We are just going to far with this identity matter.
You’re right. It is our choices and the influence of things and people on us that shapes us. Most times we think we are in charge of our choices, little do we know that someone or something somewhere is constantly making decisions for us.
“We be anything we want” is a phrase that gives us this liberty to do the unthinkable but it makes us feel good when we say it. We think by doing anything we want, we are in charge but it only means we have lose control of being in charge because we don’t know when and what to listen to anymore.
You've said it all 👏 👏 @hopestylist
🤲
Transgender; this is actually a deep dive, and i think this is going to be a many way thing, and that’s because a lot of people will be dropping in with different opinions and views on this…
Transgender; when it comes down to this, honestly I don’t think there’s any excuse that could make up for it. How good does it sound to hear that man completely changes himself to a woman. The question is why? What was he thinking when he made that decision…
Honestly, there could be a thousand reasons why such decision was made, it could be societal pressure, family pressure or mostly gender discrimination from early stage. Imagine drilling it into the ears of your young children that a particular gender is better than another, is that not you lighting a spark in their head. Not everyone can take that and sometimes it leaves a scar on the heart, which is why that is always the go to solution to prove yourself worthy, not knowing it’s a big mistake…
At the end of the day, it all boils down to the choice you make. Your choice determines how you are seen. At the end of the day, it’s all about you and what makes you happy, don’t be shy and choose who you are with a sound mind, don’t let the words of any get to you…
Peace out….
@samostically what you got on this?
I like that example of the parents saying it openly to the hearing of their children that they prefer a particular gender more than the other. Some children will want to be loved and choose to become the other gender.
While some will want to prove otherwise and be the other gender that is not preferred to prove a point. So many reasons we you’ve said.
Yes, it’s good to do what makes us happy but then, sometimes what makes us happy is bore out of a place of pain or ignorance.
Yes, I agree but at the end of the day, there should always be a figure to clear things up and that will only be better if no pressure is put on these souls...
Yeah. This is why I always blame the parents more because these children should be closer to them than anyone. If they hold on to any believe it is their parents to guide them in making better choices and if they don’t play their roles well, they leave them to struggle to get it right all by themselves and the chances are slim then.
Seeing people change to another gender wouldn't be surprising anymore, if can really see how people especially teenagers and young youth reason nowadays, they can do and undo. They are controlled by crowd ,they don't have mind of their own.
Exactly. If only the crowd knew the damage they doing to the innocent ones coming up…
Hopefully it’s gonna be better…
I hope it's better oo
And the it is really quite selfish to just think of ourselves alone not caring what our actions have on others. Those who are transgendered are more concern of what makes them feel good and that can also be due to many reasons which wasn’t properly handled in time.
The first time I heard about this transgender of a thing, I found it icky. But overtime after countless diggings and discussions with a certain friend of mine, my view on it changed.
A lot of factors attributes to that. Just like you said, a child who grew up to hear and see the parents favouring the opposite gender wouldn't think twice before transiting inorder to feel that love, care and attention he only got to be an audience to.
These are actually great points here brotherly
The seed we sow in the minds of the little ones will continue to grow and germinate. It now boils down to who is around to nurture it for them, uprooting the grass off from the real plant.
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Great to see Sam's Hangout #80! Love that Wittgenstein quote, really gets you thinking! 🐴👍
Thanks for dropping in...
happy weekend...
Happy weekend fellas…
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Welcome to this weekend’s hangout…
@samostically
My broooooooo
Welcome, Davoleeee 😝😂😂
Thank my man
Foxy!
Hey man!
You here today lol..
It's been a while we jammed here...
I have small free time today.😂
Heheh. It’s nice seeing you here, big man.
I am a small man oo.
Yen yen yen. 🙂↔️
It is me that is yen yen yen?😡😡😡
Ahh! Sorry. Sorry. It is me. 🧎♀️
Better o.🙂↔️
Yes, daddy. 🙂↕️
Foxy fox😍
I am in a meeting ..will join you guys later
Okay… you be good okay..
Okay foxy
Collect Jollof rice oo.
Hahaha
I can only perceive the aroma here oo😃
They are yet to start sharing 😍
Eiiiii! Big woman. At least you are sure there is something.
Hahaha ..you and big woman tag
This thing na stereotype oo😃😃
Hey, I carve for some rice 😋😆
Lolz..I am yet to see one oo😃
You will be calling someone out empty handed. Why can't you come with Pringles, hehe 😂
Come to my house. Rice is in my room
In your room? 🙄
Rice in ur room? Motigbo 😂😆
Abi small chocolate.
God of mercy.
Sha I'm back to lag
Thank God oo. How was the journey?
It was stressful o
Oh! Welcome baby 🥰
Happy weekend, Quduus. 🙂↔️
😂
Waittt, where’s this cominG from lol
From a place of peace. 😂
Hmmmmmm 😂
Hope, this is war lol
Better one. 🦦
I mean, the opposite of peace. 🙂↔️🏃♀️➡️
Heheh...
Vawulence
Eggzactly. 🤭
Qudus as how?😂😂
That’s his name naw. 🙂↔️🏃♀️➡️
I know na.😂
It is just funny.😂
Na trouble I Dey find. 😂🏃♀️➡️
That's his name na
It is funny that she called him that.
😂 I understand
You no tag me shey
This week’s topic is very deep. This will spike a lot of conversation…
Very deep! I learnt something about it this week and I wanted to know what y’all have to say about it.
Learning never ends. 😌
Yez oooo, you got it right
Hope the getist. 🙂↕️
Where are my dawgs???
@soma18 you better come here now…
Aww! It’s not only dawgs. It’s table mama. 🙂↕️
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Welcome y’all
Thank you, you one. 🦦
👀👀
Where is soma? 🥲
Ladies and gentlemen
It's the weekend....go and spend that money
Another one will come
Lol, my man. Welcome brother
Yes oo. Send that money to me , another will come 💃
Please send me your own. 🦦
Check your account. It's there
Which account? Send evidence of you sending it there.
No! I didn't send anything
I mean you already have the money in your account
Gimme money
Hahahah,just like that right,
Money go ,money come.
It is easier said than done.
Please show me the wayooo.
Just learning how to spend the money 💰 🤑 💸
Happy weekend my people 🥳🎉🎊
What's good ?
Happy weekend, mama.
I’m good and you?
I am good my own hopy 🥰
Yay! 🥰
Happy weekend ma
Same to you T baby ❤️
Thank you ma
Happy weekend guys!
Hmmm, this is a deep discussion and many things will be said. Lemme do and come fess...
Happy weekend, Daverick!
Go and come o. We are waiting for you. 😌
Waitist or Waiter?🤲😄
Waitist. 😂
I was busy oo...
But I'm back now, at this odd hour.
Lemme drop my point...
You’re welcome back!
I’ll check it out soon.
Alright, alright.
Alright. I’m ready now.
Okay 👌
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STOPHmmm what did I missed? Todays topic is deep o
You haven’t missed much!
Yes o.
Ehhh so my comment didn't go through since
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This morning rain no reach Una side?
The rain today was something else ooo
I couldn't go to church and my street too was flooded God understands 😊
Happy Sunday to you all.
I still dey church like this ..women meeting after church got me ...on God anyways ..
I learned to always put my hope on God in every situation
My rest of the day will mostly be spent here in the church with this unending women meeting
Women meeting… chai, Na till 10pm then 😂😂
Hahaha 😃😃😃
Food dey here shaa
Rice and chicken ...so no wahala
I trust u na
On a low key though 😌
Hahahah
Mummy G.O
Na me oo
Abi na hope you pray for us
Today Was Nice I had to go church and we learnt how to have a heart of forgiving it was a nice sermon
Omo....
Praise God I went to church today o. We were taught the Hands of God. So the hands of God delivers, saves, heals and many more.
This we were taught today.
@goldenproject @quduus1 @justfavour @afrikens @chefqueen hope you guys went too?
I feel filled today.after service I went to have ice-cream with the kids. Now we are back home
Hallelujah!!!! 🙌
That's so good to know and learning about the mighty works of God's mighty hands is indeed amazing. He works wonderfully beyond what we imagine
Please pass the ice cream here o, throat is dry
Amen.
The ice cream has melted
Chimmooooo! No wahala
We meeeuuvv
Enjoyment must kill a woman
Hallelujah praise God
Glory be to god
For the first time this year hehehe
Ah this year ke . No na
Yes now
That's not true bro.
I attended church this year plenty times
It's just this month
I went to church even though I was feeling severe headache and even up till now.
We were taught on ensuring that whatever department or work God appoint us to, we are actively functioning and not taking it with levity hands.
He has assign us to preach the gospel and we must never feel ashamed of doing that.
After service, we were given American Cola and Gala 🤸🤸 Me that I was feeling hunger before, I just gladly jumped at the great offer and closed the mouth of those shameless tapeworms before heading home.
@goldenproject @marsdave @empressjay @beckyroyal @ozd @princessbusayo @justola1
Come and share what you learnt in church of you went
Lolsss, the Lord is good oooo.
Cola and gala settled that matter😁😁
Aswearrr... That's one miracle on its own 😂
Yes ooo
Give us update,
I want to come and eat gala too 😩
😂 request for location with 5HBD pere
Sharp
Bribery on a Sunday
😂 Don't put net in my hands o abeg
Collect bribe with your full chest 💃🏾
Wow, that's a great one, and discipline and dedication will go a long way in helping us achieve this.
You shared the sermon with us, why don't you share the cola and gala.
Well, out sermon is a little bit similar. We were told that we are a representative of Christ wherever we go, and that it is a command/instruction that we must follow, go ye into the world and ......
Half of the gala is still here though
Well, that's your handwriting.
Am coming 🤣🚶
😂 my handwriting is not small or medium
Please invite me to your church next week
Happy Sunday Everyone 🎉♥️
I didn't go to church today.
I stayed indoor watching movies
@goldenproject @chefqueen @afrikens
Come and join us here.
Let me come and do deliverance section for you for just 15HBD 😄
Why didn't you go? You want to be like @goldenproject
You really enjoyed your Sunday, Favour
Watching movies without someone chilled drinks and Turkey laps
Winch man.... How did you know what she was eating and that she watched alone
Lol... forget that one
I usually go to church every Sunday ooo
Don't play
Oyaaaa Dracula going to church
Yes , I went to church today and today's service was awesome.
I learnt that we should still focus and put our faith on God who sent his son to die for us.
The Sunday is going well and I am planning to attend a Rotary meeting
Yeah 😁, happy Sunday to you
I go church oo...
Happy Sunday guys!
No church ooo as I be Muslim nah. Been sleeping all day
If there is anything that I dislike, it is transgender people. I always feel pain when I come across these transgender people on social media. It always makes me question myself: why all this act? Why are our guys transforming themselves into women? The holy made us understand that we are beautiful, which is why the transgender people go as far as endangering their lives just to transform to their preferred gender.
Seriously, I am still asking myself, how did you come this far? Many of our male gender have transformed themselvesto the female gender, and whenever I see them, I feel so bitter. What happened to those days when we appreciated the way we were created? I am against transgender. If it is within my power, I will stop it.
Conclusion: we are beautifully made; never you think less of yourself. Transgender is not the best option.
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